- Gender and Relationships
How Men Treat Women Today
Steve Harvey and Tyler Perry has devoted their careers to teaching women how to watch out for themselves when it comes to relationships, marriages and the dating world. Steve Harvey's book "Think like a man." was a huge success and a movie spawned from the book and Steve Harvey is planning on producing "Think like a man 2."
Steve Harvey and Tyler Perry movies are mostly for entertainment purposes but there is a strong message out there to the women of the world and that message is to beware of those men out there who will harm every hair on your head. They will use and abuse you and move
on to the next woman that they can get over on. Most women have high hopes that the man that they are in a relationship with have good intentions for them. They believe that these men love them and wants a future with them, when in many cases most men want to see how far you
will let them go without there being a Holy Matrimony.
Conquering a woman sexually has been a hot commodity for centuries and it will always be just that. Some cultures like Muslims believes in arranged marriages and it is against their law to commit adultery, but they can have many wives. In the Hindu culture a woman whose
husband has commited adultery or fathered a child with another woman can have her husband and her husbands parents thrown into prison.
There are some cultures that take adultery serious and people have been stone to death, especially women. With Muslims female sexuality is very enticing and the women have to cover themselves up wearing a burqaa or ridaa. Their hair must be covered and they can't show
hardly any flesh, unlike in American and other western style civilazations women can where bikini's, mini skirts, halters tops and daisy duke shorts showing their flesh. Sometimes women who are raped here in America who are in front of a judge and jury will be crossed examined
by the defendants attorney who will bring it to the jurors attention that the victim led the assailant on by what she was wearing.
I am one who believes you should be able to wear what you want. However, self respect and respecting those around you goes a long way and it earns you plenty of respect. There are many rapist, womanizers and pediphiles that wander the streets looking for prey, so a
woman or young girl should be careful of how she dresses, the company she keeps and where she hangs out.
My own dad always tells me that women are stupid, that men really don't love women. He goes on to say that he knows how men talk in the locker rooms and what his bowling buddies or male co-workers say about women and it is nothing nice. Ladies there are a lot of women
haters out there according to my dad's theories. I don't personally believe that the majority of men hate women, especially those with loving mothers, daughters and sisters. Now because of women who have been abused and used by men, my dad may have said the things he said. He wants me, his daughter to be careful and aware.
I have had my heart broken many times... and lied to by men. I have been cheated on and used. I have had the promise of marriage only to have the guy not go through with it because why buy the cow when you are getting the milk free. He felt he didn't have to
marry me because i was already putting out, getting what it was he wanted. I have a few friends who are in that same situation I was in, and I try and tell them not to fall for it. Each woman think her situation is different, that her man wouldn't do the same thing... and later come to me crying because they are in the same boat as I was.
Sex is a beautiful thing and very pleasurable to men and women, but there is a right time and place for everything. And after you have said your vows in front of a pastor or judge and signed the marriage license...the honeymoon should begin. It is never too late to decide
that you will remain celibate until you get married even if you have been sleeping with every Tom, Dick and Harry in your past. This might assure you that Bob will marry you.
Don't fall for the "Baby, I love you and if you love me prove it to me and lets make love." no, he should prove it to you and wait...not tricking you, lying to you are forcing you to have sex with him. Many men will get it from somewhere whether you give it to them or not so
it is best to stick to your guns and say no and if he can't respect that, it is time to cut him loose and go after a man who will respect your wishes.
Don't ever feel so lonely that you will accept any man that comes your way and do anything he says to keep him around. There are some men who are controlling and they will make sure you say yes to everything they want. Have your own mind when you are in a relationship.
Have your own viewpoint and opinions. Say no and mean it and say yes and mean it. Stand your ground especially when it comes to your best interest. If there is fear in your relationship it is not a good place for you to be. Abusive men hate women and each case might
be different but it all ends up the same, where a woman ends up in the hospital bruised, broken and battered or even dead.
You are worthy no matter what this jerk tells you. You are not ugly and unlovable and other men can be attracted to you. Therefore, you can move on to a man who will love, honor and protect you. Whatever attracted the jerk to you in the first place can be the same qualities that a good man will be attracted to and appreciate it.
Women can be expendable to some men. They hop from woman to woman, changing them like a pair of dirty socks. Some men impregnate many women and have a haram of baby mama's and it is you who he meets and you think that you are special but you wined up sharing the spotlight with four of his baby mama's which a couple if not all might still be carrying a torch for him. He finds this exciting having all these women crazy over him and anytime he gets ready to have sex he can choose which one of his baby mama's houses he will visit when you are sick with the flu and can't go out with him on a date. Hopefully you make sure you don't end up being baby mama number five.
And then there is the man who does not pay child support to care for his offspring. trying to find him is like trying to find a needle in the haystack. The woman ends up working two dead in jobs to take care of her child or children while the man is off scott free living his life and dating other women who are oblivious to his plans to also make them unwed mothers.
A woman can hang on for years loving her man and waiting for that wedding day and a man can turn on a dime and drop her like a hot mess to get with Ms. Hot Stuff. And all of those years invested was a waste of time for you when you could have been giving some other guy a chance. As you pobably can tell this is bothersome to me, because I've been there a couple of times and I hate to see this happen to other women. I just want to shake them and say "WAKE UP!"
The rule should be...if we're not engaged by this time and married by this time... we won't make it at all. I think that within eight months to a year should be enough time to get engaged and start planning for a wedding by your desired date the next year. Who wants to be seven years into a relationship with some guy still calling you his girlfriend?
If a man introduces you to his buddies or family by not acknowledging the romantic nature of your relationship. Either he is ashamed of you, have another girlfriend and he doesn't want it to get back to her that he was spotted with another girl or he just doesn't plan on you being in his life that long and doesn't want you to get too comfortable being introduced as his girlfriend.
Ladies, if you are out on a date and your date's cell phone rings and he doesn't answer it. He looks at it and put it back into his pocket. There is a reason for that. Another woman is on the other end and it is safer for him not to answer it so he will not have to lie to the other woman about where he is or lie to you saying it was his pal Sam. If he gets up and excuses himself
to take a call...he is most likely taking this phone call from another woman in private. If he cuts this date short that is because he has to get to the other woman.
In a situation where your boyfriend is cheap. He is making sure you order from the cheaper side of the menu or making you go dutch or even asking you to pay for his meal. Now ladies. there is nothing wrong with paying for the guy's meal if you invited him out to dinner. A real man don't even like the thought of a woman paying for the meal...it takes away from his masculinity when it comes to showing a woman he can be a good provider. You can give him a choice and if he wants to pay even though you have invited him out there is nothing wrong with it.
My problem is with men who are so cheap and selfish with you but they will turn around and run to their ex-girlfriend who has called him and told him that she needs eight hundred dollars to get her car fixed and he trips over his tongue to bring it to her and he doesn't even want to buy the expensive burger for you at Wendy's...he tells you to order from the ninety nine cent menu instead.
Some men will do for other women that they wouldn't dare do for you, but they will have sex with you all night long if you let them. many men will someday have daughters of their own if they don't already have them and they can't stand the thought of some man taking advantage of their daughters. Every woman or girl is some man's daughter and giving them respect in return will give your own daughter's respect. You know what they say about karma.