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How To Fix A Failing Relationship
Tips On How To Make A Relationship Work
Everyone deserves a happy relationship in life, but it is so unfortunate that majority of people today don’t enjoy this, but why? Simply because we humans are too selfish when it comes to dealing with our fellow humans, especially with the opposite sex. In order words, we must find a way to make it work, and that’s why I have put together this article to assist readers fix their failing relationships, and to enjoy a happy lasting love life with their chosen partners.
Fixing a failing relationship is not so that simple, and therefore, deserves a full attention and dedication from the person who wants to fix his or her relationship. One of the things that make this task a difficult one, is the fact that most often, one partner may be working towards fixing the relationship, while the other is busy planning to start a new relationship with someone else. In situations like this, it is better you let the bygone be bygone, and move on with your life if you have tried all the possible things to fix the relationship, and there is no sign of change.
Share your relationship problems with a trusted friend.
Remember, a problem shared, is a problem half solved, so don’t die in silence, share your problems, the solution might be laying fallow in someone’s brain. This reminds me of a friend of mine who was dating a particular girl for more than four years, and at a time, the girl began to act weird, and my friend started to seek for a solution to his girlfriend’s change in character, and in the process, he shared his burden with me. For the fact that I hate seeing my friends in an unhappy relationship, because I wouldn’t like people to point an accusing finger at me as the cause of whatever is happening, I began to counsel my friend on how to fix the problem in his relationship. Firstly, I told him to sit back and trace when and how the problem began, and then examine himself to find out if there was any way he veered off the right lane. Secondly, I advised him to sit his girlfriend down and talk things out with her, by throwing open-ended and close-ended questions like: why are you acting like this dearie, am I treating you bad, what have I done wrong, do you still love me, do you still want this relationship to work, tell me exactly what I have done wrong and I am ready to apologize and change, please; do you still trust me, what do you think is not working in this relationship, etc.
My good friend did all that I told him, and it was during the course of their discussion that he got to find out that his girlfriend was no longer happy with him because he stopped giving her money like he used to, and that was because he lost his job and was now making due with a part-time peanut job, which the girl ignored. How did she make this known? She asked my good friend, “when was the last time you took me out on a shopping?” “When was the last time you asked after my makeup or welfare in general?” “When was the last time you gave me money to take care of my needs?” and in response, my good friend replied, “Baby, you know what I’m going through now, and you know that I am planning to start up my own business, and it’s for our own good and future, so be patient with me okay?” “So I should die in the name of being patient right? Anyway, I’m no longer interested in managing, for Christ’s sake can’t you see? A pretty girl like me ought not to manage okay? If you want a girl that will manage with you, please I’m not the one, before you turn me to a granny at twenty-six,” she voiced out.
That was how my good friend got to discover that his girlfriend was no longer interested in the relationship, and the cost of fixing it was too exorbitant for him at the time, so he had to let go. In order words, the first step towards fixing a bad relationship is to communicate with your partner, because it helps you to discover the source of the problem and why your partner is aggrieved.
Sacrifice- this is another vital step to take when you want to fix your relationship. You must be ready to sacrifice something for the other person, and remember that sacrifice is something that one does out of pain and rigor. In every failing relationship or marriage, there must be something one partner can sacrifice that would definitely save that relationship or marriage, so be ready to sacrifice something you wouldn’t give out so easily.
Patience- after you must have done all that is required of you; you also need to be patient for the positive change to come. Don’t expect your partner’s negative behaviors or character to change automatically, no, it doesn’t happen that way for many, so learn to be patient.
Re-establish friendship- remember, that relationship started with friendship before love, so in order to bring it back to life, try restoring it to its default state, by reestablishing that initial fondness of friendship between both of you. What are those things that make up a good friendship? You must begin to re-introduce those ingredients of friendship into your relationship, to restore it back to its original state. Remember, friendship demands sacrifice, frequent communication, sharing, mutual understanding, and patience. Therefore, for you to fix your failing relationship or marriage, you must reestablish friendship with your partner to bring back the lost fondness in the relationship. Good luck, and do watch out for the part two.