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General Acceptance of Homosexuality Causes End of Civilized Culture
To Accept or To Reject... is That the Question?
I've been engaged in an interesting debate with one of my facebook friends. His status line stated:
"Not just homosexuality but the GENERAL ACCEPTANCE of homosexuality is one of the final indicators of the end of a culture or state."
My initial reaction when I read that statement was kind of a "WTF!?" reaction. How can acceptance of others lead to the demise of a civilization. Of course, I had to challenge his thinking... cuz that's what I do ... I was curious what his definition of "acceptance" is. Does that mean acceptance of people who are homosexual? It may just be my issue, but I don't understand how you can accept a person but reject who he is... ???
My friend explained that you can accept and even love a homosexual, but not accept his or her lifestyle as being okay. Again, I am confused. If we were to flip this over... imagine that homosexuals make up the majority in society and heterosexuals are in the minority. So I am a heterosexual woman and I fall in love with a man. Since the laws do not permit me to "marry" him, we live together in "sin". My homosexual mother loves and accepts me, but cannot accept my lifestyle as being okay. So this part of my life - this very big part of who I am is unacceptable to her. I wonder how she would communicate that to me? I wonder if as I was growing up, if I would have felt loved and accepted by her knowing that she hates the way I am.
I don't know for certain if everyone is like me, but my sexual orientation was not a choice. I know that I did not decide one day that I would be attracted to boys. I just was. I cannot imagine choosing to be sexually attracted to girls... I just wasn't. Of course I had the choice whether to act on my heterosexual feelings or not. Anyone can choose to be celebate. Very few make that choice, and those who do, usually do for religious reasons. So in my example above, my mother may believe that she rejecting my lifestyle CHOICE, but in reality she would be rejecting who I am, and I would likely have been aware of her hate long before I engaged in any sexual "lifestyle".
Does acceptance have to mean embracing or encouraging? To my heterosexual friends I ask, did you need your sexual attraction to others to be accepted, embraced or encouraged by society? I suspect that there are activities occurring in the bedrooms of adults that would not be acceptable to me. If I find something unacceptable I just refrain from engaging in it, but I do not expect other adults to hold or live by my standards. To do so would be absurd.
Loss of values, morality, integrity and purpose
My Facebook friend states that he is concerned that society's general acceptance of homosexuality as a lifestyle is leading to a loss of values, morality and integrity and "perhaps even purpose". He fears that because a majority of people are more accepting than in the past, that some teachers will teach little children that homosexuality is an acceptable alternative lifestyle.
Well, here in Canada, our children do get this kind of education. Not only in school, but it has even been seen in children's programming on television. Such programs (Sesame Street was one) teach children that family composition can take many forms. There are children being raised by single parents, by gay parents, by grandparents. There was a popular sitcom as well entitled "My Two Dads". Teaching children to value others and to respect differences is not a bad thing. How can it be?
There are certainly those groups in Canada who share my Facebook friend's concerns and fears.
In some schools children have been read stories promoting tolerance. Those stories have included stories about children with same sex parents. Perhaps my friend is afraid that such stories are used as a means for "recruiting" children into the homosexual lifestyle, but I submit that they are used as a means of teaching acceptance and tolerance of others. I personally have no problem with my children understanding sexual orientation, and no fear of them being "swayed" one way or the other. Their biology will take care of that.
Out of curiosity I asked my children (9 and 11 years old) if they think that same sex couples should be allowed to marry. Without hesitation they both said "yes". When I asked them if the same sex couple should be allowed to adopt children, I was a little surprised when they both said "no". Each had one reason:
- that kids should have both a mom and a dad.
- that the kids would get teased
I am sure the first reason (the 9 year old's) is based on her inability to imagine her life without one or the other of her parents. The 11 year old's reason (#2), tells me that we still have a way to go in teaching children acceptance and tolerance. While each child had their own reason, they each agreed with the other's as well.
Interestingly, there was an article in last week's Macleans magazine where it was reported that in Canada fewer teenagers are engaging in pre-marital sex or doing drugs. According to these statistics, it would appear that our young people have higher moral standards than previous generations. This is truly no surprise to those of us who believe that education is key. The increased communication and education, which has resulted in the increased acceptance of homosexuals and basic human rights, is paying off, and in ways quite contrary to the fears presented by my Facebook friend.