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Gay Dating Site - What To Say In Your First Message?

Updated on October 5, 2010

What is your main purpose of logging on to a dating site? Most individuals who love to visit dating sites want to meet new other people who share the same likes and interests. Once you are already there, it is important to catch the attention of other members in order to gain their interest. How are you going to do this? What would be the best message to say for you to be noticed?

Just like any other dating site, gay dating’s main purpose is to meet someone who would like to spend time with you. First thing that you should do is to post an eyecatching picture and create interesting personal ad on the gay dating site. Then the next and probably the most important phase is to make a good impression through your first message! How can these be done? There are steps that you must do in order to avoid sending an awkward first message.

  • Before writing the first gay dating message, organize your thoughts first! Dig your mind for appropriate words that will reveal your personal side that you want him to see first.
  • Be in the shoes of the person you are sending the message to. If you think that you will like how it has been written, then that is the perfect message to send.
  • Pay attention to the details of your message by carefully checking the spelling and grammar. Sending a message with a lot of errors will definitely reflect on your personality. Besides that, this has been a major turn off!
  • Avoid sending one liner pick up lines that has already been commonly used. Be unique and exceptional!
  • Everybody will agree that humor absolutely catches attention of most people. However, you have to be careful so as not to overdo it. A funny line will make you stand out. Just be sure that it is really funny.
  • Never write the same first message to all your gay dating chat mates! What worked for one may not work for the other! Always personalize your messages because the person you have sent this to will feel that it came from your heart.
  • It may be helpful to read the personal ad of the person you are chatting with at the gay dating site and later on you can mention this. By doing so, the person will have an impression that you are really interested in him.

If there are guidelines in writing an effective first message, there are also things that you must not say on your first gay dating message.

  • Never start your message with sex topics because this may be vulgar, rude and may be offensive to the other person. Although, there are people who log on to the gay dating site because they are really interested in just a casual sex relationship, you still have to open the conversation with a more wholesome message.
  • As mentioned earlier, it is good to start with a unique and exceptional message and not with a common one liner pick up line but do not write a novel. This will bore the other person and will not want to talk to you anymore. Remember that communication is a two way process and doing all the talking is not helpful.
  • Asking for phone number and address on the first message is totally out of your depth. This will scare the other person and you might end up losing a possible date. It will be better to take things slowly and starting by learning more about each other.
  • Starting the conversation with a previous relationship is not appropriate because this will make you look like a bitter individual who is on the rebound.
  • Do not start by saying that you do not like gay dating and other online dating. What are you doing there in the first place! This open message will never catch the attention of other men.

You have already figured out the best thing to say on the first gay dating message but there is still one last matter that must be taken into account! What website will you log on to? Find the site that will help you find the right person to date so that you will have a memorable and enjoyable experience. By doing this, you can be sure that you will not meet other guys who are just using the site for other fraudulent activities because the members of a good online gay dating site are being screened to make sure that their purpose is mainly gay dating. Apart from this, you can be sure that your information at is secured. What are you waiting for?! Check out the best online gay dating site and experience gay dating at its best!


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      callum rogers 

      2 years ago

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      Nischal Gurung 

      4 years ago from Muscat, Oman

      This one is good... I need this so much.. u knw... I run out of words when im in a chatroom and dunno how to start a chat so maybe this will probably help.. thanks man

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      6 years ago

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      10 years ago

      Great article and great help!! Hope to see more post from you about gay dating...

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      10 years ago

      Great advice.

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      10 years ago

      Good video and really great advice. Again, can use this for any online dating experience.


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