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Getting to know my old Friends again

Updated on July 8, 2012
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Setting the World on Fire and working at the Car Wash

Even though we knew each other as children and played at the beach together,the prime of our lives was the year 1976, and one of our favorite songs was Working at the Car Wash, and the three of us were young and indestructible. The three of us were going to be best friends forever and stay in touch. We lied.


It is 16 years later, and I got a phone call where I was working, and it was HER! It was my best friend from High School. She asked me to check on a mother of a friend which was on another floor than I worked. Just to check on her, and that she heard I was one of the best nurse assistants and where I worked was wonderful. I said that ‘it is, and I am’ and we laughed. She said to call her, and we need to get together and get to know each other again. There were no excuse; we are only like 45 minutes away. That’s sad, really. And I was worried, and nervous, and I didn’t know why.


I called her, and that old familiar voice, the laugh; the tenderness was still there, but slightly more gruffly. Have we waited too long to re-kindle our friendship? I’m worried, please; go with me, you guys. Dear readers, I hardly ever cry, but I did while I wrote this. I was puzzled. Because my old childhood friend called wanting to get together and get maybe get a cup of coffee? Sure, I said. But I was not sure of myself.

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And I’m so melancholy, and there are so many emotions that are so many bitter-sweet. I think because our reunion is represents my YOUTH, and the green girl I left behind. I miss that young girl. Gosh, I miss her bravery, her carefree world, and her shenanigans, innocent as they were. I have missed all of us. But I am so very protective over this naïve girl. So the young girl is still in here,in my heart;ME.... waiting, I haven't felt her in a very long time. Its just I have realized that I had left my youth behind her in the dust. In the real harsh world of living, I haven’t just not grown up, but grown old. Us three girls were in High School and thought we were going to be sly, so we skipped, and went to the lake. I remember that we were really something, with shorts and halter tops, with the wind and sunshine in our long hair. But when we meet again will the sun be as bright as that wonderful day?

Laugh Hard and be Happy

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Make a note to SELF; You're not THAT old!

Have you met someone in your life that shared the same of sense of humor, that you laughed so hard that you feel you have bruised your ribs? I have. Have you see the old movie American Graffiti? Well, that was like us, cruising, and drag racing, driving her big Chevy truck, screaming at boys at a red light then laughingly doing some Starsky and Hutch maneuvers and lost them. Sneaking out at daybreak, because we knew there were some boys camped out and they were all sleeping. They were all in sleeping bags but they had taken their pants off. Yes, we just quickly took those pants and hid them and hid ourselves. Until they hollered at us and we all cheekily, brought the britches to them and got back in her truck. And for some reason it was so hilarious.

Putting it all back in place again.

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In a way us kids found stuff to do, not all innocent, but that’s before the night clubs were popular, we didn’t drink, we didn’t do drugs. Who needs drugs when you are on such a girly and giggly euphoria? And if you have your own language, and that’s before the movie Clueless with all those cliches’ like Baldwin…it was “he’s Barry Barry Manilow” or short “Barry” we had others. I grin thinking back at all the stuff we did.

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There has been a lot happened to me since I seen her. Have I changed too much where we can’t have that special bond anymore? And can we start anew, all fresh? I have grown as a person I think, and respect means a lot to me. Not only that I think differently, I don’t LOOK the same either….dah. Gosh, I have false teeth now! Well,Yuck,right? I have this vision of meeting her; I'm walking the green mile right up to the point to where I look into my old friends eyes, and say goodbye to my childhood or say HELLO to a MATURE FRIENDSHIP? I hope we both feel that we have 'come to age, Gracefully'.


Adios amigo my youth;my teen years, it was fun, nice, and you will always stay dear to my heart, (talking to myself) At least us three girls can look back fondly at those great times and say, ' How wonderful it was!"

As we were sleeping...and living.

Years and years went by, time went on, she had grandchildren, I still don’t but I have my own crowning accomplishments, rain or shine, and our lives came full circle in some weird way. Without us knowing, our Mothers met at the Chemo Clinic. Yes, both our Mothers have cancer. Damn. That’s not right, the universe and the stars were out of sync in our universe. It was just eerie, uncanny. Here I was thinking of them on my old friend’s birthdays and often any other days in my life and here are our mothers calling each other for moral support, and becoming FRIENDS.

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Coffee,tea,or just old ME.

I take a deep breath; we are going ‘just for coffee’. I guess I need some cheese with my wine. Just feel out of my element, fish out of water, I kind of hopes she feels the same as we both get out our car, with older bodies with gray in our hair.


Wait a minute. Stop the presses. The heck with this! Dear Reader, I think there will be fresh color on my hair, no gray THAT day, and I will look at all my weather app on my iPhone (in 1976, what was an app? the heck with that, what was a cell phone back then?) and will pick a slightly windy and sunny day for our coffee. Hey young ones; I grew up.


Wish me luck.





This song reminds me of my youth and this is what I listened to as I wrote this. Do you guys listen to music as you write, and what do y'all listen too?

What's some crazy things you guys used to do?

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    • Dee42 profile image
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      Dee42 5 years ago from Beautiful Arkansas

      I wonder why we do this? Out if sight out of mind thing? God works in mysterious ways. Thanks for commenting :)

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      LaThing 5 years ago from From a World Within, USA

      Ooh, I am with you Dee! I just got in touch with MY best friend after 20 years! We parted ways when we were 22 years old, and I had known her since 6th grade. She has moved to another country, so I don't know if we will be able to see each other...... I had fears like you, we have changed so much, gone through so much.... But I sat down and wrote her a long letter (email) and told her everything that has been happening to me. And I believe as friends you look beyond looks and accept them with your heart.

      Enjoyed it very much, let us know how your visit goes! Voting up, and beautiful!

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      Christina M. Castro 5 years ago from Baltimore,MD USA

      Hi Dee42, I finally get a chance to visit you on the Hub. I enjoyed reading your anecdotes of friends and familiar places. Most people who have the same favorite things will gravitate toward one another. That is why I love reading HubPages and commenting on HubPages, because we are all doing the same thing. Thanks for sharing.

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      Dee42 5 years ago from Beautiful Arkansas

      Thanks,GDibiase, someone came up to me today actually and asked if I knew her. It's all weird, ha.

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      GDiBiase 5 years ago from Portland, ME

      Hi Dee, Love your hub. So true isn't it. My friends and I use hang out in the small town where I grew up. We swore we would always be the best of friends. Of course I have lost touch with many, a few of mine I have reconnected with on face book. I think its exciting and am almost sure you will be able to be great grown up friends. Best of luck to you and your friend!

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      tonywayne1962 5 years ago

      Very unique and interesting writing. Nice hub.

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      Angie D 5 years ago from Cebu, PH

      This is an interesting hub. I wrote a hub on how you can find and communicate with old friends, point 5 is how your friend contacted you.

      https://hubpages.com/relationships/Different-Ways-...

      Friends come and go which is really sad but with modern technology everything becomes a lot easier - including looking up long lost friends! :-)

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      Dee42 5 years ago from Beautiful Arkansas

      Glad you stopped by,CloudExplorer,sorry about the lettering, I will keep that in mind next time I write a Hub, actually, I went back at it to see what you meant, yes you are right, its the bold lettering. And all the story was all true, just trying to leave on a happy or cheerful ending, and that's what I got. lol. Thanks for commenting, I enjoyed your insight. I need that perspective through someone else's eyes.

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      Mike Pugh 5 years ago from New York City

      Nice ending but kind of weird though lol, I had a bit trouble getting the ending, but to no avail this hub was pretty awesome indeed. It seemed as if it was a real story, but then turned into something of imagination out the blue. Quite unique indeed voted up!

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      Mike Pugh 5 years ago from New York City

      I love this hub thus far but I must return to finish reading it, I got half way. The bold lettering kind of hurts my eyes a bit while reading, so I will complete this hub for sure soon.

      I like the style, and it was very well written, up to the part I stopped at. Nice job! I'll return in a 30 minutes or so.

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      Dee42 5 years ago from Beautiful Arkansas

      Thanks, prairieprincess, I know, I've gotten to know some of my classmates and it's fantastic. And one thing I've noticed on FB, the 'cheerleaders' and the other cliques or groups, kinda standoffish but since we have grown up, we are like one big happy group. Ha. But I appreciate your voting, it came from the heart.

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      Sharilee Swaity 5 years ago from Canada

      Dee, wow, I can really relate to this! With the advent of Facebook, I've been running across all kinds of people I haven't seen for ages. Wow. You describe the feelings so well: the uncertainty, the insecurity. Have you changed? Is the friendship still there? I can see why it really was such an emotional event and I love how you wrote about it. I am sharing this and voting it all the ups, of course! Nice work.

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      Dee42 5 years ago from Beautiful Arkansas

      Thanks Rusti Mccollum, Uh...Joe Namath, yep, that was the good o'days!!

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      Ruth McCollum 5 years ago from Lake Oswego, Oregon

      Brought back memories dancing to the Car Wash, watching American Grafetti! Halter tops and we wear short shorts,Joe namath did a commercial for panthose lol! LOVED THIS HUB!

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      Dee42 5 years ago from Beautiful Arkansas

      Thanks Riverfish24, thanks I will be try to be courageous. I need all the help I can get.

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      Riverfish24 5 years ago from United States

      The uneasiness of meeting your old friends after years sure does set in, but we all need to be courageous and give it a shot! :)

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      Dee42 5 years ago from Beautiful Arkansas

      Thanks,always exploring, I really enjoy when you stop by. I hope time stands still us too.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 5 years ago from Southern Illinois

      I really enjoyed your story. About ten years ago i got a call from a long lost friend, wanting to meet with two other friends of long ago. We all met halfway between out states at a Holiday Inn. It was like time had stood still. We reconnected. We had a ball. I recommend it to anyone who is missing their friends from the past..Cheers

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      Dee42 5 years ago from Beautiful Arkansas

      Yes we were blessed, not just us three girls but it seemed like a big group of us kids that grew up together. Thanks for the comment!! ;)

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      girltalksshop 5 years ago

      Sounds like you lived a full and happy life in youth. : ) It is always good to have those memories and someone who shared them with you. How fun! Meeting up with old friends is great too...having those memories to look back on and laugh over. Fun hub! Thanks for the share.

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      Dee42 5 years ago from Beautiful Arkansas

      Oh thank you, Diana Lee, your comment made me feel a lot better.

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      Dee42 5 years ago from Beautiful Arkansas

      Thank you Donna Green. Yes, I haven't either until she called me out of the blue. It's a small world.

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      Diana L Pierce 5 years ago from Potter County, Pa.

      I can relate so well to your story, I, too, have a friend who I hadn't seen in seventeen years before an emotional reunion. I stayed near the hometown we grew up in and she traveled the world through the demands of the Navy. Through neglect of both of us to stay in contact it was years between even a greeting card was exchanged. I can tell you good friends never forget each other even when life gets in the way of meeting face to face. Now that I've reunited with my dearest friend, the hundreds of miles between our homes won't stop us from talking on a regular basis and having an occasional get together from time to time will be an added bonus.

      Don't be nervous I'm sure age hasn't changed either of you as much as you think. You may find you both have many of the same interest you didn't know each other had. Voted up.

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      Dee42 5 years ago from Beautiful Arkansas

      Many thanks,Donna Green, I am glad you stopped by.

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      Donna Green 5 years ago

      This is a good story. I have also haven't talked to my old friend in a long time, out of touch and so on.

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      Dee42 5 years ago from Beautiful Arkansas

      Thank you Tony.

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      tony 5 years ago

      Very good

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      IAmForbidden 5 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up.

      yes, its so true. there are so many changes on the way when we are growing up. we became busy on our own things, focusing on our future.and then one day we woke up and realized, oh my, its been almost forever since we talked. :)

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      Dee42 5 years ago from Beautiful Arkansas

      Thank you, unknown spy! It's crazy how busy our life's have become and it's a a few seconds just to pick up the phone.

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      IAmForbidden 5 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up.

      wow,such a long time, 16 yrs.. and i can feel your emotions on every word you've written. been on that situation before, a bestfriend i haven't seen or talked for 12 years, :) time and distance doesn't matter as long as you kept alive the friendship you've built at the start.

      voted up and beautiful..