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Getting to know your spouse

Updated on April 21, 2011

Getting to know each other

Getting to know each other

Do you remember the game show back in the day called the Newlywed Game? Did you ever wonder how the wife or husband did not know the color of their spouses eyes? Better yet, you ever wonder what happened to them after the show? Hopefully, their marriage lives on strong today.

Consider this, do you ever find yourself wishing your significant other would take more interest in your past? In today's busy world, we sometimes get too busy or caught up in our careers. Following is a list of questions, questions you and your spouse may want to know about each other.  This hub is meant to help you and your significant other to grow closer, get to know each other, and to bring you closer. Some things you may not want to know and that is fine. You should discuss this with your partner before you start.

There is only one rule: You can not ask your partner something you are not willing to answer yourself.

Questions for couples

Here are questions for couples:

  1. Do you believe you know yourself well?
  2. What is your favorite thing about my personality?
  3. What if anything, have you learned from me?
  4. If you could plan a trip for us to any place in the world, where would you choose to take us?
  5. What is your favorite memory about our relationship?
  6. How does it make you feel when we fight?
  7. What do you suggest I do in order to enjoy life more?  Are there any changes you believe I should make?
  8. In what ways did your parents' views on race affect your opinions?  Do you believe you were raised with prejudice?  If so, how have you overcome these ideas?
  9. Do you believe one of your parents loved you more than the other?
  10. Who do you consider to be your best friend at the moment?
  11. If you could leave behind one bit of advice for your children or relatives, what would you tell them?
  12. Who do you consider to be your most successful friend?  In which ways has this person found success?  Do you wish you were comparably successful?
  13. What is the craziest thing you have done for someone you love?
  14. Do you maintain friendly relationships with your ex-lovers?
  15. What did you find the most attractive about me when we first met?  How has this evolved or changed?
  16. Is there any topic about which you wish I was capable of speaking more openly and freely?
  17. How do you feel our relationship helps and/or hinders the fulfillment of your goals?
  18. What are your basic expectations of your partner?
  19. List 5 things you appreciate about me the best.  Tell me the five things about me that annoy you the most.
  20. Do you feel comfortable enough to cry in front of me?
  21. Would you like a relationship that is similar to your parent's relationship, or one which is drastically different?
  22. Are you more similar to your father or your mother?  In which ways are you like either of them?
  23. What significant lessons or skills have you learned from your mother?  What are some more minor things that you've learned from her?
  24. Do you believe one of your parents loved you more than the other?
  25. How did your parents discipline you when you misbehaved?  Do you agree with their methods?  What are your ideas regarding disciplining children?
  26. How do you plan to take care of your relatives when they are elderly.  What do you think about nursing homes?  Would you go to a nursing home in your old age?
  27. How do you define a good relationship?
  28. If you were to write a personal ad about yourself, how would it read?
  29. What qualities do you hope your children possess?
  30. What is your greatest fear?  Has it ever embarrassed you or scared you to tears?
  31. What makes you feel safe and secure?
  32. Tell me about as time in your life when you were moved to tears.  How often do you cry?
  33. How do you deal with your anger?
  34. Are you comfortable speaking in public?
  35. Has your definition of love changed over time?  How do you define love now, and how did you think of it before?
  36. Do you trust yourself to respond effectively in an emergency situation?  Have you ever been in the middle of a crisis?  How did you handle it?
  37. Have you ever regretted a wish you made after it came true?
  38. Do you ever daydream?  What's your favorite scenario?
  39. Have you ever had one of your actual, night-time dreams come true?
  40. Do you believe your parents had a normal, healthy sex life?
  41. Who was your first sexual partner?  Was your partner more experienced with sex than you were?  What did you learn from this experienced with sex than you were?  What did you learn from this experience?  Are you glad you chose this person to share your first time with you?
  42. Would you be willing to share your wildest sexual fantasy with me, even if I'm not a part of it?
  43. If I suddenly lost interest in sex, would we be able to survive as a couple?  How often do you think we need to have sex in order to have a healthy relationship?
  44. Tell me about your first kiss.  Was it a comfortable experience, or is it a bad memory?
  45. How did you learn about sex?  What misconceptions did you have at first about this?
  46. Do you wish I did anything differently during sex?  Is there anything I do that you do not enjoy, or that doesn't turn you on?
  47. What is your best sexual memory?
  48. What part of sex do you think I enjoy the most?  Is there anything special that you do that you think I particularly enjoy?  Can you tell that I'm enjoying it from my facial expressions, or my comments?
  49. Is there any particular place where you would like to have sex?  Have you ever had sex outside, on a beach, or in the woods?  What's your favorite room in the house for having sex?
  50. If we were to expand our sexual horizons, what do you think we should try next?  is there anything that you would be too nervous to try in bed?

The best part of relationships

The best part of the relationship

People often remark that the best part of relationship is the beginning when a mutual interest is shared and couple's eagerly learn about each others past.  Let these questions guide you back to that state.  Use them as a link back to your relationships roots.

Questions for Couples

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    • Neil Sperling profile image

      Neil Sperling 6 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      You can not ask your partner something you are not willing to answer yourself. -- cool line - it says it all

      Thanks for a good hub - hugs

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      neakin 6 years ago

      Thank you very much!

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      MarygrauSheila 6 years ago

      Great Hub!

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      neakin 7 years ago

      Yes, I agree with you. Myself, I have a bad habit of not thinking before I speak or not thinking about how the other person is going to take what I say. I am going to work on that though. Thank you for commenting!

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      Cheifsmokealot 7 years ago

      I think a couple should be honest,faithfulkind,and understanding. If they have a problem both should sit down and talk about the problem and alwayes think of your partners feelings. Before saying something or doing something about or without your partner. Ask your self, would I like that said to me. Or would I like that done to me. And be honest to your self when asking or doing this. It may save your relationship.