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Hey Girls! Say hi to your First Love!

Updated on July 16, 2015

Everyone wants to be in love—(well, of course it’s a great feeling!) They want this perfect partner- loving, caring, supportive, loyal, good-looking, and the list goes on and on.

But have you ever wondered why you are not able to attract that perfect love into your life? And why is it that some girls out there have it all?

Let me tell you how I see it.

First, answer this question honestly- Do we truly love ourselves? And do we truly believe that we can be loved for exactly who we are and how we look?

How many times have we felt unhappy with ourselves? How many times have we wished that we were taller, shorter, thinner, curvier, less curvy, thicker hair, no stretch marks, smarter…?

My advice: STOP!

Your first relationship HAS to be with yourself. If you don’t love yourself, you cannot really love someone else.

First Relationship with- MYSELF!

In order to fall in love with someone else, you must fall for yourself first. Think about it, how can you fall in love with someone else, when you don’t love yourself at all?

I am asking you to be in love with your self the way you would want your partner to be in love with you. Do things for you, don’t criticize, embrace yourself, be loyal to yourself… and see what happens next.

Yes! Go ahead, Love your body, your stretch marks, your curves, EVERY DAMN thing! It doesn’t matter. The moment you accept and love you, everything changes.

I have read so many books, and all of them have been talking about the Law of Attraction… So if you keep telling yourself, you are not good enough… you will attract more people in your life who think you are not good enough.

If you truly love yourself, you attract people who truly love you. Simple!

I am not saying stop working on yourself. Of course work towards getting fit, eat right, drink water—But all this for yourself. Not to impress someone out there.

Something out of personal experience—the moment you start loving yourself, TRULY, you leave everything that is unhealthy behind—Junk food, drinking every weekend, food craving, gossiping. You start seeing the best in people and most importantly, your relationship with others automatically improves. It takes zero effort. All are by-products of loving yourself.

Also, insecurities don’t die when you get into a relationship. They really don’t. If you think you are not enough, you will be jealous, angry, attention-seeking and insecure and god-forbid you might just end up ruining a relationship.

At the end, I would like to say that Love is a Soul thing first, then a physical thing. So, go ahead, embrace your self! And remember- Be careful how you talk to yourself, because YOU are listening.


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      Harshika 2 years ago

      Amazingly written. Feels very heart felt and inspiring.

      A good read.

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      Siddhi Agarwal 2 years ago

      Very well expressed and beautifully said... "Be careful how you talk to yourself, because YOU are listening."

      Loved it... Thank u! :)