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How Can I Find Love When Everyone Hates Me!

Updated on May 16, 2015
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Everyone Can Find Love - Sometimes it Just Takes a Small Change in Behavior
Everyone Can Find Love - Sometimes it Just Takes a Small Change in Behavior

Finding Love Can Seem Impossible If You Feel Like No one Likes You!

If you have had no luck finding love, and it seems as though everyone hates you, then you may be asking yourself the question “How can I find love when everyone hates me?!” In fact, I’ve seen this question asked quite a bit in relationship forums.

The first truth is, everyone doesn’t hate you. That’s just the way you perceive it because you haven’t had any luck finding love yet.

The second truth is that you can find love if you start to figure out exactly why you haven’t been able to find love in the first place.

Reason You Can Find Love #1 – You’re Too Desperate

The first mistake many people make when they try to find love is they try too hard. They become so desperate to find love that they do silly things like harass people, stalk people, act weird, act fake, act crazy, and so on and so forth – they become desperate.

If you find yourself feeling desperate to find love then you need to back off from that feeling and start to be happy with yourself. Feeling desperate will only make love move further away from you.

Finding love is not a mission of life or death – it’s about sharing your life with someone else. If you are not happy with your life while you are single, then why would you think your life would become happy with someone else when you find love?

Your single life is a sign of the way you feel about yourself and your existence, and if you are unhappy then you will just bring that unhappiness into a relationship when you find one. After all you are sharing your life with your new partner.

How can you find love when you are scaring people away with your desperation? They recognize that you are unhappy and they don’t’ want any part of it. It’s too much pressure for them to be your ‘saviour’ in a sense. So get out there and start learning how to be happy with yourself – without someone in your life, and you will finding love will become much easier.

Reason You Can Find Love #2 – You’re Too Rigid

You may be happy with yourself, and that’s a good thing like I talked about above, but if you are too adamant about your beliefs, interests, and way of doing things then you may be scaring away love with your rigid behaviour.

If you’ve ever watched Big Bang Theory then Sheldon is a perfect example of this. He has his beliefs and his theories and he doesn’t budge from them for anything. He annoys his friends with this and the only love interest he has is someone who understands his behaviour from a scientific point of view. Of course, there are not many people who will put up with someone like him – if any, and if you are too rigid in your beliefs or behaviours then you may be setting yourself up to be like Sheldon.

I’m not saying you have to agree with everyone out there, I’m just saying you have to loosen up a bit and let other people feel like their beliefs and way of doing things is okay. Love is all about compromise and understanding, and you will find it much easier to find love when you adopt these two traits.

Reason You Can Find Love #3 – You’re Too Distracted With What You Want or Don’t Want

When you want to find love badly it becomes somewhat of a distraction and you can miss potential love walking right by you.

Sometimes you want to find the perfect person. He or she has to have a list of traits that you have outlined and added additional bullet points to. Unfortunately there is most likely not a perfect person out there (according to your outline) for you, and this can cause you to overlook the person who would make you happiest in your life.

You probably know what you don’t want – like a drug addict, mean person, angry person, person with mental issues, and things like that. And you should avoid people on your don’t want list when it comes to things like that! But adding on that you don’t want someone who works in the service industry may be taking it too far.


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    • Writer Fox profile image

      Writer Fox 4 years ago from the wadi near the little river

      This is a sad state to be in. Maybe a professional matchmaker would help.