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How Many Beat Downs Will It Take Before Annie Gets A Gun?

Updated on October 3, 2012

When Abused Women Strike Back

How much physical or emotional abuse does it take for a woman to fight back? When will Annie get tired of the beat downs, the bruises, the assaults and the psychological tortures that have altered her life and turned her into a victim of repeated spousal abuse at the hands of this man she calls her husband? How many times will she listen as he tells her she is worthless and stupid and that she should just kill herself because she is a parasite and leech? A bad mother, a useless, good for nothing slut who is not worthy to even see her own children?

More often than not, a battered and abused woman will stay down for the count, but many times a woman caught in this torture trap will get back up and say, "I am done. I will not accept this and I will fight back", and that is when Annie will get a gun. That is when the abuser will become the hunted, the prey.

Abusers count on their victims' sense of learned helplessness. Most think that their victims will never fight back.They convince themselves that they are superior, that they are all-powerful, that they can inflict as much pain and degradation as they desire, and they can do it with no personal consequences. It is that egotistical, narcissistic view of the world that blind sides them.

When an abused woman decides to fight back, the coward doesn't even see it coming. He thinks that he has convinced everyone, including his victim, that he is the perfect husband, the 'good' one...He has nothing to fear.

To All Abusers: Learn To Sleep With One Eye Open

The stories of battered women killing their abusers while they sleep make it seem as if the women cannot possibly prove that there was an 'imminent' threat, so why would they even do it? These women are not thinking about a criminal defense strategy; they are, on the contrary, only thinking that this is the one and only way that they can be free of their tormenter. At the point when the abused takes action, she does not care about any consequences. She has already been tortured and beaten and threatened; jail might seem a welcome respite.

In reality though, most women who kill their abusers do NOT kill them while they sleep. They do it while these animals are awake.

If you are an abuser, and you know who you are, keep betting that the woman you are victimizing will never fight back. Keep betting, and one day, you will lose that bet.

Annie Will Get A Gun

Annie knows the statistics. Every Annie knows the statistics.

From the Department of Justice:

  • Over 4 million women each year are assaulted by their partners.
  • 4 women each day are murdered by their significant other.
  • Every 9 seconds, a woman in America is assaulted by her partner.
  • In homes where domestic violence takes place, the incidence of child abuse is 1500% higher than the national average.
  • 93% of women who kill their mates have been abused by them.

Yes, Annie will get a gun...or Annie already has one...


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  • ahorseback profile image

    ahorseback 5 years ago

    Okay I re-read ! Now I see your point . an abused woman can get a gun ,....... Which I totally agree with ! And it sounds like you do to . My problem is that I actually don't have the tunnel vision that so many others do ! You see I believe a woman not only should protect herself from that above , but actually has a duty to as well , if not , what is she teaching her children by excepting such treatment from mankind . She's teaching her daughter that" this is how your supposed to love . Unconditionally , even if it kills you" ! And to her son ,shes saying that , "this is how it's okay to treat a woman ", hell yes , get two guns for both her hands ! NOW....why I wrote the above comment was because of your other hub about your oppinion about having an armed guard at a school ! Do you see that now? , a weapon is going to protect anyone , an abused housewife or an innocent child at school , more than it will ever hurt them ! ......Am I the one with" tunnel vision "or is it you with opposing hubs about gun control ?

  • Jillian Barclay profile image

    Jillian Barclay 5 years ago from California, USA

    Have you been diagnosed with tunnelvision, ahorseback? Or are you lacking simple reading comprehension skills? This article does not say that "it is okay to protect an abused woman with a gun". Suggest that you go back and read it again!

  • ahorseback profile image

    ahorseback 5 years ago

    So !Now its okay to protect an abused woman witha gun but not kids in a school ! We can now have it both ways right ?...Not!

  • Attikos profile image

    Attikos 5 years ago from East Cackalacky

    "If I'd killed him when I met him, I'd be out of jail by now."