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How To Be Kind: 5 Tips

Updated on May 8, 2013

5 Tips To Be Kinder

It is easy to be kind to people who are kind themselves. Not many of us would be unkind to someone like Mother Theresa. However, it is much harder to be kind towards people who are angry, bitter, resentful, or just plain mean. Yet, these people need someone to be kind to them as well. It may make a positive difference in their lives.

A Smile Makes All The Difference
A Smile Makes All The Difference

1. Smile

A simple smile can make you seem like the nicest person in the world. It can literally connect you to strangers on a positive level and help you to gain their trust. And best of all, a simple smile towards a miserable person can change their attitude towards you.

Your smile can infect the world. One smile can cause another smile and another, and it can literally travel around the world in one day.

However, remember that people can instantly tell the difference between a forced smile and a real smile. If they detect a forced smile, then their opinion of you will become one of mistrust. So make sure that you really feel positive before smiling at someone who is negative.

We Don't Have To Agree On Everything!
We Don't Have To Agree On Everything!

2. Acknowledge That Everyone Has Different Opinions

Most people’s anger comes from opinions. They often believe that their way is the only way, and if others go against their way of thinking, then they are wrong. This causes anger and judgement.

Once you admit that your way is not the only way in life, it becomes easier to be kind to people that differ from your beliefs or viewpoints. You can see things from their side and acknowledge their right to believe differently than you. You stop arguing your point and allow them to feel as though their opinions and beliefs matter. You start to treat others with respect and consideration, which is very kind.

It's Easy To Spread Happiness! (This Video Always Melts My Heart)

3. Try To Make Them Happy

Everyone has a goal in life to be happy - including miserable people. The best way to be kind to miserable people is to see their lives through their eyes.

We all want to live our lives in happiness and peace, but if someone is stuck in a cycle of negativity, then they can end up drowning themselves in unhappiness. And because they are so unhappy, they treat others unkindly, and those people, in turn, treat them unkindly back. This adds even more unhappiness to their lives. (Did that make sense?)

If you approach them, however, and offer them a smile, some help, or just some positive words, even if they are mean to you first, then you can help to create happiness in their lives that they want and need.

You can be the kind person who makes them smile. Who knows, you may even bring them out of their negative funk. Either way, they will view you with softer eyes than the average person who argues back or matches their tone.

See video above...

Help Them Feel Better...
Help Them Feel Better...

4. Ease Their Suffering

Just as everyone wants to be happy, everyone also wants to be free from suffering. Suffering can cause people to turn angry and bitter, even if it is just a moment of suffering. If you see someone suffering, then do your best to help ease their pain.

The suffering may not be obvious such as when someone falls down the stairs. In that case, you would know that they could be suffering and run to help.

Their suffering may stem from something as simple as having a bad day or a boss yelling at them. If you can interject and help to ease their pain in any way, then you are being very kind.

Lend a Helping Hand
Lend a Helping Hand

5. Make Their Lives Easier

Struggling in life can cause a person to become angry and miserable (unhappy). If you see someone struggling, and you have the ability to help, then do so.

For example, the old woman who has too many groceries to carry could use the assistance of a younger person. Alternatively, the person at work who has the majority of tasks to do could use a helping hand to get the job done quicker.

Being Kind Makes Life Easier

The above 5 tips are all ways to be kind to people who may not be in a good mood.

Kindness is really about doing something for someone else, when you do not have to do anything all.

Many times, it can be hard to be kind. But, you will find that the kinder you are to people, the better people will treat you.

And best of all, you will feel better about yourself.

Have You Been Kind To Someone Today?

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    • Relationshipc profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Alberta, Canada

      Thanks for taking the time to comment Dan!

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      Dan Weaver 

      6 years ago

      Thanks for this. Very lovely.

    • Relationshipc profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Alberta, Canada

      Thank you for commenting and voting up Maggs. :) I would love to videotape one person in real life who has had a good deed done to them and watch it progress throughout the day. That would be a heartwarming day!

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      6 years ago from Sunny Spain

      An excellent hub we could do with more articles that encourage and build up people instead of adding to their negative cycles.

      Uplifting and inspirational I loved the video I have seen the same sort of things happen many times.

      Voting up and hitting buttons as I go

    • Relationshipc profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Alberta, Canada

      Thanks billy. I had a feeling you would like this one. I have always tried to be kind, even when it went against the norm (picking on someone in younger years) or got me in trouble.

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      Bill Holland 

      6 years ago from Olympia, WA

      You are speaking my language. The title is so important in hubs..I saw this title and instantly read it....not so with recipe hubs. :) Great points!


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