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How To Earn A Man's Respect

Updated on February 5, 2010

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How To Earn A Man’s Respect

A lot of people people wonder about how to command respect from a man. Some women command the highest level of a respect from a man, and some women just command no respect whatsoever. Respect is not always just given automatically.It is important that the highest level of respect is not automatic and not only this, it is EARNED.

So what IS respect exactly? Respect from a man (and from other people) happens when you have value to bring to give! This can be in different forms. There are men out there who won't give respect to anyone at all! These men are the egocentric type.

Before I go in to how to earn respect from a man, it is very important to remember that in order to add value to men (and people in general), you must hold yourself to a higher standard than anyone else could possibly expect of you! If you find this hard, get a peer group that constantly holds you to the highest of standards and who won't let you settle for anything less than you can be!

The highest level of respect from a man (a good man) comes when you are an example of a feminine woman who loves herself and loves being in her natural feminine sexual essence. It comes when you represent a fantastic loving mother, wife, girlfriend, sister, friend, lover, daughter, human being, etc. This respect comes because you are embodying who you are at your core (provided you ARE feminine at your core, some women are more masculine).

If you can be an authentic woman, and not try to become more like men, this gives men the freedom to be men and it makes them comfortable being men. It is not often that women can do this. It’s a rare and valuable skill. Plus, it’s all about how you make a man feel around you. If you are building up positive associations in him, and you make him feel more of a man just by being you, he is going to be VERY drawn to you. Men like women who make them feel like men, and who make them feel comfortable with who they are. It’s also great if you can use your femininity to propel your man to greater heights/achievements. This is adding value! To be honest, no-one respects a woman who has little to offer. Or who offers what is readily available. If you do not inspire anyone, or care for anyone beyond yourself, you're not really going to command respect at the highest level. This goes for getting respect from a man OR a woman.

I have stated that respect comes when you can bring value to the other person. A man can respect just ANY woman who brings value to the table,but if you want to be respected more than he respects anyone else; it is the value that you can bring to the table as a woman that will really command his highest level of respect. This is also how you create passion and polarity in your relationship. By being the yin to his yang. A feminine woman and a masculine man who revel in their sexual essence and who love each other are an amazing match! Men can respect women as humans, yet they can also respect women as feminine souls at the same time as respecting women for all the other things they can bring to the table.

Lots of women out there think that by being 'one of the boys' they will get more love and respect from the men around them. This is not true at all. In fact, men might get confused! How do you interact with a woman who looks like a woman, but actually relates completely to men? Do they treat you like one of their mates, or do they take extra care for you because you're more vulnerable (as feminine women are) and because you're not one of them, but you're a true woman who complements them and appreciates them as men?

All too many women are ready to explain "I don't need a man!" or "I'm self-sufficient and men are useless anyway!". Big mistake. If a man doesn't feel needed by you, he won't feel like your man. Masculine men are stimulated by challenge, and feminine women are stimulated by praise. Respect this difference and learn to LOVE it! Learn to live truly in your feminine core, and get addicted to learning more ways to meet your man's needs, and learn how to make him feel like a man. There's really nothing more pleasurable for a man than to have the feeling of being a man.

How else can you command respect from a man? Take care of him! Do a better job of this than any other woman possibly could. Make yourself indispensable,and let men be men. Do not try to control a man's whereabouts, or obsessively check up on his whereabouts. Learn to trust him. Men want to be trusted. It shows that you rely on him and them allows him to feel more needed and more like a man. If he wants to play golf or cricket instead of taking you shopping or to a picnic, let him be. Understand that he needs to do these things because he is a man.

Give your man freedom. Men have fought for freedom for many, many years. They want it, and it's your job to understand this, respect it and give him this gift, rather than be thinking constantly of yourself and how you need your needs met. After all, he is not going to want to meet YOUR needs if you are not meeting his and making him feel like a man. All men have the right to feel like men.

To be really frank, if you're the kind of person who is always thinking of themselves, you're never really going to command respect from ANYONE. Let alone a man!

Unfortunately, it is increasingly common for women to emasculate their man in relationships by making men walk on eggshells and start to fear them. The bad thing about a situation like this is that men start to lose hope and confidence, and their sense of freedom. They will then start to let their woman walk all over them, and he will slowly begin to resent her. Anyway, no woman wants a man who lets her walk all over him, truly. No matter how much she wants to control him. Deep inside, we can never really respect a man who lets us walk all over him. We respect a man who is strong, ambitious and masculine.

You can command respect from a man by showing up as who you really are at your core - a truly feminine woman who understands men and understands how to meet his needs at the highest level. If this sounds silly,I say it because most women do not realize that just by being a woman does not mean you are feminine or that you ARE worthy of respect! Just by dressing in nice womanly dresses, loving children and loving animals, or enjoying shopping and talking - does not make you a truly respectable woman. Femininity is real if it shows in your character!

You also need to appreciate and understand masculinity. If we can understand men, and appreciate what they bring to the table, and appreciate men for being men, then this helps to build mutual respect as he respects you for what you bring to the table as well.

"Respect is earned, Love is given" - Anthony Robbins

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      Anais 3 years ago

      What does it mean to be "one of the boys"? I mean everywhere I look these days, men seem to prefer women who are ladylike in appearance, yet can drink beer with them, watch porn, curse a lot, are ok with dirty jokes, are good at sarcastic comebacks, etc. It's the opposite of what this article says and still confuses me since I see the opposite around me.

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      Vikas 4 years ago

      Wow. What a wonderful article! You've encompassed everything that a man (like me)really needs. I've always dreamt of having a wife who would treat me like my mum does(the same way it's written in the article). Sorry for reading!!!

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      anon 4 years ago

      Great article Renee. Dont let the misandric people get you down! you are awesome

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      Sarah 5 years ago

      I totally agree with Jordan's comment.

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      Mark G Weller 6 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

      This is so accurate. Thank you

      Voted up!!!

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      Sarah 6 years ago

      There's way more to a woman than her feminine character. Enough said.

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      Jordan 6 years ago

      I'm sorry but respect should be given regardless of gender if it is deserved yes, but also to a degree respect for other people and their own agency and ability to be who they are is KEY. Men who disrespect women are not worthy of my respect just as women who disrespect others are also not. This being said common decency is not earned and should be going around calling women derogatory names, beating on your wife or any other form of abuse is unacceptable and lets not blame women for not being "caring" enough. Women have taken enough flack over the years for being too unattentive to their husbands/ boyfriends...i'm sorry but men are not babies and women are not all designated to be caregivers and mothers. That's just a fact. I have a job and a degree and I seem to do very well with my relationships while refusing to be someone's mother but more their friend and equal and I am also very feminine, not that I think that is important either. Your really generalizing here and trying to make something complex cut and dry.

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      Jerz 6 years ago

      When a woman truly respects a man, he has no choice but to love her, in whichever of it's various incarnations. It's wonderful to know that there are women who aren't constantly trying to compete with men on every plane. A very well-written article.

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      Renee Rose 8 years ago

      Thank You Delores! :) Yes, I think every woman wants a good man.

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      Dolores Monet 8 years ago from East Coast, United States

      You are right that we must earn respect and can not simply expect it. I like how you mention earning the respect of a good man, not just anybody.