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Do Good Girls Finish Last?

Updated on July 24, 2009

We dont want aggressive women!

Yes to such women!
Yes to such women!

Hi Reader,

Yesterday, I read an interesting article in the Sunday Times titled ' Good Girls Finish Last'. Intrigued by the title, I read it. It focussed on the changing role of a woman in India. The author says that men desire a glamorous, rich, assertive woman by their side. He also goes on to say that economic independence, heightened awareness of physical fitness and changing gender rules are changing the way a woman puts her two cents in. And films like Fashion, Dev D and Life in a Metro reflect this change. I agree with the last two points, but not completely.

Films like Fashion probably reflect change in urban areas and limited to a specific section of Indian society. The UN Population Fund Report states that 70% of married indian women between the ages of 15 and 49 are victims of sexual abuse, rape and other crimes! What a contradiction! If the indian woman of today is so assertive, why does the UN report reflect something contradictory? And even if there have been such assertive women , they are a very few....

As far as the first point is concerned, do all men desire a glamorous, rich and assertive woman by their side? The answer to this question is dependant purely on the perspective of each man...his ability to see the far future and near future with the woman of his dreams...

I mean to say that a man should be able to clearly see that anyone, for that matter, his dreamgirl is being dominant in her objective of being assertive, becoming aggressive and rude...and handle her nature with a cool mind....and sadly most men arent able to see the pitfalls of being with an aggressive woman....

From the spiritual point of view, becoming aggressive in the name of being assertive is self-defeating to the soul....its feeding the ego in reality....whhich subsequently leads to contraction of one's true self.....

But one question we need to ask ourselves....who is bothered about the expansion of his or her soul? Is anyone eager to expand his awareness to broader realities? No....why will anyone do so ?



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      varunr1999 8 years ago

      You have hit the nail on its head ...Benhur...the only thing that lasts forever is love.....and truth....not money....

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      Benhur Soans 8 years ago

      Thats a truth dude... People should take the initiative to change themselves and realize that the wifes leave everything behind just for their husband. No doubt sometimes the situtation goes out of control but both should understand that they have selected the partner and given a committment that both will be standing for eachother. And about money.... Everyone knows that its there today but may not be tommorow... But one can definitly expect a self dependent girl so that both are tension free... And guy's if you thinking of rich wifes trust me its not worth it... Only money wont buy you peace... So think about the girls who are good at heart....