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How Dominance Affects Marriages

Updated on April 6, 2017
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The dominant one in the marriage often yells at partners and makes sure to be the controlling one in their marriage.

Dominant individuals show Authority

She obeys him.
She obeys him. | Source
The person is bowing down to someone who shows her dominance.
The person is bowing down to someone who shows her dominance. | Source
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He is dominant. | Source
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She is dominant to the pup | Source

Dominance Rules for Most Tradtional Marriages

You can show your attitude, or dominance in public places.

At the work place, with friends, family members, and with your partner.

It really shows the kind of person you are or can be with your true self.

· When one says, '' do this'' or ''do that'' in an abrupt tone, are they being dominant toward you?

I think they are showing dominance.

· When you interact with people on a daily basis do you think of your actions and of how you speak to them?

Dominance is showed in just about everything you do in the day, and sadly this is not seen by many people.

Your actions speak louder than words.

The look in your eyes and the acts performed is right in your face and you don’t see it.

I heard of dominate marriages and believed it when I saw the way one woman was treated by her husband.

I felt bad for that person it was my first time to have witnessed such dominance from a ''caveman.''

I often heard about how one can be dominant.

When I saw how this man could be so harsh toward his wife in the presence of others, I lost respect for him.

He could have handled the situation in a much better manner. Instead, he chose to belittle his wife in the presence of other people.

It is a cultural issue in this region I live in.

To see a woman feel that way and look so embarrassed that made me much more aware about how dominance can hurt people.

He surely makes all the decisions and she stands by and grasps the information.

Most marriages are just that, the man is in control of a woman's life. I see that in our small community.

He is dominant and not much can be done to change the attitude he has toward his wife.

He decides for her and controls her every decision and her life has been taken by this individual and there are no words for her to say.

When I saw his behavior in that manner I resented him for that and more.

His conversations to me were sort of in that way.

I ignored him because I am not his wife and he has no right to throw his tantrum at me.

· He looked frustrated about his complicated life and was trying to let me know he is the boss in his family, as if I cared?

He mistreats his wife with the lack of respect or love their marriage is more about having kids and just that in a traditional way.

When two people choose to be together they should make a loving life and care for each other. In this case it is not like that at all.

Dominance destroys relationships and makes relationships feel uncomfortable.

The woman has a day job and comes home still to work around the clock her husband does not care of what time she has to go to sleep. To his knowledge she must do whatever has to be taken care of in the home.

The next day she had to get up quite early to start her new working day, and she barely had the time for herself. He remained thoughtless.

She is not able to reason with him or to compromise.

He will not hear her side of any issue. No matter what she has to say he won't give her an opportunity to free conversation.

Her conversations don't mean much to her husband.

One day I went to visit and she tried to make a conversation in between his conversations. He just about slapped her across the face for trying to interrupt the whole conversation.

I felt that was not a manner-able way to have treated his wife and is not the way to be at all for any man to his wife.

Most of marriages in the region I live are traditional and most men are dominant toward their wives.

In some marriages an old method is still used whereby, the husband gets up very early in the morning and slaps his wife across her face to get up.

I am glad I am not in that kind of marriage but I do feel sorry for those who have to go through that life.

· Dominance shows right from the start and if you see that in your relationship would you stay or leave?

In many traditional or old-fashioned marriages it is expected of partners to be dominant.

The dominant partner can become abusive and that is true as I have seen it by the man's actions toward his wife.

The lack of power makes her feel helpless and has to stay in this kind of marriage getting out is not her choice.

She is trapped in her marriage.

Dominance can make partners fall out of love and traditionally it can make two partners most unhappy and drive a wedge between them.

Though, they are together that is just for a false appearance.

Behind closed doors the marriage has fallen apart and in public they pretend to be happy with big false smiles.

The couple as mentioned is exactly the same, they pretend to be happy with each other but deep down she is so unhappy and sad.

Her problems are difficult to solve and won't be in this way.

She feels threatened by her husband but remains married.

The disagreements made for each other are about simple decisions here it is about whom takes charge and who is the man or who, ''wears the pants in the family.''

In this relationship dominance is meant to be.

Her relationship in their marriage is about cooking, cleaning, and making sure her husband is happy with her efforts.

Dominance can make people become angry and defensive.

You can change that attitude.

The problem is when you know and show your dominance with full awareness to your partner. It is what shows your true dominance and that stays forever with you.

Relationships don't have to be that way it does not show a balanced relationship to any of the partners.

The unhealthy relationship is between the dominant and the submissive.

· What does a dominant person do to others?

A dominant intimidates people their partners or their co-workers. Physically or emotionally people are affected and the dominant person does not care of the feelings of others.

The submissive manipulates through showing goodness, they try to please the dominant person to avoid criticism.

Both partners feel safe but this is no healthy relationship.

I have seen dominance in men around our small community and that is sometimes so unbelievable to me. I did not grow up with dominance in my home and my partner is nothing like that.

Most of the women living in traditional places face up to such dominance and that is so unnecessary.

· Have you had someone dominate you?

Dominance affects all relationships married or not and even till today dominance still exists in many marriages.

· Does commitment have to come with dominance?

From one generation to the next dominance goes on and hurts many people.

The dominant hurt people with harsh words and can be abusive.

When you notice dominance in your relationship get out of it don't stay because you have to please them your life will be ruined in the end.

Anybody can be dominating men or women it is difficult to handle such situations when in such positions.

The dominant is in charge that alone shows a problematic relationship there is no two ways about the relationship or a third way.

Every individual is entitled to speak up and if you are not able to have your own free conversations with your partner.

In sharing your views or opinions should not make your relationship complicated.

Communication is the key to all relationships and marriages work well with team work.

When both partners can't have their say freely the relationship is doomed.

Usually, you are able to see dominance right away then it is up to you.

Dominance in any relationship can affect individuals differently.

· What about marriages, the lasting kind where you are bound till death do us part?

Dominance in Marriages

Dominance destroys Relationships

Dominance shows right from the start and if you see that in your relationship would you stay or leave?

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Dominant lives

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Harishprasad ''this is the world,'' and so many woman faced with such dominance have no choice thank you very much.

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      Harish Mamgain 3 years ago from India

      Devika, dominance is a kind of threat to make someone pliant and submissive to oneself. When there is love between the partners, this thing doesn't exist at all. A man slapping his wife in the morning is something very bizarre and absurd behavior ! I must say rays of evolution have not reached there as yet, what a pity ! The miserable woman being tortured by her cruel and haughty husband is a tale of tyranny ! Great article about guys indulging in a degrading and deviant behavior. But, then, this is the world !

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      jtrader it is so true and dominance here is major the old days have not faded away. Women who marry such men go through too much of unhappiness. thank you

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      jtrader 3 years ago

      I couldn't read this one through. It was making me hurt too much for those women. How can slapping someone across the face to wake them be acceptable? That's crazy.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi FlourishAnyway I am so grateful for you coming by dominant people want what they feel is correct, thank you

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      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      Now this is a really interesting topic! I'd rather be alone than have a dominating partner. People need to nip that crap in the bud the first time they experience it. Teach people how to treat you, and treat them with the respect you demand in return.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Sally you are so right ''there are women who behave in the same way'' an interesting comment from you thank you very much.

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      Sally Gulbrandsen 3 years ago from Norfolk

      DDE

      This kind of dominance is pretty common. It really is a no win situation to be in. I wonder sometimes what sort of insecurities these people have which makes them behave in this way. I don't think it is confined to men either, there are women who behave in the same way.

      Interesting Hub.

      Sally

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you sujaya venkatesh

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      The Stages Of ME thank you so kindly for sharing your thoughts on my hub dominance is noticed in many traditional families as I have noticed in this marriage your words make me think of how unfortunate some partners can be while still in such relationships.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello Shyron I liked your answer to my question and now this comment it is highly noticed among traditional marriages thank you for the vote up, UI and shared I so appreciate your kind words.

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      sujaya venkatesh 3 years ago

      dominance in general affects relationship

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 3 years ago from The Caribbean

      Devika, you're right about team work. On the marriage team, partners dominate their circumstances together; they are not to dominate each other. Thanks for your insights.

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      The Stages Of ME 3 years ago

      So very sad, that a person needs to value themselves by dominating another. Love, Agape Love, is unconditional. There is quite a difference between leading and dominating. True love is in partnership, teaching as well as learning together to polish one another for a greater cause than self. I pray those who must persevere such relationship are blessed in the carrying of their cross. Each person has value and should not be beaten down but rather lifted up. Thank you for sharing and shedding light on this sad circumstance that many suffer. Blessings to you and too those in such a difficult situation.

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      Shyron E Shenko 3 years ago from Texas

      There is no such thing as dominance in a lasting relationship. Marriage is built on mutual respect and love, and there is no love in dominance.

      It is a good thing is people recognize dominance in the person they are planning to marry before the words "till death do you part" are spoken, so they can get out of that kind of abusive relationship.

      Good hub Devika, voted up, UI and shared

      Have a good week

      Shyron