- Gender and Relationships
Giving too much in a friendship
Friendship is 50/50. It is being there for each other when the other friend needs it. Getting in touch with that other person and seeing how they are doing. What if you are putting a lot in a friendship and not getting anything back?
If you are the one who is calling and always making plans and not getting anything in return then that friend is not 100% there for you. Of course that friend may have problems and reasons why they are acting the way they do. You can understand but handling it is always a different story.
Maybe you love going out and your friend always rushes you home. You understand but the friend never picks a day when they have all day or night. Soon you will get stressed out and maybe even become depressed. You will start to feel that you are missing out on life. This friend is holding you back from what could be the great experiences of your life.
If you are suffering in a friendship or not getting back what you put in then maybe you should start to look for different friends. You could still talk to this friend but maybe you need to meet people who are more like you. People who you could let you relax and not put a strain on something.
If your friend refuses to change then slowly drift away if you want. If they will not change or at least once go out of their way for you, then they are not the friend for you.