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Learn a Phenomenal Way of Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back In No Time

Updated on May 9, 2011

Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back

Getting your ex girlfriend back is an emotional time in your life that absolutely requires clear thinking. Right now you’re probably at you’re lowest of lows. Your whole mindset is completely “out of whack”. We’ve all been there. You just need to take a step back from the situation, regroup your thoughts, emotions and clear your head before you even think about getting your ex girlfriend back. You must set aside your emotions and let your logic take over.

For many men, a love break up is totally unexpected and never see it coming. Rest assured that your girlfriend did not suddenly wake up and decide that she didn’t want you in her life any more. It happened because things have been building up over a period of time. It’s just too bad that you didn’t see it coming sooner.

Do You Really Want Your Ex Girlfriend Back?

I know right now you’re thinking how could I ask such a question when the subject of this HUB is getting your ex girlfriend back but you need to think about why the relationship ended in the first place and decide why you want your ed girlfriend back. Here are some questions that you should ask yourself:

Is your life empty without her?

Do you feel like you are less of a person without her?

If you answered Yes then…. just simply begin by “Getting a life.” I know this sounds harsh but you probably gave your ex girlfriend TOO much attention. You probably became needy and clingy. If you allowed yourself to be summoned to her every beck and call then you likely smothered and drove her away. Don’t be too hard on yourself. You were just reacting to her signals as she was reacting to yours.

Get involved with something that you enjoy. Take up a new hobby or dive into a new exercise routine and enjoy living your life by yourself. It’s only then you can honestly answer the question “Do I really want my ex girlfriend back?”

If after careful consideration you have decided that getting back with your ex girlfriend is not something that you want to do then good for you! You’ve made progress! You have cleared your head of all the negative emotions of the hurt, pain, rejection and seen the relationship for what it was. A Learning Experience! A word that I like to use is NEXT! The “Next” attitude signifies that you are now ready to move forward with your life and your NEXT adventure!

On the other hand, after careful consideration you have looked back at the relationship and seen all the things that she has given you has added a new level of happiness and joy to your life then good for you! You’ve made significant progress in recognizing the relationship for what it really is….A Learning Experience! As stated above you are now ready to move forward with your life and get your ex girlfriend back and save your relationship!

The Strategy Behind Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back

Many of the things that I will tell you to do to get your ex girlfriend back will sound very counterintuitive and confusing. Make no mistake about it; the strategy behind getting your ex girlfriend back does not include tricks, gimmicks, games, pressure or faking your emotions. It’s all a means to an end. If you want to get and stay happy it requires self-discipline, strong inner strength and patience. If you try to persuade, trick or manipulate her back into the relationship, it is doomed to fail. She will see this and she will leave again! You have been warned!

  1. If you sense that a love break up is just around the corner, then take a BOLD step and break up with her FIRST! I know, this seems counterintuitive but this move will show her a side of you that she’s not seen before or for a long time. This move demonstrates that you are independent, strong and can live without her. This will cause her to either rethink her value of a break up or it will speed up the process. Either way the strategy has been set up.
  2. If she decides to go through with the love break up or you don’t have the courage to end it first then stand strong and above all do not beg her to stay, call, text or email her endlessly. Don’t even talk to her except for what is absolutely necessary to facilitate the break up.
  3. Give her the GIFT of missing YOU and Get Her Back! This is the most powerful way of getting your ex girlfriend back. After the love break up it is very important that you give her space. Let her have the chance to miss you. Do not contact your girlfriend in any way, shape or form. If there is one thing that men do wrong during a break up its not keeping their distance. Give her the gift of missing YOU!

During this time, your ex girlfriend is going to experience a shift in how she feels about you, since you will no longer be pursuing her. You may become mysterious to her in some ways because she is not sure what you are doing or feeling. This is actually something that can work in your favor. Now your ex girlfriend is in a position to actually miss you, which was not possible when you were smothering her.

You must remember that the key to this strategy, repairing a love break up or saving your relationship is to work with human nature rather than attempting to work against it. Now you should have a fairly basic tips getting your ex girlfriend back. Once you implement this basic strategy you can restore a balance and allow your ex girlfriend to remember why she loved you in the first place.

Will getting your ex girlfriend back be easy?  Maybe or maybe not.  Don't make getting your ex girlfriend back the primary goal in your life.  Just keep yourself grounded and focused on your happiness!

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      get her 4 years ago

      The only way to get ex-girlfriend back is to say OK, and find another woman! No Contact rules work, but ADDING a new woman in the picture is the only shure way to get your ex not only to miss you but beg you to be whit her!

      Find a new woman and act like you fell in love whit her - and there is where the FUN whit your ex start... That how the man do it

      She cut you off... You cut her too, and finding a new woman is the shure way your Ex will no doubt

      And this can be done, far as possible, not the first week after the braek up, but not 5 months after it...

      And don't dive immediately with your EX, now you are the chooser... That's the same when he choose to be or not to be with you and finnaly cut you off