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Girls - Why You Shouldn't Play "Hard-To-Get"

Updated on November 9, 2008

Many men like challenges, especially when it comes to meeting a woman. But if you are the type of girl that likes to play "hard-to-get", a guy will wonder if you really are interested. And if you happen to be very attractive, you may appear conceited, "snobby", or "stuck-up". So what should you do? Show your interest.

Here are some ways to show interest:

1. Through Body Language. In order for most guys to determine your interest, you need to show him positive body language. Instead of giving him a quick glance, or turning your body away from him (i.e., he's sitting across from you on the train), you should try smiling or crossing your leg in his direction. This shows him that you're approachable.

2. Through Eye Contact. There's a difference between a quick glance, staring, and attentive eye contact. If you're giving him attentive eye contact (a gaze that last for 3-8 seconds) and you accompany it with a smile, more guys that you're attracted to will approach you.

3. Through Positive Conversation. If you have the opportunity to engage into a conversation with a guy after meeting him for the first time, do not talk about negative things (i.e., your bad habits, what annoys you in a guy, how your ex-boyfriend is a stalker, etc). Instead the conversation should be both balanced (you ask him questions also), and positive. Talk about your interest & hobbies, your goals, and what you like most in a guy.

So ladies I advise you to use these tips and let go of the "hard-to-get" mentality. Once you decide to do that, you will notice that your success in meeting men will dramatically increase.


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    • loveguru23 profile imageAUTHOR

      Daniel Amis 

      10 years ago from Queens, NY

      Thank you both for your comments on this article. I would like to address your thoughts sweetie pie: I'm not saying that ALL women play "hard-to-get", I'm just saying that SOME do. And I have heard MANY complaints from guys that it's hard to tell if a woman is into them or not...and I even heard well as some complaints from women. My intentions of writng this article is not to say that women should be aggresive and ask a guy out (unless that's what you prefer to do), all I'm saying is that some women should show their interest more clearly through positive body language and coversation. If they do that, their success in meeting men will dramatically increase.

    • marisuewrites profile image


      10 years ago from USA

      Nice to have guy's prospective on how they like to be treated. I agree, add a little to the hub, don't be afraid to expand on your views. =) good beginning!

    • SweetiePie profile image


      10 years ago from Southern California, USA

      I think you should add more to this hub and explain your motives. As a woman who is a little more old fashioned I will tell you many women are not playing hard to get, they just feel a man should ask them out. I am not going to start asking men out, but maybe you prefer women who are more aggressive and who intiate dates. I think you should try and date women who will ask you out because that is what it sounds like you are looking for.


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