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How To Easily Approach A Shy Guy

Updated on January 8, 2017
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Fresh perspective on dating issues compiled in consultation with friends in North America, Australia and African nations.

Tips for approaching a shy man
Tips for approaching a shy man

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How to Talk to a Shy Guy

Guys are often the ones who make the first move when it comes to dating, but this may not be the case for men who are too shy to approach a girl. Shy guys (like all other men) have feelings and are equally attracted to members of the opposite sex. But they may not speak up if they fear rejection and don't know what to say if their offer to go out is turned down. Shy men simply don’t have the nerves or the courage necessary to approach and start a conversation with a girl, despite being interested in her.

If you are attracted to a shy guy and are tired of waiting for him to approach you, it is time to take the lead and express your feelings for him. Start by letting him know you are interested enough to want to spend time with him. Get to know more about him, and watch for signs if he is really interested in you or not.

The most important thing is to open up to him and help him gain confidence to engage in conversations with you. After you get to know each other better, you can talk about the feelings you may have for one another. But the first approach should be building rapport between you.

Many girls find it difficult to approach shy guys they like, but don't fall into that trap. If you are interested in him, reach out! Here's a few tips to get you started.

Do Anything You Can to Start Up a Conversation

He could be your classmate, workmate, neighbor or any other shy guy you happen to meet somewhere but what should you do if you are interested in him and he isn’t opening up to you? That is the million dollar question many girls ask and continue to ask which needs a serious answer. Shy guys are less likely to start a conversation with a girl but that shouldn’t be an excuse not to approach them if you happen to like them. If he is not ready to start a conversation with you due to shyness, procrastination or fear factor, it’s important that you be bold enough and try to approach him by all means possible. What you can do to get his attention is to drag him into an issue and strike a conversation with him. Here are some of the things you can drag him into that can necessitate a conversation between the two of you.

  • Ask him a question or something which obviously you know its answer. If he doesn’t know the answer to the question, you can answer the question and claim that you have remembered. By this time a conversation must have taken place between the two of you and even though the topic of relationship may not come up at this time, it could follow as you continue to get to know one another better.
  • Inquire about or kindly ask whether he can help you in doing some assignment. If he is kind enough he will most likely answer to your call and assist you in your assignment and by the time you are done and say thank you to him, you will have became familiar with one another which means starting a conversation with him the next time should be easy and after that is when you can pursue your goal of having a relationship with him.
  • Ask him about his favorite sport team or the kind of music he listens to. Men love sports and especially football and that could be an opportunity for you to approach and start a conversation with a shy guy. You can ask a question like, which team do you support in the English premier league? Chances are he will respond and his answer could be Manchester united or arsenal. Ask him as many questions as possible on the team he supports and by the time you are done with him a meaningful debate should have resulted that may pave the way for future discussions that can be used to bring up the topic of relationship and how you happen to be interested in him.

Chat With Him Online

Chatting online with him could also be a way of approaching a shy guy. Remember that the online world is anonymous and anybody can say whatever they want because no one is seeing them. online social networking sites like facebook can become a platform for you to approach and have a conversation with a shy guy who is less likely to open up to you in the real world.

Ask Him Out Away From Other People

Another way of approaching a shy guy you are interested in could be your willingness to ask him out or invite to your place. This strategy can work for you but remember to keep him away from the public limelight or any social place. Take him to a place where only you two or few people he can be comfortable with are around. You might enquire from him if he is interested in watching a movie with you in your apartment or place of residence. You can use that time to bring up the topic to see how he will react.

© 2012 Daniel Long


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