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Helpful Tips on Telling Your Crush You Like Him

Updated on June 5, 2014
When we tell someone we have a crush on them, our heart is in our hands.
When we tell someone we have a crush on them, our heart is in our hands. | Source

When we have a crush on someone and we are not sure if it is reciprical, we are often riddled with self doubt. The fear of being rejected can keep us from realizing our dream. Here are several tips on how to tell someone we have a crush on them.

Choose a Comfortable Environment to Share your Crush

Pick a neutral place where you are both comfortable. Strive for privacy so that neither of you will be in a vulnerable position. Choose a place with the least possible distractions and interruptions.

Be careful not to overdo!
Be careful not to overdo! | Source

Have an Easy Escape if Things don't go as Planned

When you choose your setting for the telling, make sure there is a comfortable segueway for "getting out of dodge". The last thing either of you will want is to sit through a 5-course meal or a two hour movie after deciding the crush isn't reciprical. Don't make elaborate plans or overdo by showering your crush with lavish gifts. Try to make it in a casual, comfortable setting.

Dress comfortably when you Tell your Crush that you Like him/her

The inclination is to get dressed up to share the news but unless that's the way you usually dress, DON'T DO IT! If you spend the whole time, self-consciously tugging at your tie/collar or your panyhose, you won't be comfortable or natural when it comes time for the "real" reason that you are there for. You also don't want to distract your crush by dressing too provactively. Be comfortable, be natural and try not to do anything that may make your crush ill at ease.

What??!!

While it is good to anticipate your crush's response, don't make the mistake of assuming their answers. You may be taking them completely off guard and their initial response could be complete surprise. Allow them time to let this new information sink in. This is not the time to push for a response. Remember that it took you time to come to them with this information, give them time to absorb it.

Be Prepared to State your Case.

Remember that there is a 50/50 chance of how your crush will respond when you tell him/her your feelings. Just as you chose a neutral place to meet and comfortable clothing to wear, it would be wise to pick your words carefully, as well. Don't bombard, be overbearing or babble on and on. Be direct. Tell your crush that you would like to get to know him/her a little better. Allow them time to absorb that information.


Are you Ready to Tell Your Crush You Like Him/Her


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If all else fails, you can always skype your intententions!
If all else fails, you can always skype your intententions! | Source

When you can't tell your Crush that you like him in Person.

If you don't think that you can do this in person, there are other ways to go about this. You can:

  • Have a mutual friend intervene for you.
  • Send an e-mail or a card.
  • Skype with him/her.


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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you, Hailey! Much appreciated!

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      Hailey 4 years ago

      Thanks interesting hub, voted up and interesting.

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      So at, dear Colin! Thank you!

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      epigramman 4 years ago

      Well I've had a crush on you my ravishing Randi since the day I saw you and then read your hubs - woweeeeeeeeeeeeeee, lol, off to bed after night shift work at 6:18am and please look after your family and I wish everyone health and happiness from Colin and his cat crew Tiffy and Gabriel while watching the daylight over the lake and love to you as well from your 3 adoring Canadians

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you so much, nighthag and welcome to my humble hub page! I do hope it helps!

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      K.A.E Grove 4 years ago from Australia

      A great read that I have to share on, thanks for this helpful information that I'm sure will help many struggling to express themselves, :)

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Good luck, pokerpanda! I hope so too! Let me know how it goes!

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      pokerpanda 4 years ago

      thank you so much! I hope this works. :)

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Oh my gosh, Sue, I had a similar thing happen to me a couple of years ago. It really frightened me. Thank you so much for your votes and....I am sooo sorry it took me so long to answer you!

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      Sueswan 4 years ago

      Hi Randi,

      It is been awhile since I've had a crush on someone. I never told them. Your tips would have certainly come in handy. I did have someone tell me that they had a crush on me. I told them delicately as I could that I didn't feel the same way. I won't repeat the verbal abuse that was sent my way.

      Voted up and awesome

      Have a great week. :)

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you, Anahi! Wow! What a great compliment! Now, about you being past the crush stage.....that's probably only a temporary thing....your little girl is going to get older, start being more independent and suddenly, you will have time for you.

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      Anahi Pari-di-Monriva 4 years ago from Massachusetts

      Wow, Randi! You always come up with interesting ideas for Hubs and then you write and flush them out so flawlessly! This was great, even if I, too, am past the crush phase...indeed, I am wont to say that I don't want another love in my life: I'd rather take a nap than flirt, get ready for a date, etc. etc. etc.! :-) However, I will file this Hub away for my daughter who is just entering the "hormonal middle school years!"

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      Anahi Pari-di-Monriva 4 years ago from Massachusetts

      Wow, Randi! You always come up with interesting ideas for Hubs and then you write and flush them out so flawlessly! This was great, even if I, too, am past the crush phase...indeed, I am wont to say that I don't want another love in my life: I'd rather take a nap than flirt, get ready for a date, etc. etc. etc.! :-) However, I will file this Hub away for my daughter who is just entering the "hormonal middle school years!"

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thanks Martin! I always love to hear your story.

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      Martin Kloess 4 years ago from San Francisco

      You heard my story. At the last minute Arlene shed the magic tear.

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      lol, drbj! When you figure out where to find that crush, send me his brother! Thanks for always being such a fun commenter!

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      drbj and sherry 4 years ago from south Florida

      I just took your quiz, Randi, and scored 100% correct. Now I have two questions for you: 1) Where can I find a crush? and 2) What is/are a panty hose?

      Just kidding. Fun hub, m'dear.

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you, Mary! It was fun to put together! I appreciate the votes!

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      Mary Craig 4 years ago from New York

      I'm a little past the crush stage but I definitely think this is a helpful hub for those who aren't. Your points are well made and will keep both people comfortable no matter what the results.

      Voted up, useful, and interesting.

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you, Jackie! Haven't you ever been bored to tears or grossed out on a date? I once went out with a guy who drooled every time he tried to talk (which wasn't too much luckily!) I got politely through the meal but couldn't wait to go home! lol

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you, pinto2011 for stopping by and leaving such a nice comment!

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you, Bill! I would have been right there with you, stuck in that awkward stage most of my life! My weekend is going well! I hope yours is too!

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      Jackie Lynnley 4 years ago from The Beautiful South

      Some really good and sound advice. Who would think about a quick get away but it could well be the case if we have read someone wrong, huh? ^

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you, Suzie! I wish I had them, too! If course I am back on the market again and still sometimes just as awkward! Lol! Thank you do much for the votes and share!

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you, My Cook Book. I appreciate the visit and comment!

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      Subhas 4 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Your useful tips will seriously unlock the horn and let the emotions flow and merge with where they meant to be.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I could have used these tips when I was younger. I was so terribly shy and awkward, Randi. It was painful to watch. Thankfully I grew out of that stage and grew into some confidence. :)

      I hope you are having a great weekend my friend.

      bill

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      Suzanne Ridgeway 4 years ago from Dublin, Ireland

      Hi Randy,

      What great tips I wish I had growing up when I was always having crushes on the older boys! Many thanks for this list which all make sense and should be taken on board to avoid the awkward moments. Cheers great job! Voted up, useful, interesting and shared!

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      Dil Vil 4 years ago from India

      Good hub and was very well written. Great work!

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      John Paolo B.Magdaluyo 4 years ago from Philippine

      My pleasure to read such useful tips.

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Thank you, PaoloJPM! I appreciate your stopping by and your comments.

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      John Paolo B.Magdaluyo 4 years ago from Philippine

      I have a hub on how to determine if you have a crush on someone and your hub is such a process. Anyway, making segueway would be very challenging since,be with someone you terrifically liked is something out of this world feeling.