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How Great Husband Loves His Wife With Great Love
A great husband regards his wife as special one ever, doesn’t it?
Let me quote a great utterance of a great man, “The most complete of the believers in faith, is the one with the best character. And the best of you are those who are best to their women.” The man is Muhammad (PBUH). (At-Tirmidhi and authenticated by Al-Albani).
That utterance is for Muslims, actually. However, there is no restriction to whom and to what we should learn something. Even we can learn to animal. If we think that is good, we can take it. If it is not, we can leave it.
Let me tell a story about a great husband in loving his wife.
There was a good story about two men. Both were good men. They were Goodan and Goodin (Not their real name). Once, Goodin visited Goodan’s house. “Who’s it?” Ask Goodan’s wife from the inside of the house. “Who are you?”. Goodin told her that he was Goodan’s friend. “He is not at home. He is finding firewood,” she said loudly. Then, she continued complaining, explaining the Goodan’s flaws, as though her husband was the worst man in this world. Goodin listen to it without any word.
Goodan came with some firewood on the back of a tiger. They hugged each other. “Welcome to my house, Friend.”
His wife was complaining with anger in the backside room. It was a shame as she did when her husband had a guest, but Goodan was not angry with his wife. He accompanied Goodin having a great chat with great smile and laugh. Goodin understood the condition. He was proud of his best friend.
Another occasion Goodin came again. A woman welcomed him with good manner. No longer, Goodan came carry firewood with his hand. Goodin found something different from his former visit. He asked Goodan about the tiger.
“My former wife passed away and I marry another woman. My former wife was the unkind one, short tempered, always complaining, as though I always wrong in her eyes. I always tried to be patient and tried to calm her down. I would never let our relation break down. But, the destiny was different. She has gone away. As she went away, the tiger left me too. I am so happy living with my new wife. She is very kind and so affectionate.”
Goodan showed us a great love, true love of the great lover. He loved his wife so much. He loved his relation as well. Whatever happened on their relation, however, his wife behaved, his love was not shaken. His love was like the very big tree which so robust around the brutal typhoon.
From this story I found great lesson. I think the tiger felt the sense of love surrounded Goodan. The love emerged from his soul because of the struggle he did to loving his former wife with the greatest love ever. At that time he had no any kind wife, but he had a great love in his soul. Even a tiger could feel that great love. Later, he had a great wife, but the great love in his soul has gone away, has become lesser than before. It was his new wife’s love hold the relationship stronger than his.
Many men sacrifice the whole of his life for his lovely women. How many men have died because of a woman? They fight to get a woman. The soul is not more important than a woman. However, is that what we call as a great love? Let’s we talk about it. When a man falls in love with a girl, he wants something from her. That can be happiness, pride, affection, etc. The man wants those from the girl. But, what if the girl does not give him what he wants?
As a man, do you prefer giving something after you get something, or you get something after giving something? Godan prefer choosing the second choice. Even he did not care about what he would get: something or nothing.
Many women I have ever met told about their men. They said the men were so romantic in the beginning, but the love was fading as the time running. “Where is that great lover, where is that great man?”
Let me tell another great story of a great husband. He came too late one night. He called out his wife, but no answer. He tried again, but useless. Until three times he did. Finally, he decided to sleep in front of the door. He did not disturb his wife which has been sleeping earlier.
In the morning his wife opened the door. She was so shocked and felt guilty. But, as she said sorry, her husband did the same, “Sorry I came late. It’s my fault”. “No, it’s my fault. I sleep too early. I am sorry.”
Relation is more important than finding who was wrong and who was right. No need to blame each other. Relation is everything. The man in that story was Muhammad (PBUH), the God’s messenger and his wife Aisyah (ra). He gave us a great example how to love wife with great love.
-Syarah Uqudul Lujain Book
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