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Having Thoughts Of Your Ex Boyfriend With Another Woman

Updated on November 19, 2010

Having Thoughts Of Your Ex Boyfriend With Another Woman

You're standing in a grocery store check out line holding a carton of eggs and all of a sudden you start to imagine the couple standing in front of you is your ex with his new girlfriend and those eggs in your hands becomes history. This is becoming to be the norm now everytime you start imagining your ex with another woman and there seems to be nothing you can do about these thoughts.

You had something special with your ex and now another woman is benefiting from what you once shared with your ex, you had hopes of someday getting back together with him, but now those hopes are fading away everyday.

You might even think it is a terrible thing that your hopes are fading away about getting back together with him, when in reality it is the best thing for you, because it will help you to move on with your life without your ex and without these annoying thoughts of seeing your ex with another woman.

When you start to think about your ex and his new girlfriend you should quickly change your thoughts to what you're going to cook for Sundays dinner or what you're going to wear to the party that your friends invited you to and thinking about all of the good looking available guys that will be at this party.

Just because you've broken up with your boyfriend does not mean you're not desireable anymore; you're still a fox that other men will find attractive and when they hear it through the grapevine that you're available they will be asking you out sooner than you think, you just have to keep an open mind and heart.

Whatever you do, don't give up on relationships or put up a wall blocking a potential new guy out. Perhaps, you may need time after your break-up before you get into another one, so explaining this to the new potential guy that you want to take things at a slower pace is something you should do. Explain to him that you're fresh out of another relationship and you want to take time, heal and be ready for the next. If he's a gentleman he will understand where you're coming from and be patient.

Many times when we break up with someone we think that there is no tomorrow, that we are unattractive and that no other man will want us; that is further from the truth. It is also the truth that time heals all wounds and it most definitely can heal a broken heart when you start to realize that loving yourself first is very vital before your new lover is revealed.

If you have remained friends with an ex after your break-up it will be harder for you to shake these feelings of jealousy, especially if you are hanging out with your ex and his new girlfriend; now don't get me wrong there is nothing wrong with hanging out with your ex and his new girlfriend as long as you are totally over him, it doesn't bother you to see him with someone else, you are happy for him and you have moved on.

There is much power in moving on; moving on is freeing, it shakes the shackles off of a failing relationship, it delivers you from being in a relationship where you are content with dealing with drama and crap that your boyfriend is shoveling at you. Moving on liberates and gives you a chance to renew your life so that you can find the happiness you've been searching for and deserve to have.

If your boyfriend can't be satisfied with all the goodness that you bring to his table and he feels the need to look for more, you should open the door and step aside with a big smile on your face as he walks out the door, here comes liberation for you to find a man who values you and know that he has everything he wants and needs in you.

Your ex won't be able to hold a candle to the new man in your life and you will think, "What did I ever see in him, anyway?"





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      Leslie Trotter 5 years ago from New Orleans, La

      I'm glad you like my hub and hopefully it helps... Blessings to you.

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      Motherbynature 5 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      Ha! What an excellent pep talk. You just made my day. Thanks for sharing.

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      Cristine 6 years ago

      Loved's already helping me!

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      Shelvajay 6 years ago from If You Know Me Personally, You Know Where I Am...

      Amen! I am there, closer than I was this time last week!!!!! This was a very well written article!!!!!