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Getting Over a Divorce and Moving On

Updated on September 7, 2016

Your family wants to make sure that you are fine and offer to be there every step of the way. Your friends understand this can be a challenge and want to help by distracting you. Lawyers need your attention with all the details, and the courts will have set up times that you and your partner need to be present to go over certain proceedings. When you have children, they will have questions and concerns that need your attention. It really doesn’t matter how long the entire divorce process takes, there will always be someone or something that requires your time.

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During the final weeks of the divorce process, you will be meeting with your attorney and signing papers in preparation for that last trip to the courthouse. The day of the divorce will come and go as one big blur, and all that anticipation about being single and free will hit you like a ton of bricks. Family and friends will offer their support in those first few days after the divorce is dissolved, and as more time passes less attention will be made of the subject.

The lawyer will no longer need your help with anything and will stop calling you. Friends and family will give you space, expecting you to start picking up those pieces of your life so you can start over again. This is when those feelings of being alone really hit hard. Regardless of what went wrong in the marriage, you always had someone in the house at night. There was always someone to talk to in the house before and after work each day.

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Depending how long you were married, this might be the first time that you have really been on your own in quite some time. You understand that family and friends are only a phone call away, but they can not possibly fill the void that has suddenly consumed you. As more time passes and the reality of being on your own sets in, your emotions will begin to start playing tricks on you. Chances are you couldn’t wait to be rid of your partner, and the thought of staring all over was exciting.

There may still be exciting times ahead for you, but the overwhelming feeling you have today is of loneliness. You can fill your days hanging with your friends, but at night you have to deal with the reality you are going to be spending the majority of your nights alone. Seeing family and friends in loving relationships begins to become more obvious when just a few weeks ago you never even considered those thoughts. Longing for someone to spend your nights with on the couch watching your favorite shows can really screw with your brain.

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Dating after divorce is different for everyone, but there are some different things that you should be aware of before you take that step into starting a new relationship. During the first few months of a divorce your emotions are going to be all over the place. You will be grateful to be free one day, and then long for the feeling of being in love with a partner the next day. Some nights you will cherish the thought of sleeping in your bed alone, and then other nights you will feel miserable to be alone in this world. If you have children, these months can be extremely difficult because you are dealing with your emotions, as well as trying to make certain the children feel safe and protected.

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This is the time many people rush back into dating just to satisfy overwhelming feelings of depression, anxiety, loneliness, and sadness. Feelings of missing out and growing old alone begin to consume your thoughts and make you act before thinking. You can begin dating again after a divorce and build that new relationship that is right for you. I know from personal experience that you can get back in the game and find the right partner for you.

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    • DaytonaWatterson profile image

      Daytona Watterson 15 months ago from South Florida

      “I know in my heart that things will get better in time for you. Everyone learns to heal at their own pace, and if you put the focus on happiness and love, those wounds will definitely heal much faster.” Daytona