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How to talk to women when they're mad
There's nothing better for a relationship than a happy woman. But sometimes guys are silly and do a lot of things to keep women unhappy. Simple things such as giving the wrong answers to tricky questions can make your relationship go from perfect to get-me-out. I know, us women can also be silly, but if you know just how to handle what we say and/or do, things will be perfect!
Here are two of the most common questions/phrases women use, and the the best answers to keep things from getting ugly. Shall we begin?
The "What’s wrong?" question with the “nothing” response
This is a common response to the "what's wrong" question when a woman is evidently mad. Many guys like to take the easy way out and take "nothing" at face value. And this is when things get ugly. Girl gets really mad that guy didn't take enough time to really find out what's wrong with her.
If your girl won't tell you what's wrong, then you should say this:
- "Sweetie, I know I must have done something terribly wrong because I can tell you are disappointed. Please, let me know what I did so I can avoid it at all costs next time. I just can't stand to know that I am the one that is making you hurt..."
It is important to keep a straight face while saying this. Also, the tone of voice must reflect true concern and care. Otherwise, it will just sound sarcastic and the argument will get bigger and uglier.
If the answer is said with the correct voice tone and face expression, it will usually elicit an "Awww!" response, your fault will be minimized, and everything will be better than before.
Sometimes we are so mad that we don't want to tell you what you did wrong. I mean, we want to rip your head apart and jump on you like a lioness on prey, but we want you to walk in the trap first. The perfect way for you to walk in the trap is by:
- not asking what's wrong
- taking our answer of "nothing" at face value
When you do any of the above 2, we own you and you will wish you had not been born. However, if the suggested response is given, you disarm the trap, we feel utterly loved, and we will brag to the world about what a loving and caring husband/boyfriend we have.
"I shouldn't have to tell you what to do. You should know."
A scary phrase that demands psychic powers from "guy". This phrase is usually said when guy has let down "girl", either by doing or not doing. I know, confusing, but bear with me.
We are mad, really mad. Why? Because we thought you knew us well enough to know in which ways to act in different situations. The hurtful part in the scenario is that we come to the realization that you don't know us as well as we know you. What this means for us is that:
- You haven't cared enough to get to know us
- You don't pay attention to little, cute details of things we do
- You don't love us enough to know us as well as you know your favorite show or game, which means you love your game (movie, show) more than you love us.
The whole reasoning behind this is: "If you had taken the time to get to know us, you would really know how I feel about ________. And you would know what to do."
We are having dinner at a restaurant and Drusila and her husband, who happen to be there, come to say hi. For the past month I have been telling you how much I hate Drusila and her stupid conversations. When the Drusila couple comes, you invite them to sit with us, or worse yet, you make plans to go out with them in the future. While Drusila is there, I will smile and pretend everything is just fine. I will even compliment her ugly blouse. At this point you start thinking that maybe I don't hate Drusila that much, so you think you made the right decision by inviting them over. They leave and hell breaks loose! And you don't know what just happened.
"If you had been listening to what I have been saying for the past month, you would know I HATE Drusila and I would never dream of going anywhere with her. You should have politely told them we were busy or do anything to get rid of them!"
You say: "But Honey, you were so kind to her, I thought you didn't hate her that much..."
"I was being NICE!! For goodness' sake, don't you ever listen?!! "
You say: "Well, next time just tell me what to do and I'll do it..."
And then the dreaded phrase makes its appearance:
"I shouldn't have to tell you what to do. You should know!"
"You're right honey. I promise it won't happen again. Tomorrow I will call Drusila's husband and call the plans off."
It is important that you not only apologize, but also take action to make things better. IN this case, guy offered to call the plans off. Whatever your mistake was, make sure you offer to take some sort of action that will soothe your girl. In most cases, girl will calm down after given such an affectionate response.
These are only two of the most used phrases. Stay tuned for more answers and tips on understanding women. Until then, treat your women nice and take care of them like the treasure they are! Ciao!