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Getting Over a Breakup the Right Way

Updated on September 12, 2019

If there is one hardest thing to do after a breakup, it is to let go of your feelings as well as emotions and move on. That is the reason why many people have ended up going back to a relationship that failed, despite having been brutally wounded and heartbroken. They have done so regardless of the anger, distrust, sadness and agony that accompanied the breakup. And it is totally understandable because they were simply driven by feelings of desperation and hopelessness rather than what their hearts truly desired.



Never go back to a toxic relationship that caused you overwhelming pain no matter how difficult you are finding it to move on. Underline the word “toxic”. After all, if that person wounded your feelings and emotions once, there is a good chance that they will do it again.


How to Cope with a Recent Divorce


Many people who have been through a recent divorce have a hard time adjusting to their new marital status. Some resort to withdrawing from friends, family and their social life in general, staying inside for weeks. Others turn to alcohol or drugs, putting their well-being and life in general in jeopardy!

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ll these are negative ways to cope with a recent divorce. The best ways to deal with it is to:


  • Speak up and share your pain with family and TRUE friends. Confiding in people that care about you releases your emotions and helps you move on faster. Even if you are a man, feel free to shed tears no matter who is starring at you. The bottom line is to avoid holding back the emotions. Otherwise, doing so only puts you into an emotional burden. It does not make you strong as you think.
  • Do not get rid of the reminders of your ex husband or ex wife yet. Just like addiction, divorce recovery is a gradual process. It is one that will eventually lead you to emotional freedom over time as opposed to suddenly. Contrary to what you think, destroying photos and items of your ex husband or ex wife immediately only makes you miss them more and hurt more. Let those items remind you of the good memories with him or her even as you embark on a long journey to recovery from divorce. You can destroy those once you heal and probably start going out on dates.




  • Of all the important tips on divorce recovery, seeking professional help is the most important. A professional who is trained in this area is going to help you see the divorce from a positive perspective. You are going to realize that no matter how painful it feels, that is the only thing that had to happen to get you out of the toxic marriage. Eventually, you are going to learn how to value your singleness and be content with it.


Get Professional Help to Get Over Your Breakup Today

A professional psychological therapist can help you get over your breakup fast so that you do not have to go back to the unhealthy relationship due to feelings of emptiness, desperation or hopelessness. Afterwards, you will be able to;

  • Recover from anger, sadness, emptiness, hopelessness and even distrust.
  • Learn how to value your singleness, especially if you are not ready for a new relationship yet.
  • Attract a caring individual who will complete your world.
  • Create a new, healthy dating relationship.
  • Set the pace in the new relationship.
  • Develop the confidence you need to be able to meet your true soul mate.

By Errole

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    • dashingscorpio profile image

      dashingscorpio 

      19 months ago from Chicago

      "If there is one hardest thing to do after a breakup, it is to let go of your feelings as well as emotions and move on." - Very true!

      In all honesty the problem most of the time is many people actually do NOT want to let go and move on.

      They want the "happily ever after fairytale" and a failed relationship or divorce is a harsh slap in the face.

      What they truly want is a magical reconciliation whereby things can be worked out. This is especially true of any long-term relationship or marriage. Most great love stories are about reuniting in romance novels and movies.

      Some folks dread the idea of starting over, meeting (new people), going out on dates, going through the whole "getting to know you phase". Some people HATE dating period!

      Others adopt the philosophy of "better to deal with the devil you know." They simply don't want to expend the effort and risk finding someone who may be even worse for them than their ex.

      Last but not least some people believe their ex is their "soulmate".

      In order for your (ex) to have been "the one" (he/she) would have had to see (you) as being "the one". At the very least a "soulmate" is someone who actually wants to be with you! (And vice versa)

      The world may not owe you anything but you owe yourself the world! Do your best to have the best. Love yourself!

      Every ending is a new beginning!

      "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary,"

      - Oscar Wilde

    • Errolle Ouma profile imageAUTHOR

      Errolle Ouma 

      19 months ago

      Indeed Welford, I hope it helps

    • John Welford profile image

      John Welford 

      19 months ago from Barlestone, Leicestershire

      That looks like good advice to me.

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