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Now this one is tricky to explain you see we have all been a little jealous in this life there is no one who can say that they have not been, because sometimes with out realizing we can be jealous. Take school for example, you may have been jealous because:
·You have failed an exam and your friend passed
·Your friend may have a new animal and you have none
·They are more popular than you
Believe me the list of reasons for jealousy at school is endless and would probably take years to write so these three should be near enough.
Now we are talking about being gay so jealousy in our side is quite common it can be either little things or big things usually its youth that people are jealous of in my opinion. for example:
·Your friends might be jealous of you because you get all the good looking guys/girls and they don’t.
·An older gay man/ woman has been nasty to you and you don’t know why
·Your looking at the expensive clothes a friend is wearing and yours is not as nice as theirs.
·You fancy your friends partner and they don’t fancy you.
There are hundreds of these but the ones mentioned are quite common, the last point about your friends partner is usually the main reason not just in the gay scene but in the straight scene also. You are not the first one to fall in to jealousy`s little trap and nor will you be the last but what you have to do is avoid being jealous as it can damage and destroy your friendship with someone and I know you don’t want that, do you?
If the last point is similar or maybe the exact reason then my guide to you is this, your friend and you have been friends maybe a long time or short time and this friendship is more important than a quick 123 with their partner so you have to be strong if you want to get through. Now this has happened to me before, I would be a liar if I said otherwise you don’t fancy them at all its lust nothing more and nothing less so talk to your friend and their partner but sit next to your friend and not their partner have a drink and a chat, keep calm don’t even think about what your feeling try to listen and keep to the conversation but don’t stay too long and don’t leave without saying goodbye so as they will not suspect anything.
Keep that up and your feelings toward this person shall be easier to hide and contain rather than blatantly obvious if you don’t do this, this is only what I did it might not work for you but there is no harm in trying. Good Luck!