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Housewife – What do housewives do?
I am 27 years turning 28 in a couple months and I got married when I was 26 going on 27. Before that, when I wasn’t in University getting both my undergrad and postgrad degrees I was working in my field of study. However, when I got married I left my really good job which involved travelling so that I could migrate with my husband due to his even better job. It was a personal decision that I made and have not regretted it ... yet! Even though that meant me moving to a new country where I don’t speak the language, not being able to work and basically being a housewife instead of following and continuing my career. Like I said... a personal choice. I married they guy I was dating for 6 years so the decision was an easy one and as a newlywed I did not want to live apart so soon in our marriage.
Okay, so now that you know the background... let me get to the meat of what I want to say. Since we moved here I basically adapted to my new life. I can’t complain. We live by the beach in a really nice town and I have everything that I could possibly want. So I’m happy and yes contented. Well I am often asked, “What do you do all day long?”, “Besides cooking, what else do you do?” and “Don’t you get bored?”
I am even asked these questions by housewives themselves from my home country. Off course if I was back home I would not be a housewife, not that I have a problem with it, but I would continue following my career. Here, I don’t have much choice. I am not learning the language like I should be so that’s adding to making it difficult to find a job. Also there’s the issue of the visa.
What do Housewives Do?
Okay so what do housewives do? I don’t know about other housewives but I can tell you about what I do!
There’s the obvious stuff:
1) Cooking: before getting married I never had to cook. That was done for me and so I only learnt how to make a few dishes. Then I went cold turkey into a marriage where after one month of being married we migrated where we have no family to cook and send food so I had no choice but to get my act together and start learning! Thank goodness my hubby can cook. At least we knew we would not starve. Well the first few months I spent cooking up a storm, experimenting with different dishes and taking lots of pictures of the food I made like my Paella. I was so proud of myself and my hubby's reaction to my cooking had me delighted. Thank goodness I was not failing miserably. I don't know what I would do if I discovered I had no cooking talents whatsoever $6. Maybe we might have lost weight which would not have been a bad thing but I am sure I would have gotten depressed. Off course this task was made much easier by using a gift - A recipe book "Naparima Girls' High School Cookbook" which was given to me by my mother-in-law. This saved me! I love this book. Thank goodness the recipes are simple, easy to follow, and because it's food from my home country, we don't miss home food as much! Okay so I have cooking covered... this is something that housewives do right? What next?
2) Washing Clothes: For the first few months, actually up until recently, I was washing clothes using what I refer to as the 'bucket' system. The first apartment we rented we were not allowed to have a washing machine so I had to adapt. I did this by soaking clothes overnight in buckets and washing it by hand the next day. Now I have a washing machine in our next apartment and boy oh boy I love it! So I wash clothes too...another 'houswife' chore right?
3) Cleaning: Don't all housewives do this? Well maybe not.. the lucky ones probably hire a maid. I have to admit when I first moved here on the days I really did not feel to clean I would hire a maid and my husband would laugh when he got home ... he'd be like ... what you doing so that you have to hire a maid? Well he knows me and thank goodness he loves me! But it's been a while since I afforded myself that luxury. So I clean as well.... and living by the beach means sea blast and lots and lots of dust.. trust me ... not something I love but that's the price for enjoying this lovely fresh sea breeze. Okay so there you go .. three obvious household/housewive chores - cooking, cleaning and washing! Mind you my husband helps me cook sometimes cause he really loves to cook and with a little smile and hug here and there I even get him to help me sweep and clean the porch windows. Lucky me!
Now for What else does this housewife do?
So I think I covered the obvious housewife duties there.. not on for what else this housewife does during the day while the husband is at work. And let me just say - NO I don't get bored. Maybe it's my personality or just me.. but I like my life as it is and I think I've done well adapting... I am thankful boredom does not take over because that would be very hard to deal with and I know will have my husband stressed as well!
4) Reading: When I first got here I took the opportunity to read my novels. I love, love to read and I know you don't always get the time to just immerse yourself in a good book. Well I love romance novels and suspense thrillers as well so I made sure and buy some before I came here. Well I spent many days reading and in no time I needed more books. Good luck finding an English novel in this town we are in.. It's all Portuguese. But we did visit Barra da Tijuca and got English novels in a mall there and then when that was finished I ordered online from Amazon! I really do enjoy reading and when I start a Judith McNaught novel.. well there's no stopping me! Now I don't read as much because I've discovered making money online.. but more on that later. I did however get my husband to start reading novels and he reads at night whilst I'm online. Sometimes.
5) Playing Wii: Okay so my next addiction after reading was playing Wii Sports. It is something that we get to enjoy as a couple and well it's fun and also a form of exercise.
6) Exercising & Riding my Bicycle: Okay so only at the end of last year we really started exercising. There's a lovely boardwalk outside for walking and riding bicycles and we developed a routine that we love. After my hubby comes from work we spend time exercising. Last month he bought me a bicycle and I never thought at this age I'd be riding a bike but I love it. So that's something that takes up about 2 hours of our day almost every day. Off course this includes just chilling out on a bench and watching other people walk by and ride by... human observation.. very interesting :-)
7) My online addictions: Now, as of late, this is something that takes up the majority of my time. One day whilst online I discovered GoogleAdsense and the opportunity to make money online. It spiraled from there and next thing you know I'm answering as many questions as I can on Webanswers, I'm blogging on Leandraluv...Life's Moments, and I'm writing here at Hubpages. Mind you .. these things take up a significant amount of my time, especially webanswers where I can lose track of time. But I enjoy all three sites tremendously and even though my earnings thus far are not so much I'm happy doing what I do and I will keep on trying to increase my earnings whilst doing stuff that I have fun doing! I use to write for Helium but that's a lot of time and much much less rewards than the GoogleAdsense program. Mind you, now I don't check my Facebook profile like I used to. I mean I was always on facebook and even had my friends heckling me but now I still check it but definitely not as much as I use to.
8) Email: Let me tell you, checking your email, especially the way I do - is time consuming. I know it's a bad habit I've developed but I check my email a million times a day. If you send me an email now.. give me five minutes and you'd see I'd respond. That is bad. WARNING :-) Time consuming and time wasting - bad time management! I love my gmail!
9) TESOL Course: One morning I got up and decided I felt like going to work again. Problem is I don't have a good handle on the Portuguese language as yet and so my options are very limited. So I decided to check out what I can do that's within my comfort zone. So I decided on probably teaching English in a school in this area or something. I did some research and found a great online course, chose the option with a tutor, signed up, paid and started! Simple as that. Now the hard part - doing the studies :-) TESOL is Teaching English as a Second or Other Language and the good part is that they offer the service of helping you find a teaching job almost anywhere in the world. So that's really great. Wish me luck! This housewife is going to try her best!
10) Digital Scrapbooking: This is something that I love. My favorite hubby. I won't go into detail here but you can read all about My Love for Scrapbooking and see some layouts as well. I don't get the time to do this as much anymore but if I take a really special picture and I want to spice it up I take the time to do some digital scrapbooking.
11) Painting: Recently my hubby and I bought some watercolor paints and paint brushes and decided to try our hands at being the world's next great artists! Well we are very, very far from being anything near remotely 'good' but we have fun with it. I write about it on my blog and I put up photos of what we've done so far. We only painted twice because of his work schedule but when we get more time we will have fun! It's a couple activity so I don't paint without him.. he likes to do it and well it's a little competition in there!
Okay so I know many of you out there think along the lines of .. what does someone who is a housewife do all day, especially if they don't have children? Well I don't have any kiddies as yet and I know when that time comes that's a whole different story but let me just tell you - I've experienced both ends of the coin - working and being a housewife. I've never been a working wife which is something totally different and frankly I am not sure how I'd be in that role. Working all day and coming home to cook and clean.. Yeah right.. for sure my salary will be going towards a housekeeper :-)
Okay so people, housewives or even work at home wives have many things to do and based on their interests this could be just about anything. So try not to be too judgmental! I think it's a job like any other. With many tasks to be completed at the end of the day. Just with more time to watch tv and take breaks :-) Ooh yeah I forgot to put "Watch Tv" as an activity above but I don't watch too much TV during the day, only at night with my husband. But now we got cable so ... trouble! And off course I left out the bedroom action part :-) So maybe other housewives can let me know what they think - do people always say you're lucky to be home all day and what do you do all day? Just wondering.
Just wanted to share this Good Wife Guide with you. A friend sent it to me and I posted it on my blog. It's hilarious. Enjoy. To read it you might have to click here to get it enlarged "Good Wife Guide"