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Being Gay Children: How To Deal With It; Parents How To Deal If Your Child Is Gay Or A Lesbian
Don't Hate Me Because I'm Different
Imagine this scenario: you let your daughter sleep over at friend’s house because they are going to the movies later. You are at the same mall doing a bit of shopping when you spot your daughter walking with her friend. Not only are they holding hands as most girl friends do, but there they are standing in public, kissing.
Or perhaps you have a son that has always been a little different. Not only does he prefer more feminine routines (and I am not implying that all men who are a bit feminine are gay), but he prefers to spend all of his time with other guys instead of girls. One day your son tells you that he has something to tell you. “Mom, I’m gay.”
I know for most parents, this is a shock. To some, it is a total disgrace. You may even feel that somewhere in the bringing up of your child that you have failed. I am not a parent and cannot begin to understand how a parent would feel about this. But I am a friend of many gay, lesbian, transsexual and bi sexual people and I think it’s about time that people come to terms with this issue.
Now some people think that this is disgusting or perhaps even despicable. Or the most common one: it is unnatural. But what some parents fail to realize is that this is not a game. For some, it may be an experiment to see if they are really different or just curious about the same sex. For others, it is as natural as the circle of life. Just because someone is different, it does not make them non human. Every person has feelings and should be treated like everyone else.
There have been many suicides of teenagers because parents do not understand why their child is different. Some parents even threaten their children or abuse them because the children are gay. This is unacceptable. It is your child’s decision whether or not they are gay. A parent should love their child unconditionally. Just because your child is gay, doesn’t mean they aren’t the same child you raised, or taught how to make sandcastles on the beach.
Don't shout at your child or make them feel inferior. You wouldn't like it if you were in your child's position and someone else told you bad things. Talk things through with them instead. Try to understand that they have questions that need answering or that they simply need a friend who will listen and not judge them. It's no use fighting about the issue as this will make things tense and worse than ever before. It may be a phase or it may be permanent. Either way, support your child and let them know that you are always there for them no matter what.
I urge each parent to support their children because if tomorrow never comes, will you be able to say that you were always there when your child needed you the most?