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Homosexuality and the Heterosexual Dilemma
Let he without sin cast the first stone
Homosexuality (from Ancient Greekὁμός, meaning "same", and Latinsexus, meaning "sex") is romantic attraction, sexual attraction or sexual behavior between members of the same sex or gender. As an orientation, homosexuality refers to "an enduring pattern of or disposition to experience sexual, affectionate, or romantic attractions" primarily or exclusively to people of the same sex. "It also refers to an individual's sense of personal and social identity based on those attractions, behaviors expressing them, and membership in a community of others who share them."Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homosexuality
Geneticists have concluded that every human fetus contains two chromosomes – consisting of either a X or a Y which determines if the child will be a male or female upon birth. Genetic research concluded that the female fetus have two XX chromosomes identified as homogametic sex while males have two distinct XY chromosomes identified as heterogametic sex. Since the male fetus contain the dominant female X and the female do not contain the male Y chromosomes geneticists originally concluded that the female orientation was the default template for the birth of both sexes. In other words – every human start out as female. In the minds of most male homosexuals such discovery justifies the notion that a human being who may represent a certain sex physically may very well be another sex psychology which would substantiate the claim that homosexual males “were born that way’ and therefore homosexuality becomes a matter of genetics, rather than choice. If genetic scientists are correct in their findings then perhaps the bible is incorrect in the creation story of Adam and Eve – was Eve created first and Adam taken from her rib? If so, it would certainly shed light on the dominant X chromosome of the female species found in men and offer insight which may explain the greater number of men who practice same sex behavior as oppose to females.
From a socio-moral-biblical perspective Homosexuality is much more complex than it appears on the surface and can be argued from various viewpoints ranging from Scientific, Biblical, and Secular – to name a few. From the scientific geneticist viewpoint one can conclude that such behavior is justified by the discovery of the XY chromosomes found in the male fetus with the female X perhaps becoming the dominant chromosome during the developmental years. Perhaps if this can be proven via genetic testing then the argument of male homosexuality becomes a mute point because scientifically speaking every male have inherited female tendencies and to act on such tendencies - mainly same sex interests - would be quite normal. With the female having both dominant XX and no Y chromosome it may also offer a reasonable scientific explanation for female homosexuality as well.
From a biblical viewpoint however, the bible clearly states that homosexual behavior is wrong in accordance to the Old Testament book of Leviticus 20:13 as is states “You are not to have sexual relations with a male as you would with a woman. It's detestable [isv]. Reference statements are also found in the New Testament books of 1 Corinthians 6:9-11; Romans 1:26-28; 1 Timothy 1:10; Jude 1:7; and Romans 1:32 as it states “Though they know God's decree that those who practice such things deserve to die, they not only do them but give approval to those who practice them”.
In their defense however, supporters of homosexual behavior will cite the statement “God loves the sinner but not the sin”. Unfortunately this statement is nowhere to be found in the bible and therefore does not support homosexual behavior from a biblical perspective. Another misquoted statement in support of homosexual activities is found in the book of John 15:12-13 as it states “My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. 1Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends”. However, in such defense verse 14 is often omitted as it states “You are my friends if you do what I command.”. What He commands is found is previous texts which label such acts as detestable. Perhaps God hates both the sin and the sinner as articulated in the book of Psalms 5:4-6 as it states “For you are not a God who is pleased with wickedness; with you, evil people are not welcome. The arrogant cannot stand in your presence. You hate all who do wrong; you destroy those who tell lies. The bloodthirsty and deceitful - You, Lord, detest”. Perhaps the statement “God loves the sinner but hates the sin” originated in the confusion between what God hates, what He allows, and His grace. If God is truly a Just God then what about the homosexual who attends church regularly and pays their tithes and offerings while helping the homeless and the down trodden versus the heterosexual who does just the opposite. Who will be considered the least sinful in the eyes of God – or does a Just God deal with all sin in accordance to His will, His time, and the deeds of the sinner?
From a secular viewpoint one could argue that no one really care about the moral actions of either the homosexual or the heterosexual because each is accountable for their own actions before God – if they believe in the existence of a God. In the case of homosexuals the psychological and scientific communities suggests that male homosexuality may stem from multiple reasons stemming from an unhealthy childhood relationship with females, distorted concepts of gender, uncomfortable with ones own gender, sexual abuse, sexual conditioning, or emotional and psychological problems which have little or nothing to do with XX or XY chromosome factors. In this case homosexuality becomes nothing more than a cultural norm based on environment rather than genetic. They may just simply be interested in sexual relations with other men. Therefore, if a man wishes to lie with another man as with a woman then that’s their business. What people do behind closed doors, in the privacy of their bedrooms is between them and their god. Genetics has little to nothing to do with their choice. There is also a secular viewpoint which suggests that some individuals who practice homosexual activities are not really homosexual by nature but are going through a sexual experimental phase of their lives. Certainly many have experienced this phase. With this in mind should they be labeled and treated as homosexuals or are their actions simply dismissed as a passing phase? Perhaps they fall into the subcategory identified as Gay – which is a carefree person who may be experimenting with homosexual actions but do not consider themselves as homosexuals.
Every human being has been given a free will to choose their own course in life. How they choose, or not choose is their business except if that choice threatens the health, safety, and welfare of the public which in most cases does not apply to homosexual behavior – except in the case of bisexuals who are described as individuals who display sexual interests toward both males and females. Nevertheless, whatever sexual orientation an individual chooses is their preference and they should be respected for the choice – right or wrong. Perhaps the New Testament book of Matthew 7:1-3 KJV supports this philosophy as it states: “Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again. And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?”.
Therein lay the Heterosexual dilemma.
If the statements in the Old Testament book of Psalms 5:4-6 applies across the board to all humans then heterosexual behavior – in most cases – offers no greater righteousness than homosexual behavior. For the bible commands in the New Testament book of Romans 13:8-10 “Owe no one anything, except to love each other, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law. For the commandments, “You shall not commit adultery, You shall not murder, You shall not steal, You shall not covet,” and any other commandment, are summed up in this word: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” Love does no wrong to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfilling of the law”.
In most instances a majority of heterosexuals are guilty of violating the commands in the area of adultery, murder, stealing, covetousness, and all the other commandments. Even for those who believe the law was replaced by grace the bible states; “love is the fulfilling of the law”. Jesus death on the cross did not fulfill the law – it simply brought an end to the Mosaic system of animal sacrifice and ushered in the era of grace and forgiveness” The New Testament book of Romans 3:23 states “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God” [KJV]. In the case of human sexual behavior, which is the greater sin - the homosexual who violates biblical teachings in accordance to Leviticus 20:13 - or the heterosexual who is guilty of the teachings in the book of Romans 13:8-10? The bible states that all have sin and the greater sin is when one allows a disconnected relationship with God. A disconnected relationship results from disobedience to the word of God. With this in mind the heterosexual who allows this disconnect by their chosen actions are just as guilty in the eyes of God as the homosexual; Perhaps for different reasons – but equally guilty. Both groups exist only by the grace of God and therefore should avoid judgment of one another and fear the counsel expressed in the New Testament book of Revelation 21:8 as it states “But as for the cowardly, the faithless, the detestable, as for murderers, the sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars, their portion will be in the lake that burns with fire and sulfur, which is the second death.”
Perhaps it would be wise for both groups to adhere to the counsel given to the woman found in adultery as expressed in the New Testament book of John 8:7-11 as it states “ And as they continued to ask him, he stood up and said to them, “Let him who is without sin among you be the first to throw a stone at her.” And once more he bent down and wrote on the ground. But when they heard it, they went away one by one, beginning with the older ones, and Jesus was left alone with the woman standing before him. Jesus stood up and said to her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?” She said, “No one, Lord.” And Jesus said, “Neither do I condemn you; go, and from now on sin no more.” .
This article does not support homosexual behavior nor does it condemns the individual. It is being presented to offer an open minded viewpoint on the subject. At the end of the day – or a life cycle – it is the individual who will be made accountable for his or her actions before God – if they believe a God exists. If an individual is struggling with homosexual tendencies they should seek professional help and guidance. However, if they have accepted a homosexual lifestyle and is comfortable with their choice they should have the freedom to live life to the fullest without discrimination, harassment, or violence. Silence is not an act of acceptance. It is an understanding of the New Testament book of Romans 26:11 as it states: God “will repay each person according to what they have done.”To those who by persistence in doing good seek glory, honor and immortality, he will give eternal life. But for those who are self-seeking and who reject the truth and follow evil, there will be wrath and anger. There will be trouble and distress for every human being who does evil: first for the Jew, then for the Gentile; but glory, honor and peace for everyone who does good: first for the Jew, then for the Gentile. For God does not show favoritism.
Remember also Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God”. And Matthew 7:1-3 “Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again. And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?”.
For those who see homosexuality as an abomination to the Lord and feel a need to punish the individual(s) - take heed to Romans 12:19 as it states: "Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, vengence is mine, I will repay, says the Lord".
Salvation is a personal matter – and every individual is responsible for their own. Life is too short to worry about people and their personal choices that can not be controled. If that personal choice does not directly affect you or your family then your only recourse is to Live and let live!