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Being Randy is Healthy
Why do people keep pertaining to sex as sinful? It's only natural.
So what did I miss? Sex is normal, human, and quite basic animalistic behavior if you ask me. Yes, I'm over 37 and female, and so I have a sexual peak near that of 18-year-old males. If you have any confusion, please read up on John Gray's . Mars and Venus Starting Over
Do you know what saddens me? People who feel guilty because certain religious groups have called their "urges" sinful. No. No. No. Only if you are hurting yourself, someone else, or don't practice safe sex. The guilt is an ingredient unnecessary to the mix.
But for the female gender: I would suggest holding off on intimate relationships until you are in an exclusive, committed relationship. Mostly because of our brain function. It's called oxytocin, and it's a nasty little ingredient that makes us "bond" with the person who connects with us, sexually. For men, the hormone lasts in their brains for up to 48 hours post-coitus. For women, it can last for up to two weeks. So you see why it's so dangerous for women to engage in "Friends with Benefits." So "just say 'no'" to the players who want a one-night-stand. They are getting all the benefit, while you are getting a broken heart in the works.
Don't believe me? Read more here.
Certainly, God wouldn't have given all of us this fabulously addictive hormone unless he wanted us to have sex--often. Assuming it's with the same partner. Leave the guilt at the door.... what happens behind bedroom doors stays behind bedroom doors.
I have a profile on LinkedIn that has "love coach" as one of my job descriptions. I am serious about that (in a humorous way). I don't take myself too serious, but when it comes to self-help and inspiring others, my work is serious business. I may not become rich with my writing, but I'm doing what I love. So, I guess that makes me wealthy beyond my dreams. If I can help just one person to "see the light" at the end of the tunnel, then my mission is accomplished.
Don't be afraid to let loose with your partner. No guilt, no shame. Loving each other means letting go of your inhibitions and embracing the fun of the moment. For more insight to this phenomenon, read up on my previous Hubs. The one about "Raise Your Hand if you Love Sex... and Miss It" is a must read. I still miss it. Enjoy the cosmos with your mate, for me.
What is your view on sex? Do you think it's a sin to have sex when you aren't married? How about if you are divorced and in a new relationship--are you guilty if you want to have sex with a new partner? Even if your spouse cheated on you and you had no choice in the divorce? Do you think it's wrong to date a divorced person? Do children from a single parent affect your choices when you start dating someone. Feedback is always welcome.
Thanks for reading.