Great Advice from a Divorced Man after Twenty Years of Marriage
Love and Marriages
Her heart must be taken care of by you or else someone else would take care of her heart for you. Make sure you keep that love forever, don't let anyone steal her away from you.
Focus on the best in your partner, and on what makes you two good together. If it is love that makes you sparkle then hold your marriage together with love.
If you can't see anything else but love then you got it all.
You don't need to make her a different person that she can do on her very own.
Control your own feelings, don't expect er to control your feelings. No woman can make their husbands the happiest. It is up to the woman and the man to make their own happiness and up to the man to control his emotions, from sadness to happiness.
Whatever, he does should affect his own emotions.
He should be responsible for what and how he feels.
Blaming your partner for anything is wrong. She made you feel at your best when you first met so now you think about what makes you feel at your best. It is not about her more about you.
Your woman should be in her own mind, thinking of herself and not you thinking of her and making her decisions.
She needs to know you are there for her if needed. There is no need for pressuring her into an upset moment. Never leave her alone if she feels sad, or disappointed. Show her you are there and that she has a shoulder to cry on if ever needed.
You must pay attention to her conversations.
Life is unpredictable. Laughing makes it feel greater. Instead of taking every moment seriously use a bit of laughter to get things right in your relationships.
In this way you can feel very much at ease with each other.
Make her feel good about herself don't just see her as a helper or the one who puts your food on time at the table. Rather make her feel cherished and most worthwhile to you.
Sometimes men just look at their wives as to provide their basic needs, and fail to see them as a real woman the one whom they first dated.
Do what makes her feel loved, and what boosts her confidence making her feel like she is on a pedestal.
Marriage after a while becomes boring and stale this is especially, when partners don't notice each other.
Marriages and Mistakes
Marriage is a commitment
A man divorced after twenty years of marriage, and his ex-wife blamed him for the breaking up of their marriage.
He thinks and feels in the following ways after his divorce.
Marriage is such a gift to many happy couples.
Those who divorce because their partners have changed over time, and for the misunderstood reasons are clearly failures.
The many different aspects of their lives have changed, and they fail to cope with each other.
Sometimes partners are too foolish to see their partners for who they have become, most of the time for who they have wanted them to be.
You only realize how much your ex-partner is missed once the divorce is final. When it all comes to mind.
Things that you wish you have tried or attempted in a much more different way.
So many couples wish they hadn't ignored their partners, or wish they didn't stop courting their partners.
You shouldn't stop taking notice of your partner.
The woman you vowed to take care of to love and to cherish throughout your years.
Protect the one you love, and don't take your marriage for granted. Show affection continuously, if you don't, somebody else would.
Appreciate her and show her more than you.
Don't let love slip away and avoid being lazy to show your love to her.
You committed to her now be there and keep the spark alive.
The heart tells it all, and should only have the place for her, that special part should be kept for the only one you want to enter and stay there.
The place in your heart should be for your wife.
Don't allow any other person to enter her heart but you.
Keep love alive always, off-course you change all the time, but then who doesn't change?
You will never be the same as when you had first met.
Change allows you to grow into a different person, and you don't expect her to be that person you want her to be. She can only be who she wants to be.
When she seeks your attention and focus don't ignore her give her that much to live for in her marriage.
If you treat her with love, care and speak with great appreciation then love won't disappear easily.
Learn from mistakes, and experiences
Intimately show her how much she means to you, and allow her to feel your strength.
Every woman needs her time and you should give that to her.
Allow her to take time out for pampering her soul.
Her space to know herself again. Usually after having kids life can get pretty bundled up, that does not mean she must not live and enjoy her own life.
Share your emotions and remember, whatever you do, it won't be all at once, patience is required to learn more about each other.
Trust is about sharing your lives together.
It is about feeling for each other and giving all you got in a marriage. Never keep her out of your heart, and it takes a courageous man to admit his faults.
She should see you from all sides not just your masked side of life.
Nobody is perfect.
You live and grow old together and understand each other even better after many years, Regrets in a marriage often shows when divorce comes along.
When you stop showing interest in a marriage gradually, it breaks up. When you stop exercising your muscles feel tight. You then need to work on your muscles to feel relaxed and good again. The same goes for your marriage.
Team work works wonders. Acceptance is important for every individual.
Don't let past traumatic issues hold you from going forward. Often one can feel stuck in one position from past traits.
If you forgive your partner right away moving on is often simple and is much easier on you.
Love should always be your choice not holding onto previous mistakes.
Always make Love to be your first choice in a marriage.
Marriage is about commitment, and growing together, don't think marriage is all a bed of roses. You got to overcome many obstacles to keep a marriage fresh over and over again.
Try to be that rock that holds everything together and be the strength that never fades.
Lessons in a marriage that are learned in a hard way. In many cases after a divorce one analyzes the situation and comes up with many unnecessary issues.
You won't believe how your marriage can all come together with proper communication.
If you have love then a marriage can work itself.
Staying in a loveless marriage is a waste of energy.
Having children and love plays a big part of a marriage.
Young husbands need to read this hub to find out more about what a marriage entails. Sometimes couples forget how to love and you don't want to be in that position of not knowing how to love.
Never look for perfection you won't find the kind of perfection you want from the other person.
Be the lover you want to be and challenge your marriage, and your partner should feel courageous to show you off to others.
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