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How A Couple's Retreat Can Save Your Marriage

Updated on July 24, 2015
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This is part of a hub series that aims at providing helpful life hack and relationship tips!

Dealing With A Marriage Crisis

Nobody ever said marriage is an easy task. When you are with someone for an extended period of time, you are going to end up having some problems at some point. Sometimes these problems can end up increasing to the point where you and your partner might find yourselves having to deal with a marriage crisis. During this time, you might find yourself wanting to save the marriage, but you might be unsure of how to go about putting the pieces back together. If you find yourself in this position, a marriage retreat can be the perfect way to completely turn things around and get back on track.


Elimanting Stress Can Help You Think Clearer About Your Marriage

Stress is something that we are never going to be able to get rid of completely. Almost every day we are bombarded by stress in different forms. When you are trying to get through a marriage crisis, stress levels can have a major impact on dealing with the causes of the problems. The more stressed that we are, the harder it can be for us to think about the marriage in the right perspective. Being able to take a break from these stress levels can help you clear your mind and start the healing process. Marriage stress is normally one of the biggest contributing factors to a crisis.

The negative impact that stress can have on a marriage that is in crisis is numerous. Stress can cause us to be short tempered and can have a direct impact on what we are thinking. When you or your partner are stressed out, it can be easier for one, or both of you, to always just jump to a negative thought. These negative thoughts can distract both of you from what the root causes of the problems you are facing really on. These thoughts can also create imaginary problems or they can generate new issues.

If you are able to lower or eliminate your stress levels, even if it is only for a couple of days, both you and your spouse are going to have an easier time opening up the dialog that is going to patch things up. Out of all of the different ways that people try to manage stress, sometimes the best way to cope with it is just spend some time with some new scenery. A simple couple of days away, can have a positive impact on your over all stress level.

The first step to fixing an problems that your marriage is facing is always the hardest step to take. Marriages are a type of partnership that you make with someone that you care deeply about. Over the years, stress can add a huge strain onto your relationship. When this happens, both partners tend to be contributing to the problems that the marriage is facing. When it comes to be able to successfully get things back on course, you have to be able to first acknowledge both sides contributions to any marital dispute. Once you can address these core issues, any marriage retreat that the two of embark on is going to be all the more effective.

Being Honest with Yourself is Something that You Have to Do

A Couple's Retreat Vs. Just A Vacation

To get through a marriage crisis a regular vacation might not be the right way to go about fixing your problems. If you where having problems before with communicating, taking a vacation that is just the two of you, could very well end up just as stressful as the situation is back at home. A retreat can give you not only the change of scenery that you are looking for, but it will also provide you and your spouse with the kind of supporting atmosphere that will make it easier to talk through the issues.

Couple's retreats will also have other couples who are also going through the same difficulties that you are. Many times when you are dealing with a marriage crisis, it can become easy to develop feelings of being loneliness and isolation. By being able to converse with other people who are going through the same thing that you are, you will not only be able to combat the feelings of loneliness that might arise, but you might also be able to gain some new insight into the problems that you are experiencing.

When you take a couple's retreat you will also have a trained professional who is going to be able to help you and your partner when it comes to bringing up issues. Having a third party help guide during this difficult stage can help ease the tension that you would normally find when you bring up touchy subjects in other situations. Normally when you take a vacation, that is just you and your spouse, you don't get these kinds of benefits.


The Goals Of A Couple's Retreat

Taking a couple's retreat is a very pleasant way to take a break from the normal day to day routine. While you are enjoying your break, you are always going to want to make sure that you don't forget what your goals are. The time that you are going to be spending with your spouse are going to help both of you remember what it was that made the two of you fall in love in the first place. These breaks are so you can focus on just your partner and the needs of your relationship.

During your retreat,both you and your partner are going to have focus on the foundation of your marriage. During fights, it is not uncommon for one, or both partners, to feel like they are not having their equal say. This break down in communication is something that can end up developing in bigger problems and in some cases, be the end of the marriage. During your retreat, both you and your spouse are on equal grounds. It is time that you can speak freely about what bothers you, so that you can than start the process of moving past these hurdles.

During a marriage crisis there is a tendency for the fighting, negative feelings and other troubles that you are experiencing of just being viewed as part of the normal routine. When you take your retreat, part of what you experience is going to entail, is reworking your routines. Breaking the normality that is associated with the problems is going to go a long way with helping you rebuild your marriage.

Always Remember: Communication is Key to a Happy Marriage

Recommitting To Your Relationship

The biggest part about your couple's retreat is going to be the re-commitment that both you are your spouse are going to make at the end of your trip. Everything that you are going to do throughout the retreat are going to be leading up to this crucial stage. When the two of you renew your commitment (either by renewing your vows or similar ceremony), you are giving your relationship a fresh start. The problems that at one point may have seemed like they where going to destroy your marriage are no longer going to be an issue.

The re-commitment at the end of the retreat helps reinforce the progress that you and your spouse have made, while also acting as reminder for both of you how happy your wedding day was. There are very few times in our lives where we get to share an event as special as a wedding with someone. Some parts of the retreat might be a little difficult at first and you and your spouse are going to have to work together to overcome the problems that you marrige is having. When it is over however, the experience of joining hands once again will make everything worth it.

Saving Your Marriage is Something that You Can Do!


© 2015 Jon Peloquin


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