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Gold Diggers & Beauty Seekers
He wants a beautiful woman on his arm
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, right? And a man is well within his right to be attracted to whomever he deems beautiful. Everyone has their own preferences and someone nice to look at and date seems perfectly normal. A man sees a beautiful woman and he does whatever it takes to get her, in most cases. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this.
Going for the gold!
So, why is there something wrong with what women want? Why does wanting financial security make a woman a gold digger? This question came to me when a friend of mine joined an online dating site. Her profile picture was a headshot and one possible suitor, off the bat, asked her about her body type. Was she “correctly proportioned to her height,” was how he put it. She is a lovely woman from head to toe but when she responded with asking him why he hadn’t asked about her personality and why he was so focused on her body, he obviously took that as an admission to her being over weight or out of shape and promptly blocked her.
Everyone can relate to those moments when you wish you could have a ‘do over’ and what you would say, given the chance. Afterwards she was so insulted and was sorry that the opportunity was lost to show him what he was going to miss out on. She admitted that, even though she was not interested in him after that telltale sign of him lacking any depth, she would’ve loved to reject him first. In our conversation, we laughed and thought of all the great responses that would’ve hopefully enlightened that fool on his rude behavior.
Point, Click, Flirt!
Here are some ways the conversation could've gone down:
Him: What’s your body type?
Her: What’s your annual salary?
Him: Do you work out?
Her: Do you know your FICO score?
Him: What’s your dress size?
Her: What size is your…?
I think you know where this slippery slope is headed. Men want a fat (PHAT) ass and women want a fat wallet.
Beauty and looks are important to men and financial security is what’s important to women. Society seems to frown upon the latter. Women who consider a man’s money when dating, soon feel ashamed and become much more forgiving than men are in this same way.
What women want...
What's your take?
Do you think it's wrong for women to first consider a man's wealth when dating?
Why does society say it's wrong?
It is much more common for a woman to say, “I understand that you’re between jobs right now so we can stay in and watch a video.” But rarely would you hear a guy say, “Yeah, she’s a little cock-eyed and her hair won’t grow, but she’s gonna be mine.” That ain’t happening.
There are a lot of double standards where gender is concerned and some of them are necessary, in my opinion. And before you become confused with an earlier post on independent women, this is not the same discussion or a contradiction.
So again, I ask, if it’s okay for men, why isn’t it okay for women?