- Gender and Relationships
Being Happy with People
Do you agree that many of us make the initial mistake of believing that happiness is something hard to achieve? We wait for a kind of magic to strike and make us happy. When this does not happen, we are resentful, and which little did we know -- is the wrong attitude.
I hope this hub will inspire us!
Nice and Accepting
Being nice is approachable and within means. It is not looking at our own ideals. It is not setting pace for the rest of the world.
Expect good but not too much. Accepting realities teaches the ability to come to terms with one's own life as it really is - not as we imagine it ought to be. This is the best recipe for making success of the little that has been put into one's hands. We can take what is offered by those around us and give at least as much as we receive. These instances can help take us being happy with people.
Happy to Belong
It is most likely to enjoy people if we are prepared to put some of what we possess into a friendship or relationship, regardless of what we get out of it.
Can we do favors readily? Sure, we can help ourselves by helping others, and if possible, let's not look for a way out if somebody asks for a helping hand. Selflessly helping people is a powerful way to feel good. People feel good when they do good.
When plans are being discussed and we put the preferences of others before our own, not showing plainly that we hate having our routine disturbed; we will be included in the program. This initiative will give us the courage to offer. We then are taking part of life's surprises which brings us some of the happiest moments.
Trying to bring everything around to one's point of view and handle them well, soon will gain us a desirable sensation of "belongingness."
If we've been told that we're too sensitive, then we probably are. This usually means we may be overly emotional and don't feel sufficiently secure. We need to be careful. If we don't guard against these ill-feelings, people will regard us as a liability.
Going temperamental has a tendency to allow the poison of hurt or anger accumulate inside us which eventually will become a raging inferiority-complex. This state of mind is a drawback to our relationship with people. It leads to nowhere.
It is recommended to turn it around. If we have to disagree with someone, we can say it in a nice way. An effort to understand circumstances helps take responsibility for one's sensitivity. It reminds us that the person probably means no harm. This way, we will learn to manage our feelings before they get out of control.
But let's not rush to our fences. It would be perfect to have everybody loving us in five minutes. But this just isn't always possible. We have to build gradually. At the end, we will realize that being firm, clear, constructive and patient, are some of the ways to be happy with people anywhere... anytime.
Proceeding with Caution
Conflicts arise. But taking the long view helps subside the heat. Details tend to magnify that molehills become mountain leading to quarrels. It isn't the big disputes that are the danger - but the little squabblers. Watch it, or it becomes a habit. In fact, men are very cautious about this, they hate emotional scenes and will do anything to avoid one. It only pays not to risk a showdown for a trifle, that we may not hear a lot of unpleasant things about us.
When one disappointment with someone deter us, let's not give in that easy. Let's try again. Trying to think from the other person's position may help us see his emotions and logic. Then we may understand the situation better and may have some other feelings for that person than anger.
Rules to avoid quarrel may be very hard, but it's our only chance to reduce it. If we learn to forgive, we will be happy.
Being with People
Being grateful for the goodness that is already evident in one's life provides a deeper sense of happiness.
Do you find content being around with people no matter who they are? or are you not afraid to take time out to hang or just be? How long has it been since you’ve ‘gone out to play? Why do you invite family and friends over for dinner? Why are you making list for Christmas presents?
I guess you'll agree with me that when someone is important to us, we'll give time for them, and even for just a few minutes, we're much eager to make them a part of us. We don't even have to consider whether or not we’re making them happy because we simply enjoy being with them. Making them happy makes us happy; and the best part of that? Nothing beats the feeling of making a commitment and keeping it with the help of those around us. So being with people makes us happy... and being with the most important people in our life sums us up.
One thing that TRULY makes people happy above anything else is LOVE... or should I say the habit of caring for people around you more than about ourselves. The less we worry about our own and more about the others, the happier with people we will be.