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Lack of Communication will break your Relationship
How to save a relationship
Communication is defined as the interchanging of thoughts, opinion or information by speech, writing or signs within two or more people, animals or even computers. Every single day, we all go through various communication processes in our homes, offices, malls etc. Effective communication among friends, lovers, sibling is essential and a little gap in communication could break or mend a relationship of several years.
A short story of a couple in a relationship, Diana and Kelvin have had a great friendship
Diana missed two calls from Kelvin and suddenly picked the third one.
“Hello Diana where are you”
I left my phone in the room, I am in the kitchen replied Diana, at the other side of the phone
“Diana what are you doing that you would not pick my call”
Diana replied, you know what I am tired of all these interrogation every time I miss your calls. I just told you that I was in the kitchen.
And suddenly, there is a serious argument among both of them. This sort of argument continued every time Diana misses Kelvin calls. However, Diana became more defensive after several arguments.
Diana told Kelvin one day that this issue is breaking their relationship and she does not appreciate it. She said her dad was a real authority figure, Diana continued, everything has to be so. I realized that whenever you criticized me over the phone, it felt just like my dad coming down on me. It triggered that fear reaction and brought out the rebel in me. Every time you question me, I felt like you were insecure because I always wanted a man to trust me. Diana continued, I would appreciate if you don’t have to question me once I miss your call. it shows that I was not there to pick and when I picked I would explain the reason without a fight.
I don’t mean any harm to question you Diana, it just shows how much I care, I appreciate that you told me this, said Kelvin.
Some relationship with shaky foundations can be improved. After an honest discussion about the past, some couples do find it in their hearts to forgive and love each other again. We are all imperfect, we will sometimes hurt the one we love but the word “sorry” could make a difference, so be quick to say it.
Most couple never give themselves the opportunity to explain a situation without a fight, some assumed and rain insults on the other. If you are wronged, give the other person a benefit of doubt to come up with their excuse for the situation without just assuming and blowing up. With these, you might see it in a way, you never initially saw it. My advice is to listen to the other party before taking an action.