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Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back: Guidelines
What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back?
Do you feel like whatever you do, you seem to just keep pushing your ex boyfriend farther away? Do you find yourself thinking "What else can I do to get him back" and found yourself even turning to the internet for guidance? Nothing is foolproof because relationships are always decided by two people; no one can force or trick another person into coming into and staying in a relationship, but here is a tip that will greatly improve your chances of getting back together with your ex boyfriend from a guys point of view.
If you've found this article, then you're obviously serious about rekindling your relationship with whomever it may be. But if you want him back too badly, or are too anxious and impatient to work on it, then you may be approaching him the wrong way, causing him to pull away naturally. It is human nature to pull away when a guy feels like they're being pressured into doing something. Not all of them, but definitely a lot. Forcing someone to change their feelings against this nature is pointless and a waste of time, it will only make matters worse (as you may have already noticed).
Take a step back real quick and review what you have been doing. Do you find yourself calling your ex too much? Do you constantly write e-mails or try to text message him? When you talk to him, are you trying to make him feel sorry for you? If you are doing these things, then stop right now! These aren't going to help your situation.
Since you're here you must be thinking, so what can I do to get my ex boyfriend back? Tell me already! Well to start off, forget your old habits, and follow this strategy instead.
" . . . try breaking contact with him for a while . . . "
First of all, you are going to need to change up your approach. This will probably be the hardest thing for you to do but you really must try breaking contact with him for a while. Be independent and do your own thing. During this time where there is no communication going on between you and your ex boyfriend, you should focus on how to improve your own personal life. This will be a challenging time, but is extremely important if you want to change your old ways and win him back.
During this time, because you're not pursuing him anymore, your ex is likely going to experience a shift in how he feels about you as well. You may become mysterious to him in some ways, making him wonder about you because he is not sure what you are doing or feeling. This is exactly what you want and is something that you can use to work in your favor. Your ex now has a chance to actually miss you, which is not possible when you keep smothering him (If you want a tip to finding if he likes you again or not, read this article to see how you can find out).
Of everything I have just said, the main point you should walk away with from this article is:
work with human nature and not against it.
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If you were wondering "What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back," now you have a pretty good understanding of how human nature works and how to use it to your advantage. Once you implement this basic strategy you can restore balance and help your ex to remember why he loved you in the first place.
So in summary, focus on working on yourself personally and avoid smothering him. By giving him space you will make yourself mysterious and he will be reminded why he loved you in the first place. Play hard to get (not ridiculously hard to get of course) and let him to make the first move. If and when he does, you will be the one on top. So stop asking yourself "what can I do to get my ex boyfriend back" and put this guideline into practice.
Now the next logical step is to contact your ex boyfriend and get him to return your calls.
Click here to learn 'how to' and 'what to' say to your ex boyfriend to get him to return your call and even agree to see you in person.
If you have any other tips that I may not have covered, give a shout out in the comments.