- Gender and Relationships
How Do You Tell Your Best Friend That Her Man Is Cheating
If you have a best friend, be it male or female it's a special bond. You have a person to share all of your inner most feelings and secrets with. A best friend is someone to do fun things and hang out with. Best friends are suppose to be there for you and have your back no matter what. Best friends also has an invisible line that you should never, ever cross. If your best friend is now your ex best friend, chances are you've crossed that invisible line. That invisible line that you should not cross is voicing your negative opinions on family, other friends and lovers.
You cannot give your friend advice on her family, because that's her family. They will be there when you are not. They will always come before you. If she has to make a decision between you and her family, she will always choose her family.
When it comes to other friends, you may not like them, but she picked them. It's up to her to make the decision to keep them around or not.
When it comes to your best friend's significant other, you better not say nothing. I don't care what they are going through, it's nothing you can say to sway her judgement about that person either way. All you can do is be that listening ear.
It's hard not to offer your best friend advice on a situation that they might be going through. Is it worth losing your best friend over the advice you've given? It sounds crazy but it's so true.
I have had a friend get beat up by their boyfriend, I'm talking about physical blows. I invited her into my home and I gave her what I felt was great advice. I told her that she deserved better and that if she didn't leave him it was only going to get worst. The next day she was back with him and she told him everything I said. He made it his mission to keep her from talking to me and we definitely couldn't hang out anymore.
I have had a friend whose boyfriend was cheating on them and of course she cries on my shoulder because she never thought that he would do that to her. I'm her friend and her biggest cheerleader, so I'm telling her how much of a dog he is to do her like that. I'm just as mad at him as she is because she's my friend and I care about her feelings. How about she tells him that I called him a dog and how mad I was about him cheating on her. He tells her I'm just jealous and I must want to get with him. She believes him and she turned on me. She really wanted to fight me over her cheating boyfriend. I couldn't believe it. That was the end of that friendship.
All I'm saying is that you have to be careful when it comes to sharing your thoughts and personal feelings about your friend's relationship. Just be that listening ear and try to keep your feelings to yourself.
If you know your best friend is getting cheated on, would you tell her?
Please share your positive or negative experiences with offering your friends advice on their relationships below in the comments. I can't wait to read them.