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He Loves You If He Comes Back to You....
1. He absolutely HAS TO make the decision on his own!
A co-worker of mine recently finally got engaged. And I am convinced that the reason it took her guy so long to propose is because she tried to pressure him to. She seemed to talk about it on a daily basis, and that made him want to propose even less I'm sure. That's just one of those things that a man has to feel right about doing!
Choosing to be in a relationship works the same way. A guy has to decide it. I've heard many guys say they are turned off when a woman pursues him because it makes her seem desperate. And when a woman seems desperate one has to wonder why she is potentially undesired by other men. They'd rather chose not to date someone to avoid the hassle of finding out she's "crazy" later on.
2) "Do you"
Please never wait for a guy or try to make him want you. That is another thing that screams "desperate"! You have to know you are worth wanting. Even if you have to distract yourself, please never seem like you cannot live without someone, especially not when you'd only been with him for a short while.
So, "do you". Paint, write, and read as you used to enjoy doing! Pick up new hobbies. Try out that Zumba class at the local gym or that cooking class you read about. Go out with the girls or enjoy a spa day. Catch up with some old friends.
Again, if he wants you, he'll really want the new and improved you even more! If it's meant to be, he will notice and come back to you! Don't force it!!