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GRANT a SMILE, GIVE a HUG, KEEP a FRIEND-International Friendship Day
Why Write About Friendship?
Why am I writing about something so known and common place when we first figured out to be a friend was in kindergarten? Where we naturally shared our toys, offered half of our sandwich, or, hugged a friend when their eyes were welling up with tears because he/she has just hurt his/her hand. You can call me a slow learner but ever since I learnt about friendships and what it means to be a friend, I thought friends were going to be there a lifetime, for me. Ohhhh yeahhh??? It couldn’t be furtherer from the truth, or, should I say my truth.
I found time (quantity), proximity and resources were the keys to friendship longevity. I never thought monetary resources would matter but it is true you can’t keep doing the same outing with your friend over and over. It’s just too boring. Friendships are about exploring your world.
…as funny as the people you meet who make you laugh and make you hope and realize that there is so much more to life when you are with them, that you forget how empty your life was before....— Unknown
On-Line and Off-Line Friendships
The net has made it so convenient and easy to connect with many different types of people and groups from all around the world to access or build up one’s hopes and dreams whether it is in the field of work or pleasure.
Face to face friendships allow us humans to experience more warm and instinctual connections. Face to face friendships tend to feel more nurturing; healing and expansive inwardly and externally. Face to face friendships enable us to practice and perfect skills through applying knowledge to grow heart and mind understandings. Not to forget the great hugs we give and receive.
Both on line and off-line friends increase our feelings of trust and safety in the world. The more trust and safety we experience, the more calmness or sense of peacefulness we feel surround s us and is a part of our lives.
Our friends can also be our horseshoes. By that I mean, our friends can unknowingly be some kind of magnet that brings us blessings that we never thought possible let alone probable, in our lifetime.
……friends are the family we chose for ourselves…..
Our on-line friends feel loved and included when they see how many likes or comments are left in response to their writings. Some people even get envious of their friends having time in the spotlight. But they must remember, like in life, there are checks and balances. Nothing lasts forever. Maybe the envious ones need to recalibrate and focus on how she or he can nurture themselves. Maybe they need to balance up their face to face friendships. Or, it could be a great time to get a pet. A pet dog would be the best. That way when he/she is out walking their dog every day, they step out into their community to get to know their neighbours. Therefore, your neighbours are proximity friends in the making. Remember friends were once too, strangers.
The net gives us the virtual experience of growing a World Soul (Anima Mundi) via our individual neuron inputs making all participants form an integrated Zeitgeist bubble. These connections fall at a cerebral level; and there is nothing wrong with that as for some people it provides a rich source of stimulation. But is it enough?
The net is great at allowing us to travel the world in Nano-seconds while we sit comfortably at our dining room tables singing along to R and B tracks out of key. Yes, the net saves some of us a 24-hour plane flight to our favourite fantasy hideaway.
…each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born……
How Do You Tell If You Have a Genuine Friend?
- They reciprocate. They are in touch to see how you are. You also go out together as a team to meet new people or join new groups.
- They have good will towards you
- They are kind and warm hearted towards you
- They tell you if you have spinach caught in your front teeth
- You agree to disagree and no one walks out
- You feel good in their presence
- They don’t put you down, betray you or trip you up to embarrass or snigger at you.
- You are able to share your high points of your life and you don’t have to worry about them getting badly jealous as they know they time will come for the high points.
Some people treat first time encounters as the start of a friendship and are willing to keep going until something negative or bad happens to the friendship. Others, are friendly towards you but that doesn’t mean they are necessarily your friend. These people just need much longer time to decide if they will be your friend or not.
…a good friend knows all your stories. A best friend helped you write them…
Here’s an Excuse to Reach Out and Make a New Friend
I think spending more time on, on-line connections, is making me more inward focused and possibly becoming less skilled at reading and relating to those in face to face situations. I think it would be far to say, it is having that effect on most of us, if not all of us. We need to alter that because we are social herd animals, not trans-humans. From my end, I would say, get outside in the fresh air and find an excuse to reach out to another person and make a new face to face friend. Don’t worry, I will give you an excuse to do so. It is International Friendship Day on the 30 July. How can you bridge race, colour and neighbourhood? Just sing out the word, friend.
aa m EE g oh
…..a friend is the one who comes in when the whole world has gone out…..
A friendship that lasts for me is based on
…to the world you may be one person but to one person you may be the world…
International Friendship Day began on the 30 July in 1958 by the World Friendship Crusade in Paraguay. This was to favour friendships; and bridge the gap of those wanting to separate the people by colour, religion, race, so that we could all feel we can trust and be trustworthy, so that peace can reign in our everyday world.
How to Nurture a New Friendship Today?
- Send a text, email, or make that long awaited Skype, phone call or visit
- Practice a random act of kindness
- Leave letters of encouragement at obscure places
- -Inside a book at a bookstore
- -On a church pew
- -On a bus seat
- -In a random mail box
- Give a smile to everyone that crosses your path
- Have a Friendship Day sleep over. Watch movies, eat yummy chocolates or have those gourmet take-outs you’ve been meaning to try.
- Give a Friendship bracelet that you have made yourself
- Play Secret Santa
And lastly, I want to leave you with this person’s version of what makes a good friend. Every person has different needs and expectations for what constitutes a good friend. If you didn’t know what a good friend was before, I hope you are a little clearer today. I hope you make a new and good friend today.
…..if you are alone, I’ll be your shadow
…..if you want to cry, I’ll be your shoulder
….if you want a hug, I’ll be your pillow
….if you need one to be happy, I’ll be your smile
….but anytime you need a friend, I’ll just be me
I think that’s the best part. Just be YOU. And all will be well.
Hugs to YOU
Peace to YOU
© 2017 ThreeKeys