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Gay Marriage: Why Are We Freaking Out?

Updated on July 3, 2015

Gay Marriage Legal in U.S. 2015

Here lately I can't even scroll through my Facebook news feed without being bombarded by something related to the recent legalization of gay marriage in the Unites States. Why is everyone so concerned with this? I get why homosexuals are excited and posting about it, they finally get the right to become married. What I don't understand is why there is all of the hate about it. I'm not just talking about people who are against gay marriage. I'm talking about how intense everyone is getting about this issue. Though I don't agree that gay marriage is a good thing, I am not going to become hostile towards gay people or anyone else who is for gay marriage. It honestly does not concern me all that much because I am not gay. Yes I have gay friends, but these new rights do not impose upon my rights as a straight person. No one is saying that gay marriage replaces traditional marriage. If this new legalization of gay marriage is not changing anyone else's rights then why is everyone upset about it?


Why the Hate?

People are upset because they do not want to mind their own business. That's the conclusion I've come to at this point. Instead of worrying about their own life, the haters decide that focusing on other people and being hurtful towards others will make them feel better about something they disagree about. Sometimes it is best to understand that just because you disagree with something does not mean that everyone else will. Becoming hostile and verbally attacking people, or holding up hurtful signs is not the way to handle your frustration. Actually, that behavior is quite childish. Instead, maybe take the time to calm down before posting or talking with someone about a hot button issue.

Who are the Haters?

Believe it or not it is not just Christian, conservative, straight people who are the haters in this situation. I've come across a few gay people online who maliciously defended their viewpoints without thinking why other people believe as they do. I've even seen poor Christians simply trying to share their perspective only to have someone on the other side attack them with no remorse. Of course there are those Christian conservatives who bully homosexuals and have nothing but rude things to say regarding the situation. Sadly enough, I doubt this will change any time soon. Both sides of the conversation have plenty of haters and people who say hateful things.


Why all the Hypocrisy?

Many people who say they do not believe in homosexuality as being a good thing state that they believe this way because of their religious beliefs. This is all fine and dandy until you start the hate. If it's because of Christianity that you hate gays, there are a few problems with that argument, number one being that Christians are supposed to "love one another" as Jesus did. Many of the conversations I've seen online regarding this topic did not seem like these people were loving each other or being kind in any way. Hating gay people is definitely not loving everyone. More than likely the religion card is just an excuse to validate personal beliefs and hate towards others.

Old Testament vs. New Testament

So what does the Bible actually say about homosexuality? I'm willing to bet that almost half of the people out their who have a strong belief about gay marriage have not even looked at the Bible in regards to this matter. They either listen to what everyone else says or just use it as an excuse. Leviticus chapter 18 actually reveals many things about rules concerning sexual relations. This includes bestiality, incest, homosexuality and other various sins. It states, "You must not have sexual relations with a man as you would a woman. That is a hateful sin." Here it is. Stated plain and simple. Many people try to make the argument that since this was something in the Old Testament, it is no longer valid. Well, take a look at this in Romans chapter 1 verses 26-27, "Because people did those things, God left them and let them do the shameful things they wanted to do. Women stopped having natural sex and started having sex with other women. In the same way, men stopped having natural sex and began wanting each other. Men did shameful things with other men, and in their bodies they received the punishment for those wrongs." By the way, if you didn't already know, Romans is a book in the New Testament. So, yeah, it's still considered a sin even later on in history according to the Bible. While homosexuality is listed as a sin, so are many many other things as well. Why is our society obsessed with concentrating on the gays? I don't have an answer to that question. However, I do know that divorce, abortion, adultery, lying, stealing, murder among thousands of other things are sins as well, according to the Bible. There should not be an emphasis on homosexuality. There should be an emphasis on helping people to become followers of Christ instead of judging them. Judgment is for God alone to decide. For some reason we as humans think that we can play God and decide who is going to Hell.

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Freedom of Religion

Here's the thing though. Not everyone is a Christian. Not everyone believes in the Bible or God. How can I expect someone to believe that homosexuality is wrong when they don't even believe in the Bible? My first concern as a Christian shouldn't be to point out the sin and condemn them to Hell. Jesus didn't do that. It should be to get to know them and share my beliefs in a non intrusive, non-pushy kind of way. Preaching to someone who isn't willing to listen is not going to help them at all. If anything, it will probably make them angry and more defensive about their current beliefs.

First and foremost, the people here in America need to realize that this nation was built on "Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness." Liberty. In other words freedom. Freedom to say what you want to say, to write what you want to write and believe in whatever you want to believe in. Isn't this the great thing about America? So why are we trying to take that from people? Yes, Christians are called to make other Christians. But that does not mean they should coerce, condemn and harass people about it. Everyone has a right to believe in what they want to.


Voicing Your Beliefs

With all of that said, it is not wrong to state your opinion on this matter or to have conversations and debates with people about it. Actually, this is a healthy thing to do. Debates are wonderful as long as they stay civil and there isn't any name-calling or other such nonsense. Just remember that the person you are talking to has feelings too. Even though you may not agree with what they have to say, they have the right to their own opinion and you should try to respect that. I usually avoid debates with people because of how upset and offended they can get at something that is simply my opinion and is not mean or hateful. When the conversation takes that direction I usually gracefully exit after explaining that I meant them no disrespect. If things are getting too heated in your debates then you always have the option to not participate in them.


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      Howard Schneider 2 years ago from Parsippany, New Jersey

      Excellent Hub, Stephanie. People, of course, are free to feel as they wish on this subject especially in regards to their religion. But governments must operate under the equal protection clause of the 14th Amendment. Therefore the Supreme Court ruled that Same Sex Marriage is constitutional. I totally agree with them and it is the only fair thing to do. It also hurts no one else except maybe their sensibilities.

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      Xhyniie 2 years ago

      I always believe that everyone deserves an equal treatment and have rights/freedom to choose what they want to be. Though some consider it a sin but we should be kind to them. A friend had said to me that, "Please do not use the bible to judge other people."