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Good Friends Are One of Life’s Great Treasures

Updated on October 22, 2011

Like a Fine Wine, Good Friendships get Better with Time

Do you remember your best friend when you were six years old? Being in first grade opened a whole new world of friend possibilities. I think my best friend was Terri Parker. We sat beside each other in reading circle, and I remember going to her house often, as she lived very close to our school. By third grade we were in different classes and making new friendships, but I still think about my first best friend.

By the time age sixteen rolled around, I was the most brilliant person in the world and my parents weren’t.My best friend was whoever could get her parent's car for the evening. Since texting had not been invented, the one family phone was a life line to my girlfriends, much to my parent’s dismay. We talked for hours about nothing in particular (ok, maybe boys).

By age twenty- five, the sweet taste of freedom (at least for me) came with bills and responsibility.I don’t remember having a best friend because I was in a serious relationship (not smart), but going back to college at that late age brought a fresh batch of new friends and some of those relationships remain in my life today. After connecting on Facebook with one of my college roommates, we scheduled a visit as she traveled through my area. What a great time we had sharing fond memories!

By forty, most of my friends were busy raising children. I was entrenched in my career and enjoying the children in my life. I did have a few great friends though, for guys had found their rightful place in my life…important, but not mandatory. Fortunately, my friends always found time to get together despite their busy schedules and we still reminisce about “the glory days” quite often!By the way, we are still creating those glory days!!

Do you have a best friend, several good friends…or both? Can you count them on one hand (as the old saying goes)? It’s probably because I’m single and without children that I’ve developed many friendships over the years. Several friends from college and even a few from high school remain in my life. Today, I belong to two groups of women, one being a book club and one we call a Culture Club as we share various cultural experiences. Some of these women I have known for a long time and others are recent friendships.If you don’t have a group of friends who get together, I can highly recommend giving it a shot. We laugh, converse and share a camaraderie once a month that keeps us smiling until the next time we meet.

Life doesn’t get less complicated, so consider doing a good thing for yourself-spend time with a friend. Good friendships are hard to find and worth the effort.I remember getting a phone call recently from a long distance friend whom I rarely see, but our conversation picked up as though we had just spoken the day before.She has been my friend for over thirty years. We have seen each other through marriage, childbirth, divorce, family issues, sickness and loss and we continue to write our story. Friendships don’t require constant interaction, just a devotion to keeping them going. They can have their ups and downs, but I believe they sustain us. Nothing takes the place of family, but friendships are a wonderful addition. Once again, I call myself a lucky girl for I have true friends.

Enjoyable quotes:

“A true friend is someone who thinks you’re a good egg, even though they know you’re slightly cracked.”

“It’s by chance we met, by choice we became friends.”

“A friend appreciates the good in you, overlooks the worst in you, and brings out the best in you.”

“In order to have a friend, you must learn to be a friend.”….this one is by me

Carole King and Friends-"You've Got a Friend"

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      picklesandrufus 5 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

      Yes I am, Dream On. I can't keep up with all long distance friendships, but do try to keep up with most! I appreciate your comments.

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      DREAM ON 5 years ago

      Over the years my childhood friends have disappeared and I have moved away.Once in a while we see each other and it seems like old times but then we go are separate ways.Life is too too busy.Kind of a shame.It's nice to see some friendships never change.You are very lucky to have such strong bonds that last for so many years.

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      picklesandrufus 6 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

      Hi Dream On! Thanks so much for your comments! I appreciate my good friendships too!

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      DREAM ON 6 years ago

      Friends are what life is all about.You covered it all.Love the video.I loved reading about friendships and how they are worth keeping.May good friends read this and share it with their best friends.Have a good day.

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      picklesandrufus 6 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

      thanks for your comments Movie Master! I appreciate you stopping by.

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      Movie Master 6 years ago from United Kingdom

      I agree with you, good friends are hard to find, I have never had another friend as special as the one I had through my school years.

      Thank you and voted up.

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      picklesandrufus 6 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

      I agree with you R Talloni! Thanks for stopping by.

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      RTalloni 6 years ago from the short journey

      You made me think about the fact that having good friends is an amazing gift and being a faithful friend is an even greater gift. :)

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      picklesandrufus 6 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

      yes and worth the commitment to keep them!

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      howtojunkies 6 years ago

      good friends are hard to find nowadays.

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      picklesandrufus 6 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

      thanks for your comments Ania! I totally agree.

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      Ania L 6 years ago from United Kingdom

      Very interesting reading and very important. I have a few very good friends but nothing really from the old times. I have moved abroad several years ago and although I keep in touch with some of my old friends, it's not the same anymore. I know how fragile friendships can be and that they need time to flourish so currently I really treasure those I made in my adult life and ensure I keep them all alive.

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      picklesandrufus 6 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

      thanks so much for your comment Eiddwen. Delighted you enjoyed it.. and so glad you get to share time everyday with your best friend!!

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      Eiddwen 6 years ago from Wales

      A brilliant hub and oh so true.!!

      I have a friend since we were 12 years old.

      I can hoestly say that we have not had a huge argument at all.

      We may not get in touch for a long time but if we need we know that we will always be there for each other.

      Besides this my best friend is my partner.

      We do everything together and he is indeed my soulmate.

      Thank you so much for sharing this gem.

      Take care and I wish you a wonderful day.

      Eddy.

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      picklesandrufus 6 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

      thanks Susan. You are lucky to have a partner who is your best friend!

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      susan54 6 years ago

      Picklesandrufus,very nice! My husband is my best friend, he even loves my haircut. Now that's a true friend. Lol

      Linda1971, Love the flattop haircut!Looks sexy on you.

      GREAT HUB!

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      picklesandrufus 6 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

      Linda, thank you for checking out my Hub! I agree with you!

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      Linda1971 6 years ago

      Pickleanddrufus, what a great job! Friend are all we have in the end. Thanks

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      Kenneth Avery 6 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      picklesandrufus, Thank YOU, My new friend. I appreciate that compliment on my town. We have 1 walk-in movie house. But a Burger King, Hardees, KFC, Subway, McDonald's, two Mexican restaurants, and a Huddle House. We may not be big, but we eat good.LOL. And you are so blessed to have a living legend living in your neck of the woods. Nice to have YOU in my world. May God bless you and yours. Kenneth

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      picklesandrufus 6 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

      Kenneth,your town sounds like the one I grew up in.You know Andy still lives in N.C.(my home state).Thanks for the feedback and for the encouragement!!

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      Kenneth Avery 6 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      picklesandrufus, GREAT, GREAT read. Moved me to tears. With joy, not sadness. Voted up and away. GREAT piece of writing. In all honesty, I DO remember meeting my BEST FRIEND, in 2nd grade, 1962. Yes, we had concrete floors then, not dirt. LOL. I wont call her name, but in 1966, I did the unexpected, FELL MADLY IN-LOVE WITH HER. But never told her until 2002. And carried that pain for so long that I almost had to get help from my clinical depression. She knows now and we are closer than ever. Thank YOU for presenting this hub. You are a fantastic talent. And may I, with your permission, be a fan and a follower? I wanted to ask first. With My Highest Regards, Kenneth Avery, from a small town, Hamilton, in northwest Alabama that resembles Mayberry, the sweet town on The Andy Griffith Show. Glad to make your acquaintance. Peace to you.

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      Linda Morgan 6 years ago

      So true! Friends bring us peace, make us laugh, feed our soul...where would we be without them? Thanks for this article..I'm going to go call my friend!

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      Eliza57 6 years ago

      This was really a great read. There is nothing like a true friend, who will listen even though you are miles apart. And, the Carole King song brings back memories too. Thanks

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      picklesandrufus 6 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

      will do and please do link! thanks

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      Mary Hyatt 6 years ago from Florida

      Hi again! I really enjoyed this Hub, and can certainly relate to what you are saying. I value my good friends SO much. I wrote a poem for a dear friend who had suffered a stroke, I invite you to read it, and I'd like to link this Hub with it. It's called My Gift To You. Thanks, Mary

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