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Simple Tips to be a Right Friend (Friendship Secrets)
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails.
Proverbs 17 verse 17 says that a friend loves at all times. Looking at the biblical (and true) definition of love in 1 Corinthians 13, we will see that “loving at all times” doesn't mean you won’t stand up when we see something wrong, nor will we coward out to rebuke our friends when they are at fault. Love has never been that way.
Love is so pure and strong that though it may be a challenge because it will often require us to go beyond our comfort zones and put ourselves on the bottom list. Still, we should not be discouraged because the Bible also says that, “LOVE NEVER FAILS.” But we should always look to God, that it’ll be His love that will flow from us to others. That is the kind of love that will never fail.
Friendship is a beautiful relationship that doesn't require love; it’s naturally built on love, like any other relationship. If not then that is no friendship at all. To be a friend and to have a friend is both a privilege and a responsibility. When friendship starts it is like you have taken an oath to one another that you will not just be a mere number but a genuine companion.
Living in this world where the wrong are constantly suppressing, if not, destroying or manipulating what’s right; how can anyone be more than just a good friend and also be a right friend?
Good and Right & Not Just Good.
A friend that’s always been there for you through every sunshine’s and victory can be called a good friend. A friend that comforts you and is always on your side can be called a good friend. In fact, it is very easy to be a “good” friend. So easy that we often miss the point of it all. A good friend maybe able to be with you through all the happy moments and victories. But a right friend will not just rejoice with you, he will also be vigilant enough to keep your foot on the ground, and to guide you to the right victories and not just on any kind of wasteful, vain victories that will only lead you to a wrong path; causing you remorse and grief one day.
A right friend will not let you bathe under the sunshine for too long making you weak and disheartened when the rain comes pouring in.
Going Against Your Friend
Saying no when everyone wants you to say yes and vice versa can be very challenging and scary. By doing so, you risk being rejected, scrutinized and even embarrassed. But by constantly compromising, so just you can sit back along with everyone, may seem more appealing, but it is, no doubt, even more destructive as it is appealing. Sure, you may have a stable friendship, but you will never experience a deep and genuine friendship that is built with a strong and right foundation.
A good friend will always try to please you and say words you like, but a right friend will have the courage and proper discernment when to go against you even if it will lead your friendship to a rocky road. But rest assured that in the end your friendship will come out stronger and deeper.
A Friend Whatever the Weather
Even if being a right friend requires you to be brave enough to go against your friend, for his own good, we still shouldn't forget sticking up for our friend too. You don’t need to fight with people who hurt your friend. That's not part of being a friend. Just focus on our role, and that is to be always there for our friends. To tell them they’re wrong when they’re wrong, to comfort them when tears fill their eyes, to be there to give them hugs, to be present when they need support, to provide our shoulders when they need something to cry on. Smile with them, cry with them, encourage them, lead them, guide them, correct them, listen to them; love and get loved back; All these simple things that make up a healthy and beautiful friendship; things that cannot be done without our presence.
All Worth It
Sure, friendship involves all sorts of misunderstandings but if its foundation is strong and built with the kind of foundation that God teaches us then no scar is going to be deep enough to break a genuine friendship between two right friends.
Don’t concentrate with finding right friends, start with yourself, be a true and right friend, and just be amazed with what comes next.
God bless everyone!
All GLORY to GOD