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How To Avoid Being Divorced

Updated on January 18, 2012

How To Avoid Divorce


Are you scared of being divorced in the future? Do you want to prevent divorce in your marriage? Then you must start now to take preventive measures that would prevent you from bearing the status, divorcee. Remember, I am not trying to criticize those that have already found themselves in a divorce, but all the same, you can still reunite with your spouse, it’s never too late until it is late. And from what I can tell you, divorce is not a good practice, so I would suggest you desist from it or avoid anything that would lead your marriage to a divorce. If you doubt me, try and read this novel titled, “Smart Women.”

How can you avoid being divorced? Prevent it from happening in the first place. Remember, the best cure in life is prevention, because you wouldn’t have any need to cure a disease you don’t have. How is this applicable to marriage? Read on.

Firstly, what is divorce? In concise English, divorce is a legal termination of a marriage. From my own understanding of divorce, it’s an act that started in the civilized worlds, viz. Europe and America per say, and today, it has spread so wide to all other parts of the world, to the extent that it is now a daily palaver that people have to deal with. I want to also make it known that our modern courts (talking of marriage courts), have also contributed to the abnormal increase in divorce cases globally, how do I mean? The so called legal practitioners of nowadays, have discovered that divorce is one of the easiest ways of making fast money, and so they sometimes collaborate with spouses (especially the females), to instigate a divorce, especially when they discover that the man is rich. They achieve this in many forms- setting the man up with other women to ignite distrust and quarrel between the man and his wife, through dubious enlightenment of the female partner to initiate a divorce in order to make money from her husband. Sadly enough, most nations of the world has favored this unscrupulous act through their biased laws favoring the female parties in a marriage, which most often gives the female parties the inspiration to seek for a divorce when minor case which ought to be resolved in the bedroom arises.

If I have my way, I will scrap all laws empowering married women to seek for divorce because it has never helped the world; instead, it had produced more separated families and homeless children. Haven’t you wondered why there are lesser number of divorce cases in Africa, Asia and Middle East compared to America and Europe? It is as a result of the numerous laws that exist in Europe and America, which were originally meant to protect women, but unfortunately, these laws had acted against nature, and so, created a negative reaction of inspiring more women in the developed world to seek for divorce in minor marital disagreement that ought to have been settled amicably. Take for instance the law that exists in the UK, which makes a single mother to be entitled to a government allowance, why? Such laws can only nurture negative actions amongst young girls, because they would prefer to be receiving regular pay from government for having a child out of wedlock, at least, that would give them freedom from being under any man’s control while being paid.

Anyway, the laws are already in existence, so all we have to do now is focus on how to reduce divorce cases in the world. It gives me pain to see a young person, especially woman who is divorced or widowed, but when you study the circumstances behind their being divorced, you would discover that most are the cause of their divorce.

Now, how do you avoid being divorced as a man or woman? Firstly, make the right choice of spouse; don’t be in a haste to marry, so you don’t jump out hastily. For the ladies, I have already written a hub on how to choose a good husband, find time and go through that hub, it’s very helpful. As for the guys, I would advise that you avoid acting on your instincts when making choice of a wife, remember, it is a lifetime commitment and not dating where you can jump out easily at any moment you desire, and you have to also note that you do not marry a lady out of pity!

If you are a Christian, it would be very wise and crucial that you submit your search for a wife to fasting and prayer. After fasting and prayer, tell God to connect you with your supposed spouse. I used the word, ‘supposed’ because your supposed spouse might not be the one you desire in your heart. Please don’t quote me wrong, your spouse must be someone you desire soulfully, not based on material and other selfish desires which only God knows, and that’s why you must go down on your knees to seek for God’s divine direction.

Take for instance, you desire to marry a star or a celebrity, whereas God has ordained that your spouse will be a normal class citizen, comfortable and okay, and out of your material and selfish interest, you went ahead and married a star, and three years after, you had enough of the stardom, the materials, the wealth, and now start to demand for true passion and love which the partner doesn’t have to offer you, what would be the future of that marriage? This is one of the reasons you must seek for God’s direction when making choice of spouse in life, if you want to avoid being divorced.

Have you tried a fleece before?


What is a fleece? A fleece simply means getting something by trick. But in this context, I am talking of divine trick through the power of God. How? After you must have fasted and prayed, make a fleece by asking God in prayer to direct you to your spouse through a particular means that your spirit directs you to use during your prayer.

For example, you can tell God that let the first man that will shake your hand on a particular day be your spouse. Before you make this fleece, ensure that you are spiritually, mentally, and emotionally prepared to marry, and you have made your way right with God through prayer, you can as well pray with Psalm 51. Try this with faith, and watch out for the result. Believe me, many people have used this tactics to find their true spouse, so go ahead and try it, and please do not hold your testimony when you try. Good luck, we shall continue on the part two of this lesson soon.

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      accofranco 6 years ago from L Island

      @Lady_E, you mean it, 72 days? oh no, that's absolutely crazy, why then did the couple decided to marry at first? sighs, anyway, that's why we must be very sure of who before we say 'yes i do,' thanks for stopping by again...thank you.

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      Elena 6 years ago from London, UK

      A very important Hub - Divorces are not just escalating, but people are so quick to do them.

      The last one I read about - the marriage lasted for 72 days.

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      accofranco 6 years ago from L Island

      @MarleneB, thanks for stopping by with a sweet contribution...thank you. Honestly, couples cannot divorce prayer from their marital life, if they desire to stay together

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      Marlene Bertrand 6 years ago from USA

      Excellent advice. I agree with you 100% about including God in the plan to find the perfect mate. It really does work. It also works when people are falling apart and they pray to God to keep them together.

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      accofranco 6 years ago from L Island

      Sheila Lee, thanks so much for finding out time to read and comment....as a way of answering your question, i would suggest that if you're already divorced and your partner is still alone and you truly want him back, you can begin by initiating communication with him again. start all over again to attract him just like you did at first, i strongly believe you know how you did that in the first place. get closer to his family again and establish communication with them too, and while doing this, let them know (not by words but actions and behaviors) that you are a totally changed person and ready to make a difference and mend past lapses that led to the initial collapse of the marriage. you should also do same for your ex to witness himself. at this stage, initiating communication back is the utmost requirement.

      Meanwhile, you can give him/her books like: Smart Women by Judy Blume, as a gift, i believe strongly it would do a great job. Good luck and work with faith and you will surely win him or her back (if he or she is still alone).

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      accofranco 6 years ago from L Island

      @Sheila Lee, thanks so much for finding out time to read and comment....as a way of answering your question, i would suggest that if you're already divorced and your partner is still alone and you truly want him back, you can begin by initiating communication with him again. start all over again to attract him just like you did at first, i strongly believe you know how you did that in the first place. get closer to his family again and establish communication with them too, and while doing this, let them know (not by words but actions and behaviors) that you are a totally changed person and ready to make a difference and mend past lapses that led to the initial collapse of the marriage. you should also do same for your ex to witness himself. at this stage, initiating communication back is the utmost requirement.

      Meanwhile, you can give him/her books like: Smart Women by Judy Blume, as a gift, i believe strongly it would do a great job. Good luck and work with faith and you will surely win him or her back (if he or she is still alone).

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      Sheila Lee 6 years ago from Canada

      This is hub is great if you haven't found a wife/husband yet. Or if you are still together with someone. OR if you are a woman. But what if you are married and separated? How do you prevent a divorce THEN?

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