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Good Friends Are One of Life’s Great Treasures
Like a Fine Wine, Good Friendships get Better with Time
Do you remember your best friend when you were six years old? Being in first grade opened a whole new world of friend possibilities. I think my best friend was Terri Parker. We sat beside each other in reading circle, and I remember going to her house often, as she lived very close to our school. By third grade we were in different classes and making new friendships, but I still think about my first best friend.
By the time age sixteen rolled around, I was the most brilliant person in the world and my parents weren’t.My best friend was whoever could get her parent's car for the evening. Since texting had not been invented, the one family phone was a life line to my girlfriends, much to my parent’s dismay. We talked for hours about nothing in particular (ok, maybe boys).
By age twenty- five, the sweet taste of freedom (at least for me) came with bills and responsibility.I don’t remember having a best friend because I was in a serious relationship (not smart), but going back to college at that late age brought a fresh batch of new friends and some of those relationships remain in my life today. After connecting on Facebook with one of my college roommates, we scheduled a visit as she traveled through my area. What a great time we had sharing fond memories!
By forty, most of my friends were busy raising children. I was entrenched in my career and enjoying the children in my life. I did have a few great friends though, for guys had found their rightful place in my life…important, but not mandatory. Fortunately, my friends always found time to get together despite their busy schedules and we still reminisce about “the glory days” quite often!By the way, we are still creating those glory days!!
Do you have a best friend, several good friends…or both? Can you count them on one hand (as the old saying goes)? It’s probably because I’m single and without children that I’ve developed many friendships over the years. Several friends from college and even a few from high school remain in my life. Today, I belong to two groups of women, one being a book club and one we call a Culture Club as we share various cultural experiences. Some of these women I have known for a long time and others are recent friendships.If you don’t have a group of friends who get together, I can highly recommend giving it a shot. We laugh, converse and share a camaraderie once a month that keeps us smiling until the next time we meet.
Life doesn’t get less complicated, so consider doing a good thing for yourself-spend time with a friend. Good friendships are hard to find and worth the effort.I remember getting a phone call recently from a long distance friend whom I rarely see, but our conversation picked up as though we had just spoken the day before.She has been my friend for over thirty years. We have seen each other through marriage, childbirth, divorce, family issues, sickness and loss and we continue to write our story. Friendships don’t require constant interaction, just a devotion to keeping them going. They can have their ups and downs, but I believe they sustain us. Nothing takes the place of family, but friendships are a wonderful addition. Once again, I call myself a lucky girl for I have true friends.
“A true friend is someone who thinks you’re a good egg, even though they know you’re slightly cracked.”
“It’s by chance we met, by choice we became friends.”
“A friend appreciates the good in you, overlooks the worst in you, and brings out the best in you.”
“In order to have a friend, you must learn to be a friend.”….this one is by me
A Cute Children's Book on Friendship
- Amazon.com: Best Friends (9780689713347): Miriam Cohen, Lillian Hoban
Amazon.com: Best Friends (9780689713347): Miriam Cohen, Lillian Hoban