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HOW TO CREATE A STRONG INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR SPOUSE

Updated on May 21, 2016

Many today are in a relationship where there is no love, intimacy and trust. This is because they have failed to apply some important qualities needed to achieve a strong relationship. In this article, I will be talking about those important things married couples or the unmarried ones can apply in their relationship to make it strong.

Try to see your partner for who he or she really is.

In a relationship, it is important that you see your partner for who or she really is. In this way, you will learn to appreciate your partners qualities including his/her weaknesses and this will lead to a stronger relationship.

Be ready to learn from each other

To enjoy a strong relationship, humility must be cultivated. When you are humble, you will be ready to accept your mistakes and even learn from your partner most times. Try and see your partner as a mirror and learn from the reflection how you can be a better person. When you are angry, instead of blaming your partner or pointing fingers, remain awake to what has yet to be healed in yourself.

Create time for intimacy

May be due to your busy schedule or trying to balance your work life and your home life, you might not really have time for intimacy. If you want your relationship to be strong, you will need to make out time for this. You can do this by setting aside 30minutes to 1 hour to be with your partner. Make sure you do this in a place that’s conducive devoid of destraction from kids or workmates. This will help strengthen your relationship.

Be open and honest to your partner

Honesty is a vital quality in a relationship, especially if you are married. If you want your relationship to last, try and be open to your partner do not withhold any information or hold back when there’s something to address. This will help fortify your relationship.

Listen to your partner

When your partner has anything to tell you, listen carefully why he/she talks. If your partner tells you about a problem, take that statement seriously and work on resolving the problem either alone or together.

Never shout or yell at your partner

Whenever there is an issue, never shout at your partner. Yelling at your partner will only achieve two things; either your partner yells back or you’ll begin screaming at each other or your partner will be fearful of you. When problems arise, find a way and solve it or you walk away if you are very angry. If you feel angry, why not take your leave. The truth is that anything you say that moment you are angry will never achieve a positive result. So if you should say anything, wait till your anger has calmed down, in that way, your relationship will continue to be strong.

Increase your physical contact

A physical contact is very important in strengthening a relationship. Physical contact will make your partner feel desired, comfortable and close to you. Physical contact doesn’t really mean sex; it can mean holding hands, kissing, embracing or other forms of affectionate contact. This will help make the relationship stronger and long lasting.

Express gratitude for every little thing

Always some form of gratitude when your partner does something nice. You can do this by thanking your partner when he/she cooks, fixes a broken cabinet or other things in the house. This will make you partner feel appreciated and will be more likely to continue doing those nice things. Do not overlook these things, always appreciate your partner whenever he or she does some nice things. This will help strengthen the bond of love existing between the two of you.

Always make use of “I” statements

When there is disagreement between you and your partner, avoid using “you” statements. Rather use the “I” statement. For example, don’t say this to your partner; “You are always late, and make me feel bad as a result”. “You” statements conveys blame to your partner while “I” statements reframes the conversation in a way that focuses on the feeling, not on pinning blame or guilt. When you apply this, it will go a long way in strengthening your relationship.

By following these steps, you will be able to strengthen your relationship with your partner. Thanks for reading my hub!

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