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Text Messaging Etiquette - How to Text Your Friends Back When You Respond

Updated on October 28, 2012

Texts Getting Ignored?

Have you been texting friends and receiving little to no response? If so, there are several likely reasons why they have not responded.

  • They don't text - They may not have a texting plan or text at all. Some people do not have X amount of texts they can send a month and get charged upwards of a dollar per text on some plans. Others simply do not like to communicate through texting. They may believe it is a waste of time, money, too difficult to do, or a poor medium in which to conversate. 
  • Spam -  You send "friendly text" like a deadly assault of LOOK AT ME! Constant and frequent texts saying "Hey you", "What's up", "Hows Life", "I'm Bored"  get extremely tiresome to receive on the recipents end. Don't send mass text messages to everyone in your inbox. Make each message personal.
  • Busy - Believe it or not some of your friends may actually have a life. A life that does not revolve around constant banter through texting. These friends failure to respond to your text is not personal but simply a result of their lifestyle. Personally I often find myself reading texts when I am in the company of friends but usually not responding. When someone finds them self in a social setting it is preferable to have actual face to face interaction as opposed to a digital one. I simply do not have the time to carry a conversation via text when I am working or socializing.
  • One Word Text - When the text you send is short like "DREW!", "Hi", '"Sup", "Hello", it gives the recipient little to work off to respond resulting in no response. If they do respond it is usually in an echo, say someone named Jessica sends me the text "DREW!" I may respond "JESSICA!". From experience this usually results in a typical "What's up" as a follow up to my response. These texts should be avoided because many see your attempt at communication as a result of your own boredom.
  • Never received your text - Though this is uncommon, there are times when text messages do make it to their intended target. 
  • Double Text - There is nothing more annoying than someone resending you the text they just sent you because you had not replied. One text is sufficient.
  • Middle School Girl Texter- Are you the friend that always abbreviates when possible, even making up your own abbreviations? Text like ADAD (Another day, another dollar) cause confusion. Avoid using AIM abbreviations like imy (I miss you) and actually take the time to write out your sentences.
  • "Accidental" Text" - Do not intentionally sent someone a miss text in order to get their attention. Sometimes people try this with a crush to make them jealous, don't be one of these people. 

Get Your Texts Responded Every time!

Purpose - If you want people to respond to what you have to say, actually have something to say.

Be Personable - People prefer personal texts. Personal texts also eliminate the text as being one in someones campaign to kill time. Where someone sends a generic text to everyone in their phone book like "what's up". It is ok to use "what's up insert name here", but it is better to have a purpose.

Interests- Everyone has different interests and friends usually share in at least one common interest. So don't send a text about how great fantasy football is if they don't even watch football. Use your common interest to start a conversation through texting. For instance I have a friend I text when I hear a new Hip Hop song by a favorite artist of ours Drake.

Ask about them- Show concern and interest in your friends personal life. If you have a friend that is a lifeguard. Send something like "Hey insert name here, save any lifes lately?"


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      Jacob 3 years ago

      Thank you this article. I found this informative. I had no idea how annoying repeat texts can be... I won't do it anymore.

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      Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina

      Texting's a necessary evil for me. I prefer not to but since so many people are opposed to the phone call, I have to. I try to keep it short so I don't get an essay response which is why I think your tips are good- stick to the purpose and be personal. Great hub!

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      Teni 5 years ago

      I would like to text Ohemaa and Desire and Towbe frorm Temi.

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      estephania 5 years ago

      text you

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      nodrama27 5 years ago


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      Alleena 5 years ago

      Can you text me in the night.

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      Drew Breezzy 6 years ago from somewhere in my mind

      @gvane84 I agree. A phone call every now and then is refreshing!

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      Drew Breezzy 6 years ago from somewhere in my mind

      @Giselle Maine thank you. Yes it was an issue I had at the time and I thought I would inform the world!

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      Drew Breezzy 6 years ago from somewhere in my mind

      @wordnerd thanks! Yes those double texts are sooooo annoying.

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      GVane84 6 years ago from Orlando- Florida

      I believe that I been texting more than talking which is sad for me since I love to talk but my friends found it more easy to get in contact with me throught text messages. I don't have nothing againts texts but a phone call once in a while is never going to hurt you.

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      Giselle Maine 7 years ago

      Awesome topic!! I'm so glad you thought of this one because it's not something that gets mentioned a lot in conversation... but it probably should be! I like all the helpful upfront advice in this hub.

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      wordnerd 7 years ago

      haha thank you! i hate when people double text me or don't get that i don't want2 text them! however i think i am guilty of being a middle school girl texter...

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      Drew Breezzy 8 years ago from somewhere in my mind

      Haha right on!

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      Beautyisintheword 8 years ago from New Mexico

      This is awesome info, I'm going to forward this on to a friend, maybe they'll get the hint.

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      text messages 8 years ago

      cool thanks

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      Drew Breezzy 8 years ago from somewhere in my mind

      Cool, World of Wise hope it works for you.

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      world of the wise 8 years ago from World of the wise

      its time for me to send a msg, am gona follow ur advice

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      Elena 8 years ago from London, UK

      Cool Hub. Thanks for sharing. Ps. I laughed so much after reading the second quotation on your profile. So funny and sadly, so true. Lol.

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      4ever Mo 8 years ago

      This is really eye opening Breezzy,great tips 4 communication. Kudos!

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      AsherKade 8 years ago from Texas

      this is good advice when it comes to any sort of communication....