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Have I fallen in love?

Updated on January 8, 2013
Infatuation? Obsession? Admiration? Attachment? Or true love?
Infatuation? Obsession? Admiration? Attachment? Or true love?

Am I in love? What is love? Can you fall out of love?... Let's find out

It's the age old questions, that no one ever has the right answers to. You can ask for the best advice from your dearest friends, closest family members, ex partners, strangers, priests, psychics, even your dog... However, it is only YOU that can answer that question "Have I fallen in love?"

First and foremost, Love excludes any form of jealousy. That can answer your question immediately. If you experience jealousy with your partner, loved one, girlfriend, boyfriend, wife or husband, you are not in love.

How could you possibly experience jealousy when love should have no expectations? It seems love has become conditional over the past years, with a few exceptions of course. People are now saying or thinking "if he/she doesn't buy me presents, take me out, look after me, speak more quietly, cook more often, has sex more etc... then I will stop loving them" You are then basing love purely on conditions and therefore not loving who they actually are. Now don't get me wrong, one shouldn't tolerate any kind of abuse, or lose any kind of self respect for the sake of loving your partner, however, if love is returned, they wouldn't be doing that to you in the first place.

Love can grow, love can change and you can learn endlessly in love.

I feel I could carry on writing forever once it comes to love, one thing just leads to another, not that I am an expert or anything, but it's just intriguing to hear the opinions, views, stories of others who think they are in love and those that are in love. I may also like to one day express my experiences in love too.

I will try to wrap things up now, seeing as this is only my first blog. With love, you just want to see your loved one happy, content and healthy. Love can be expressed in many different ways, hence the complexity of it. There are billions of blogs, essays, debates, books, articles, movies, documentaries on love, but they all have one clear message. There is no pain in love.

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      Silva Hayes 5 years ago from Spicewood, Texas

      Love is always kind. Nice hub. Voted Up.

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      Anika 5 years ago from London, UK

      Thank you Silva, that's very nice of you!.. And agreed, love is always kind :)

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      A James Di Rodi 5 years ago

      Love is the only flower that grows and blossoms without the aid of the seasons. Great hub.

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      Anika 5 years ago from London, UK

      Thank you Jangaplanet, glad you liked it. Thats a lovely description on love :)

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      Sam 5 years ago from Tennessee

      Well written and meaningful. Love is also patient. Voted up and beautiful...

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      Denise Handlon 5 years ago from North Carolina

      A wonderful hub about the nature of Love. Who would not find it beautiful. Rated up.

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      Yaduvanshi 5 years ago from Bharat Vrse

      Nice Hub

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      Sid Kemp 5 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida (near Miami and Palm Beach)

      True love, indeed, carries us on forever. Keep writing!

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      chaturrajneesh 5 years ago from India

      Very well written hub. I believe Love is selfless and free from all jealousy.

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      Rayne123 2 years ago

      Now I like to comment on this beautiful hub. Read it again.

      Its very well written and speaks so much truth. Love should be simple. Like you said anything a couple goes through can be overcome by love.

      However as you mentioned, any abusive relationship is not love.

      There are so many stories of women staying out of fear, when that happens, its time to move on.

      So thank you for your simple but informative hub on love.

      Blessings

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