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Go on a date with yourself

Updated on May 19, 2016
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I am a fitness enthusiast who wants to help people see the benefits of personal fitness to allow people to live their lives to the fullest.

Obvious outcome

Here is the most common outcome of anybody you meet online for those who are desperately looking to settle down:

  • seems nice at first
  • like some of there pictures
  • begin to instant message each
  • go on a date (everything is looking go so far)
  • and last you begin to realize why they are on this site in the first place.

This usually happens on those cheap dirty dating site where the people on there act as if there are really looking for love when in short their are just looking to waste your time and theirs.

Swipe left or right?

It's Saturday night and you just got back from another date that you found online (what's new?); embarrassing enough this was like your fourth attempt. Another lonely night posting sob statuses on social media about how you'll never find anyone. Well my take on social media is that most the women on their are desperate to be in a relationship and most the fellas are on there for one reason. Now don't get me wrong it is possible to find someone though online dating, but before you sign up for another dating site (hoping you did pay for the VIP package) keep reading to understand why it's so important to date yourself before you get back in the game.

Now I get it you're ready for a relationship, but is it because all of your friends are in one and you don't want to feel like you don't have anything going on? This is why it is so important to get to know yourself; stop worrying about everyone else and focus on what you want out of life.

Once you get a better understanding of yourself everything in your life begins to make sense from your car, your job, your taste, and even the type of person you want in to share your life with.

It's important to know yourself; it allow you to get in touch with the real you. We all like to think that we know who we are in and out, but we couldn't be furthest from the truth. For example, if someone were to ask you what do you want to for the rest of your life would you honestly be able to give them an answer? This is why it's important to date yourself first or you'll just end up going on a bunch on pointless date where you at first think it's going somewhere then you realize you've just wasted your time again.

Don't be that person

We all have that one friend who seem like that can't live without a relationship; you know, the one person who has to have a girlfriend or boyfriend. I mean every time you look up BAM! their in another relationship. Well this is probably due to the fact that's only way they feel whole, or complete because without a partner they are completely lost and don't know their up from their down. They rely on others to give them validation or to provide them with happiness. See these are the type of people that when they get out of a relationship no matter how toxic they always try to find a way back in; it's almost like a drug they've become addicted to (trying to find the next fix). Oh yeah, let's not forget the one friend that post everything about their new relationship, but never anything about themselves as an individual.

I know this is coming off a bit harsh and cruel, but understand how important it is to get to know yourself; and trust me you'll thank me in the long run.

I know it can be a bit sad walking though life alone, but walking though life in relationship where you constantly ask yourself whether or not you should of took that acting class or started that business is just as bad. Even worse you may begin questioning the person you're with all because you are unsure about what you want out of life. What good are you to anyone if you don't even know yourself? In short get out and explore, experience and, build yourself to be the best you possible.


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      dashingscorpio 22 months ago

      You made some valid points.

      Know yourself, Love yourself, Trust yourself.

      People who have not figured out who (they) are probably have yet to figure out what they need or want in a mate. To purse relationships without this information is equivalent to going shopping without a list!

      These people are likely to allow "impulsive connections" and "happenstance" to dictate their relationship choices.

      Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.

      Online dating sites are nothing more than a (tool) for meeting new people. Just as a fork is a tool for eating. One can use it to eat a garden salad or a slice of double fudge chocolate cake.

      However no obese person would ever blame their (fork) for their weight gain! And yet many who have bad dating experiences with people they met online will blame the online dating industry.

      You get to (choose) which site you join, whom you will engage with, and who you elect to go out with. If you're having one bad dating/relationship experience after another it's probably time you reexamined (your) "mate selection process".

      The only thing all of your past relationships have in common is (you).

      You have to have the self-discipline to stick to (your) list.

      Lastly I would say just because you meet someone who does not want what you want does not mean there is something wrong with them.

      It just means you're not right for one another.

      Thankfully we live on a planet with over 7 Billion on it!

      Odds are in everyone's favor that there are more than a few people who would want whatever it is we want in a relationship.

      They often say relationships are "hard work".

      However in reality finding the "right mate" is the hard work.

      Like attracts like and opposites attract divorce attorneys!

      One man's opinion!:)