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Girlfriend Getting Tips for Unhappy Young Men (Top 10 List)

Updated on January 27, 2014

Cheer up dude!

Don't be sad that you don't have a girlfriend. A few small tweaks in your thinking and the way you deal with girls, and the situation will turn around.
Don't be sad that you don't have a girlfriend. A few small tweaks in your thinking and the way you deal with girls, and the situation will turn around. | Source

10.Remember there a millions of girls worldwide

Yo young lad, this is supposed to be obvious, but many guys don't even realize this!
Never ever forget this. There are over 3 and a half billion girls in the world. 10 times 100,000 makes a million and 1000 million makes a billion. 3.5 times 1 billion is 3.5 billion and that's how many girls exist.

Kick yourself because you've been a loner all this while, unable to get a girl.

Girls, girls, everywhere!

Most guys totally overlook the fact that there are over. 3.5 billion girls in the world. That's a huge number!
Most guys totally overlook the fact that there are over. 3.5 billion girls in the world. That's a huge number! | Source

9.Be social

You are not going to get access to the 3.5 billion girls of the planet as long as you're stuck to your computer. You might get a virtual girlfriend online, but you'll have to make do with cyber sex and an avatar for a kid.

Get off your backside and go meet people. See how cute the girl down the street is. Make friends with her brother, then make friends with her.

Unless you go out and engage with people through socializing with them, you will not have meaningful access to any girl.
Unless you go out and engage with people through socializing with them, you will not have meaningful access to any girl. | Source

8.Don't be desperate

Girls hate desperate guys. Nobody has been able to explain why, but that's a fact. Over the course of human history, countless scores of otherwise exemplary lads have messed up their chances because of desperation.


I'm mama's boy, but girls avoid me.

You might be 'mama's boy', but if you come off as being desperate, you'll blow your chances.
You might be 'mama's boy', but if you come off as being desperate, you'll blow your chances. | Source

7.Make eye contact

When you see a girl you like, its quite likely she won't notice you unless you make eye contact with her. This is because, if she's caught your attention, she's probably caught the attention of 150 other guys too, and 149 of those guys are likely too darn scared to look her in the eye. She'll go for the guy who makes the proper kind of eye contact with her.

Proper eye contact is from your pair of eyes to her pair of eyes. It's not from your pair of eyes to her bosom, or from your pair of eyes to her reverse. Get clear on this.

When you look at a girl you think you'll like, make a short glance initially, then wait a bit, make another short glance, then wait a bit, and then make another short glance. This is meant to entice her without giving yourself away. If she looks back at you, you're in luck. If she doesn't then move on. There are over 3.5 billion girls in the world.

Important: Never ever stare intensely at a girl you've just seen for the first time. You'll freak her out.

You just blew it bro!

If you make the wrong kind of eye contact, you're going to totally freak her out!
If you make the wrong kind of eye contact, you're going to totally freak her out! | Source

6.Remember sex is secondary

Girls are very intuitive. They know when a guy is only interested in sex.

No matter what you think as a guy, the fact is sex is secondary. Forging a relationship based on trust is primary, and no girl ever trusts a guy who is more interested in having sex than is growing a meaningful relationship.

Notice how this lady is totally into it?

Typically, a girl requires much more than just sex. Truly value her in your mind, and your actions will speak on your behalf!
Typically, a girl requires much more than just sex. Truly value her in your mind, and your actions will speak on your behalf! | Source

5.Avoid ogling

Ogling is appreciating someone's features when they aren't looking. Don't do it. If you are noticed, you'll blow your chances.

Ogling a girl will make her furious. It is not what a classy guy does. Be dignified.
Ogling a girl will make her furious. It is not what a classy guy does. Be dignified. | Source

4.Stop showing off

Most girls don't appreciate boastful guys. Be normal. They are many ways to impress a girl and showing off is not one of them.

Most girls detest guys who keep boasting all the time. They are only interested if you'll be a good fit in terms of compatibility.

So son, please roll down your sleeves!
So son, please roll down your sleeves! | Source

3.Appreciate

So you've got talking with that pretty girl? Include subtle appreciative words in the conversation. Girls, whether they make it obvious or not, love to be complimented.

Comment positively on her choice of clothes, or on how well she sings. Be subtle.

Once the conversation is over, she will run through it again in her mind, and if she has positive memories of you, then, well done! You've made a mark!

A subtle appreciative word thrown in here and there will truly endear you to her!

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2.Don't rush it

Slow and steady wins the race. If you rush through things and try to escalate matters too fast, you will give yourself away. Respect the girl. Give her an opportunity to discover who you really are. Show her that you're a gentleman who's willing to take it at her pace.

You will continue to remain lonely as long as you continue rushing through things. Be patient. Rome wasn't built in a day and your relationship won't be built in an hour.
You will continue to remain lonely as long as you continue rushing through things. Be patient. Rome wasn't built in a day and your relationship won't be built in an hour. | Source

Is your motivation correct?

It makes sense for you to sit back and question yourself if your motivation for wanting to be in a relationship is correct. If you want the relationship simply because it will make you look good in the eyes of your peers or if you feel you're the only one not in a relationship, you are setting yourself up for failure. A relationship is a serious life choice. It requires serious consideration.

A mature relationship takes into account aspirations of two people. A high degree of selflessness is required to sustain and prosper a relationship, else, when the initial high wears off, you will be forced to face a future of drudgery.

1.Listen

Be willing to listen to what the girl the is trying to convey. Make mental notes of her likes and dislikes. This will truly endear her to you, and will prevent you from saying anything foolish that will put her off.

Remember that she has loads of things in her mind, and that she wants someone she can share them with. Make yourself that guy.

If you aren't prepared to listen to her, you might as well forget her.
If you aren't prepared to listen to her, you might as well forget her. | Source

To recap...

 
 
 
1. Listen
2. Don't rush it
3. Appreciate
4. Stop showing off
5. Avoid ogling
6. Remember sex is secondary
7. Make eye contact
8. Don't be desperate
9. Be social
10. Remember there are loads of girls
 
 

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      Kevrel 

      3 years ago

      Superb inmrofation here, ol'e chap; keep burning the midnight oil.

    • rohanfelix profile imageAUTHOR

      Rohan Rinaldo Felix 

      4 years ago from Chennai, India

      Thank you for reading through and commenting! Way too often, guys forget to respect girls and instead treat them as objects.

    • cecileportilla profile image

      Cecile Portilla 

      4 years ago from West Orange, New Jersey

      Hi rohanfelix:

      This hub offers very sound advice to young men. FlourishAnyway mentioned a key required when initiating relationships i.e. "respect."

      The pictures are great!

    • rohanfelix profile imageAUTHOR

      Rohan Rinaldo Felix 

      4 years ago from Chennai, India

      Thanks for reading through Flourish! You hit it on the nail: the young man might have just met the girl, but she is already somebody to many other people, and to herself.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      4 years ago from USA

      I like the respectful nature of your advice, Rohan. Young men always need to keep in mind that the young lady is someone's daughter, and the parents see right through any ill intentions. A sense of humor can also be very beneficial.

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