- Gender and Relationships
Hispanic Women and White Men: Experiences in Love and Dating
Do you want to marry a white man?
Hispanic women and white men as interracial couples is not a topic we read about often, yet these relationships are often filled with passion and devotion.
Today we talk to two married couples -- made of Puerto Rican women and white men -- to find out about their experiences with interracial dating and marriage.
Although there are often many differences between them, Latin women and white men that get married usually also have similarities -- whether it's religion or their family upbringing. Most importantly -- they always have love for each other.
Gloria, 29 and Luke, 29
"Luke and I met at our high school reunion, which I almost didn't go to. I didn't like high school too much, but one of my best friends from back then asked me to go with her. Funny thing is, I didn't even remember Luke from school. I never ran into him, don't remember seeing him him in the halls, and didn't know anyone that knew him either."
"Luke had smooth black hair, dark brown eyes, and an olive complexion. I thought he was Latino at first, thought he might be Puerto Rican. But he isn't. I never thought I'd end up with a white guy, but here I am. We were married six months after we met, and we've been married six months as well. I think we have a lot of fun. If you ask me, yes, Hispanic women and white men are great together."
"It's funny because we have so much in common. We are both Catholic, and he is Italian, so there is a lot of praying and yelling in both of our families. Not bad yelling -- it's just how Latin people talk sometimes. And we've both got that Latin blood in us. I guess I don't have to tell you our sex life is great too!"
Would your parents be upset if you decided to date out of your race?
Marylou, 30 and Mike, 30
"I joined the Army when I was 18. I figured it would get me some college money. It got me a lot more than that. I met my husband at 19 in the military. He didn't know I was Puerto Rican because I have brown hair and freckles and fair skin. Not all of us look the same you know!"
"Well I was attracted to Mike because he has blonde hair and blue eyes. I have always been attracted to white guys. Well that was my chance. Our chemistry was very strong. It doesn't take much when you're 19! I guess it was a little too strong. I got pregnant by accident when our birth control method failed."
"I was scared at first and we fought a lot at first because we were so unprepared to be parents. But we got married at 20 and it has been great since. I can't believe we have been married ten years -- it has gone by so quickly. We have four kids now and I am always chasing one of my kids around in the house."
"Relationships between Latin women and white men will work as long as there is kindness between them and everyone does their part in the marriage. I know that white men are good protectors and providers. Puerto Rican girls like stability in their men and a guy that can raise a family as a good husband and father figure."