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How Does Texting Affect you in Relationships?

Updated on May 15, 2017
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She is texting while driving. | Source
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Friends texting. | Source
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A cellphone in use for texting messages. | Source

Text messages can make you feel Disconnected with loved ones

· How often do you text him or her?

· Is the constant texting slowly destroying your relationship?

· What are the red flags when texting constantly?

· You text your partner while at work or in a meeting is that a good or bad idea for your relationship?

Dating has changed over the past decades.

Texting has become the popular way of staying in contact.

The face-to-face dating has become scarce or quite rare in many relationships.

The company of two people felt more meaningful when they met and spent hours together.

In this modern day it is more about texting each other to feel safe and heard directly.

The main focus of a relationship was the face-to-face encounter which is rare in the time of today.

The lack of poor communication among the seventeen year old to the twenty five year old is more about texting.

The younger age group has changed many individual's lives.

Whether you are at school or at work, text messages are sent most of the time to each other. Making of plans for the day or the week text messages have become the trend.

From gossiping to flirtatious moments, text messages are the way to communicate.

Do you think Texting is the best of ways?

· Is it too much for the age group showing much of the lack of proper communication?

· Do they have healthy relationships in this way?

· What are the Pros of texting?

People use texting to avoid face-to-face encounters.

If they want to say something hurtful they text it and don't have see the other person hurt from their harsh words expressed.

When you decide to break up with someone you often use to dump them right!

To avoid them seeing the actual experience you use text messages.

Nervous people use texting as a way to block off contact with others.

Conversations have become complex so texting is more simple and easy.

Flirtatious moments are easily approached with a text when face-to-face flirting can be a problem for some people texting fills that gap easily.

A texting person avoids rejection.

You can say what you know and feel with no regret.

For example:

If he likes her and not sure if she feels the same he would text her to see how she takes it all in and the same for her in the same situation.

Texting fulfills the need of nervous people and shy people.

The first moment in a relationship begins with texting and that goes all the way.

Dating someone and to find a relationship in this modern day is more about texting each other.

· What are the Cons of Texting?

Texting can get too much once you send a text to someone they feel obligated to reply and sometimes time is not at hand.

While driving or in an important discussion the received text messages can be frustrating to anyone.

When you use text for every conversation you tend to miss out on the reality of life.

Attending functions and improving your career abilities can be a problem if you are totally dependent on texting.

Meeting people face-to-face is like a thing of the past for many people.

· What happened to true expressions?

Sometimes messages are taken the wrong way or are not clearly written making you feel annoyed with the understanding of the text.

What people don't realize when constantly using text messages they become psychologically distant and avoid the most difficult conversations.

People who use texting all day or who are dependent on texting can become less confident and find difficulty in communicating with others.

They have a low self-esteem and are not comfortable when talking in a relationship.

Mostly women feel good about texting and it does show them happiness. Men on the other hand, don’t show much of happiness in texting.

Such complex relationships are about hurting each other in their text. They feel distant from each other and text to make the other angry or jealous.

This causes the relationship to be less romantic.

Men don't feel texting is a happy moment.

The many texts that a man receives he becomes unhappy with it.

Texting does not work out as well for all partners.

She feels texting is a way to converse with someone. It is quick and so easy. While waiting for the confirmation she can still do other stuff around the house.

However, texting had hindered her romantic affairs in many ways.

Texting is used as substitute to actually seeing the person.

Conversing with someone and seeing their gestures, or hearing their tone of voice can make a lot of difference to you.

She lived ten minutes away from a guy who continued to sexting her and that she thought was laziness.

Her solution was not to text back until the next day.

You should communicate via text on some legitimate commitment.

· Don't make texting a habit.

A text message shows more lies and less honesty in the words used.

People can lie through a text message and more cruelty can be shown.

The emotional bonding is not felt from a text message.

· The following story was not a surprise to me:

A woman happily married to her husband for nine years and they have two children together.

She found her husband's behavior quite strange.

One day he confused her with his abrupt behavior and she did not understand the reasons for his weak behavior.

He treated her and the kids in a very different way.

Later that month he did not come home and called her and asked for a divorce.

She could not believe that he wanted a divorce and that he hated her after all this time they were married.

The whole situation made her feel upset and knew she did not deserve that from him.

She was frustrated and felt sick from the divorce and for awhile she felt that way. Her love for him was everything to her and he did not see it.

Text messages caused her marriage to fail and he had been taken from her by another woman.

I don't text all the time and prefer face-to-face conversations.

The youthful age group tends to text more than the older generation. A mutual agreement by two people in this way can be acceptable in some ways.

· Are you more satisfied with texting?

· What do you think about texting?

· Is texting a good or bad way of communication?

When in an emergency or if you need to send a quick message to someone in regards to your daily activities that can be a good reason.

I say what I think directly, so text messages won't work out for me.

I don't hold back my feelings and prefer saying it right out to the person.

· Can Texting harm relationships?

· Would you blame the technology or would you, blame the culture for the constant texting?

People did write love letters to each other at one time those times are gone by.

Do you think texting is a respectful way of communication?

Don't text when you are angry, or when you are trying to be a comedian your text messages can be take the wrong way or misinterpreted.

Sometimes people can't solve a problem face-to-face and choose to do it via texting.

It can help you or destroy you.

· Is texting ideal for serious relationships?

When in a disagreement don't text your partner that can confuse both of you.

People can become disconnected with themselves when they use text as their main focus.
There is less quality in a relationship with constant texting.

Texting is an inconvenience when driving or when you are out with family.

You require face-to-face communication when in a steady relationship your commitment ought to tell you that proper communication is needed.

Respond to Text Messages Correctly

Texting messages can be Frustrating or Misunderstood

Is Texting ideal for serious relationships?

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Texting means poor communication.

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      Nithya Venkat 3 years ago from Dubai

      Great hub, texting is okay to send short messages when it is really needed. Relationships need face to face conversations that can convey emotions and feelings. Voted up.

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      Harish Mamgain 3 years ago from India

      Devika, you have penned another brilliant article on a present day obsession of the youth and some streak of older ones also. Though it is a kind of a great boon created by the technology as it worked instant and is very different from writing letters, I was scared to see the photo of a pretty lady at it while at the wheels. You are right that a judicious use of texting is required. Though I am not into writing texts at all, this hub made an interesting read for me. Voted up. Nithya, thanks for sharing such a beautiful and useful hub.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Vellur thank you kindly for the vote up I am so glad you see my point of view here.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello Harishprasad thank you for the vote up and so kind of you to stop by

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      John Hansen 3 years ago from Queensland Australia

      I love this article Devika. I hate to see people sitting in a cafe together for instance and continually texting on their phones instead of talking to each other, or texting as they walk down the street. I only text if I need to send a message and think a phone call may distract the other person at work for instance. I think it has a detrimental effect on communication in general. Voted up.

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      Author Victoria Sheffield 3 years ago from Georgia

      This is a very unique subject. Great work!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I understand the wonders of technology, but there are many days when I wish it didn't exist...texting is one of those tech wonders that I consider to be a hindrance to communication rather than an aid.

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      mylindaelliott 2 years ago from Louisiana

      I didn't a have a choice with texting. At one point in time my older children only texted so I had to learn to do it. Texting just leaves so much out.

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      Linda Crampton 2 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      You have raised some excellent points about texting, Devika. Texting does have its uses, especially in an emergency, but in general I think it's much better to communicate in person for the reasons that you have described.

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      Michelle Liew 2 years ago from Singapore

      Texting can be an excellent tool if not misused. I agree with all the pros and cons.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Jodah thank you for the vote up and I so agree with your points made her texting can be most frustrating and so annoying as it happened happens all the time.You kindness is always appreciated.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      billybuc thank you

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      mylindaelliot thank you and so glad to read a comment from you

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      AliciaC thank you very much

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      midget38 texting has become a trend and so overused thank you for coming by.

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 2 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

      Devika, the only text I send is a shopping list to my husband to pick-up the odd loaf of bread on his way home from work. Texting is a health hazard for many youngsters, they're so busy texting that they walk straight into on-coming traffic and barely noticing the close shave with death. There is nothing wrong with the technology, the problem is how we choose to use it.

      Thought provoking as always, great hub. I hope you're having a lovely day.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 2 years ago from The Caribbean

      Devika, I'm still old-fashioned. I do very little texting. I agree with the points you me for and against. Thank you.

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      Dave 2 years ago from Lancashire north west England

      Texting , is annoying in so many ways, not least as it destroys the art of conversation. The thing is it is a lot cheaper than a phone call with many companies giving you 500+ free texts a month Etc, and the young ones especially, feel they have to use them or loose them. personally I would rather make the call than text. Great article on this subject in your usual straight forward no nonsense way. Voted up useful and interesting.

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      Pamela Oglesby 2 years ago from United States

      I agree that face to face communication is better when at all possible. I don't like to be with friends while they are texting someone else as I think that is rude unless it is an emergency. Very interesting hub with good information.

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      Paula 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Devika.....Texting does affect me in terms of some relationships. If not for texting, I would have no communication with my 22 year old grand daughter & 19 year old grandson!! Please! I'm beginning to think they have forgotten how to SPEAK......pick up a phone.....or COME TO VISIT THEIR GRANDMOTHER!! (They laugh at me when I scold them....in a "respectful" sort of way?) Young people should simply get it over with, and have their cell phones (& other "gadgets") welded to their bodies!!

      I'm not in a "romantic relationship"......and even if I were......we'd be too old to constantly be reading small print!! Amen.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi tobusiness I too only when I need to get anitem from the store do I text my husband. ''There is nothing wrong with the technology, the problem is how we choose to use it.'' So true about technology which I enjoy learning more of but son't approve of how much is over used. Thank you

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi MsDora I understand your point of view. Thank you

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Pamela99 so kind of you to come by and I so agree with your comment

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi fpherj48 Modern technology is becoming more of an over used lifestyle so agree with you I don't text unless I really need to. Thank you.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      D.A.L. thank you for such a thoughtful comment and for all the votes. I think texting should be controlled. Great comment from you.

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      Joe 2 years ago from north miami FL

      Texts really do effect relationships. I'm young yet I remember having to use house phones to make a phone call.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello joedolphin88, texting has become an overused technology most people in the age range from 17 to 25 fail to see how it can ruin the proper ways of communication. Too much of texting indeed can ruin relationships. So glad you understand my point here. Thank you very much.

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      Alexander Thandi Ubani 2 years ago from Lagos

      A wonderful article, DDe. No matter how good texting may be, face-to-face conversation will always be the best for me. good job.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ubanichijioke texting is being over used by many individuals thank you for commenting. I appreciate you stopping by

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      Texting is okay for brief messages, but anything serious (like a breakup) should be communicated in person.

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      Aga 2 years ago

      I honestly can't stand texting. I refuse to do it. I do use email though.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi FlourishAnyway thank you for sharing all comments. Enjoy the rest of the week.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Monis Mas I agree with you. I too use email on certain situations. I prefer face-to-face communication. thank you

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      jtrader 2 years ago

      I don't think texts should be used in certain situations. For example, breaking up by text is a no-no.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      jtrader thank you kindly for all comments.

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      justmesuzanne 2 years ago from Texas

      I am completely outside the loop on this. I don't even have a cell phone. :D

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi justmesuzanne good one thank you

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      Katie 2 years ago

      Constant texting in a relationship is very frustrating in a relationship. In my case, I have no choice. I'm currently in a long distance relationship and so are our only mean of communication is texting. Sure, the first couple of months was fine but as the relationship continues, it got really exhausting to communicate with my partner through texting. Like the article pointed out, its lacks quality in the relationship. Rather than having a mate, you have a texting buddy. That which provides no emotional support what so ever to both parties.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Katie I am impressed of how you can constantly use texting as your main key of communication in the long distance relationship. The quality of any relationship goes down once two people fail to approach the situation face to face. Thank you for sharing your side of the matter.

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      Sally Gulbrandsen 2 years ago from Norfolk

      Definitely think that texting can degrade relationships - there can be nothing better than a face to face relationship with someone. I have lost count of the times that I have seen couples out on a date - where on of the two people is sitting texting and the other one is sitting there with a blank expression of their face. Nothing makes one feel more excluded than this sort of behavior.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi sallybea So kind of you to stop by. Thank you very much.

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