- Gender and Relationships
Helpful Tips on Telling Your Crush You Like Him
When we have a crush on someone and we are not sure if it is reciprical, we are often riddled with self doubt. The fear of being rejected can keep us from realizing our dream. Here are several tips on how to tell someone we have a crush on them.
Choose a Comfortable Environment to Share your Crush
Pick a neutral place where you are both comfortable. Strive for privacy so that neither of you will be in a vulnerable position. Choose a place with the least possible distractions and interruptions.
Have an Easy Escape if Things don't go as Planned
When you choose your setting for the telling, make sure there is a comfortable segueway for "getting out of dodge". The last thing either of you will want is to sit through a 5-course meal or a two hour movie after deciding the crush isn't reciprical. Don't make elaborate plans or overdo by showering your crush with lavish gifts. Try to make it in a casual, comfortable setting.
Dress comfortably when you Tell your Crush that you Like him/her
The inclination is to get dressed up to share the news but unless that's the way you usually dress, DON'T DO IT! If you spend the whole time, self-consciously tugging at your tie/collar or your panyhose, you won't be comfortable or natural when it comes time for the "real" reason that you are there for. You also don't want to distract your crush by dressing too provactively. Be comfortable, be natural and try not to do anything that may make your crush ill at ease.
While it is good to anticipate your crush's response, don't make the mistake of assuming their answers. You may be taking them completely off guard and their initial response could be complete surprise. Allow them time to let this new information sink in. This is not the time to push for a response. Remember that it took you time to come to them with this information, give them time to absorb it.
Be Prepared to State your Case.
Remember that there is a 50/50 chance of how your crush will respond when you tell him/her your feelings. Just as you chose a neutral place to meet and comfortable clothing to wear, it would be wise to pick your words carefully, as well. Don't bombard, be overbearing or babble on and on. Be direct. Tell your crush that you would like to get to know him/her a little better. Allow them time to absorb that information.
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When you can't tell your Crush that you like him in Person.
If you don't think that you can do this in person, there are other ways to go about this. You can:
- Have a mutual friend intervene for you.
- Send an e-mail or a card.
- Skype with him/her.