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The Alcoholic Housewife/How to Ditch the Chemical Train of Dependency
Studies show that many successfully driven women and men battle with dependencies. The most common crutch is alcohol addiction.
College men and women, who are struggling to stay in school and work, often turn to alcohol as a relief mechanism. Living in an alcoholic haze is normal for some adults and teens that have a hard time dealing with stress.
It may take years for some people who are functioning alcoholics, to hit rock bottom. Some teenagers admit that they have abused cough medicine and their parents or grandparents over the counter medicine to get high.
However, chemical addiction can get out of hand in a dangerous manner which could lead to blackouts and alcohol poisoning.
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They Say It's Not Lady Like To Overly Drink In Public, Therefore I Do So In Private
The "Good" Housewife
Men and women try to hide their dependency because of what others might say. Sadly women are treated differently from men when dealing with alcohol problems. Society can tolerate a drunken man, but an inebriated woman is distasteful, which is why some women which include stay-at-home mothers tend to be closet drinkers, women who stay at home with the children are expected to be the "Good" Housewife who indulge in alcohol at night when the family is asleep.
Some people believe that men can handle themselves better when it comes to drinking. And women are too vulnerable and can be taking advantage off.
However the danger of driving under the influence is a risk regardless of gender. Men and women can fatally harm another person by over indulging in alcohol.
Chemical dependence has been around for years, women who drink are often divorced, and the fear that women face is the concern for their children, which is why many stay-at-home mothers try to conceal their drinking problems.
The Housewives Private Prison
Psychologist say that alcohol abuse among stay-at-home women can be described as a private prison, in which the addiction controls their lives, ruling over emotions, behavior and set goals. The deceiving fix of world hazed over by chemical dependency fades away, prompting the urge for another temporary fix.
Women that can no longer hide their need for alcohol, begin to cause discomfort n the family unit, which becomes a problem financially and emotionally.
Single women tend to be promiscuous, looking for love in bars, are nightclubs.
How Am I Supposed To Function If I Can't Drink?
According to the American Holistic Medical Association, these are the warning signs:
Do you feel you never quite measure up?
Has your pleasure in life become centered around own substance (food, alcohol, drug) or activity (sex, exercise, work)?
Are you highly self-critical?
Do other people see you as strong, self-sufficient and controlled? (However you don’t feel that way)?
Do you avoid conflict?
Do you feel powerless in many areas of your life?
Do you have a high need for approval?
Do you have difficulty in expressing or identifying feelings?
Do you find yourself frequently feeling responsible for others’ behavior?
Do you have difficulty in forming close, intimate relationships?
Research contain by the association form that you could be at risk of developing a dependency on a chemical or drug related level if you answered yes to five or more of these questions. Contacting advice or counseling is advised.
Did The Alcoholic Mom Stay Sober?
Most Women Who Deal With Chemical Dependency Come From Dysfunctional Families
Most women who deal with chemical dependency, feel guilty, according to research they come from dysfunctional families. Growing up in a alcoholic environment paves the road for children to repeat the annoyance.
Lauren shares that her mother and grandmother are addicted to alcohol. "Due to my dysfunctional upbringing I became dependent on alcohol. Before I knew it, I was divorced and left to take care of four children."
Women often see alcohol as part of the solution, not realizing that drugs, alcohol, and dysfunctional relationships are apart of the problem, simply because they have become immune towards dysfunctional behavior.
How to Ditch the Chemical Train of Dependency
"Moms Who Drink"
Usually it will take a close family member or friend to encourage a person who is dealing with chemical dependency to ditch the bad habit.
Getting rid of the addicting chemical can be a tough process, being that most women who struggle with this addiction have a set time in which they indulge. To cut off their nightly routine is a major turning point in their lives, but it can be done!
Kicking the Habit Has To Be A Stern Choice
Resources such as Alcoholics Anonymous have been successful in helping men and women ditch chemical dependency.
Feeling good about yourself has to come from an inner prompting emotionally and spiritually without the abusing alcohol or drugs.
Most men and women feel empowered after they have kicked the habit. Not dealing with hangovers or blackouts can be pure bliss.
Making a conscious decision to accept whatever life has to offer without leaning on drugs or alcohol can be liberating within itself.