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How To Text Girls - 3 Common Mistakes You Should NEVER Make When Texting Girls
Even though most guys think they know how to text girls in order to build attraction and interest, many of them regularly commit simple mistakes that end up murdering any attracting the girl might have had.
The worst part is, these are simple mistakes that could easily be avoid. In fact, there are 3 very common, yet very deadly mistakes that guys often make.
I'm going to tell you what they are and also how to fix them. See if you are guilty of some of these pitfalls and make sure to very do them again.
OK, here we go...
<strong>Deadly Text Game Mistake #1: NOT Waiting Until You Get A Reply Before Sending Her More Texts</strong>
You should never send a girl multiple text messages without her first replying back to your original message. The only exception is when your first message did not get delivered and your phone gives you an error message.
Other than that, you should ALWAYS wait until she respond to your first text before you bombard her in box with more messages.
Why, you ask?
Because not doing so only communicate to her that you are needy and desperate. Just like so many of the lovable losers that she'd interacted with in the past.
This is a huge TURN OFF for women!
It lowers your value and gives her power over you. The more you keep texting her without her replying, the more it becomes apparent that she is the prize and you are just begging to talk to her.
Just remember, you just met this girl. Don't give her the impression that you are already picking out the wedding dress.
<strong>Deadly Text Game Mistake #2: Making Your First Text To Her BORING</strong>
The first text message to a girl you just met is the most important text you will ever send her. This is the text that will mostly determine whether she respond back to you, so don't make it boring!
Most guys make the first message they send out look like this:
"Hi, this is John from the club last night. I just wanted to say Hi, and that I really enjoy meeting you...blah blah blah."
Don't do that! It's boring and, worse, it doesn't compel her to respond back.
Here is a sad truth that you must understand...
<strong>You Are NOT Special To Her!</strong>
OK, maybe I didn't have to scream. Sorry about that.
But listen, the truth is, the girl (especially if she's hot) probably gave her numbers out to a bunch of different guys last night (girls do that.) So sending some vanilla text message is not going to make her remember you. And if she doesn't remember you, she won't reply!
Instead you should say something attention grabbing that also relates to the time when you met her. Something like...
"Man what was the deal with that crazy guy on the dance floor last night?! I think he gave me a black eye - John"
"Oh my god. I just realized who you look like..."
Girls are VERY interested in their looks and this statement is sure to peak her interest.
Also, by bring up something funny or interesting that happened last night, you not only remind her who you are but also pull her back to the emotional state that she was in when she met you (and having fun.) This is a very powerful technique and very important for building attraction (more on this in other articles.)
<strong>Deadly Text Game Mistake #3: Sending Texts That Are Too FORMAL</strong>
Remember, you are trying to hook up with this girl, not audit her taxes. So don't send her messages like...
"Dear Stacey, I'm really glad we had a chance to talk last night and I had a very pleasant time..."
Instead, talk to her like you two are already friends. Be playful, teasing, and fun. Don't be afraid to use slang, misspellings, and choppy sentences. (The obvious exception would be if she is foreign or is highly educated and is turned by bad grammar and slang.)
For example, a normal text like, "How is your day going?" could be said in a more fun and less formal way like...
"Hey! Man, I think I just had the weirdest day of my life. Yours must be pretty crazy, i bet."
This message also serve to arouse her curiosity and make her wonder what was so weird about your day.
Remember our ultimate goal is to escalate the texts to this girl to a sexual level so it's best to start off with a playful tone, rather than a formal one.
Now you might be thinking that you'd never make these stupid mistakes, but I can't tell you how many guys I've seen repeatedly make these text game mistakes and...
<strong>Destroy Their Chances To Sleep With So Many Hot Girls</strong>
Don't make the same mistakes. The pitfalls that I've mentioned might sound simple but by avoid them, you can double or triple your chances with a girl.
Also, here's something else that will double your chances of sleeping with the hot, sexy girl of your dream...
PUA Text Game - 3 Reason Why Every PUA Should Master Text Game
Before we get into the nuts and bolts of PUA text game, let's talk about the top 3 reasons why it's so powerful and how it can get you laid like crazy.
<strong>Reason Why Every PUA Should Master Text Game #1: Texting Is "Under The Radar"</strong>
One of the biggest reason why texting a girl is such a quick and effective way to get girls to like you is that texting is very "under the radar."
By that I mean, women are a lot more comfortable with texting because they see it as "impersonal", "low intimacy", and "safe". They are a lot more willing to text and flirt back and forth with a guy they just met (even if the messages are very sexual) as opposed to talking over the phone or face-to-face.
As a result, women will allow themselves to drop their shields and just "have fun." They'll be willing to talk about things that they wouldn't talk about in a phone conversation and share naughty secrets that they wouldn't otherwise.
The impersonal nature of text flirting, allow women to explore fantasies and turn on that they might otherwise feel guilty or embarrass to talk about.
In a way, it allow them to escape the sexual restrictions that society place on them. This "fantasy escape" scenario is a HUGE turn on for women. And guess who will be right there to take full benefit of it?
<strong>Reason Why Every PUA Should Master Text Game #2: Women Are Turned On By Words</strong>
Another huge reason why text seduction is so effective is so powerful is because...get ready for this...words turn women on!
Don't believe me? Just walk into your local book store or grocery store and see how many romance novels are on the shelves. Notice they're not porno movies for women, or erotic pictures for women. No, they're romance novels for women. As in books filled with freakin' words!
In fact, romance novels the biggest selling book category of all time. Why do you think that is?
See it's hard for a guy to understand this because we are so visual. We are turned on by sexy images (girls in bikinis, pornography, etc.), but women are turned on by mental stimulus (i.e. words that stir up their emotions and imaginations.)
And this is where "text game PUA" (PUA stands for Pick Up Artists) like us have a huge advantage. By knowing what to text a girl and just what words and phrases turn her on, we can quickly and easily build comfort and sexual tension.
Don't worry, in my other articles, we will go into exactly what to text to a girl you like to drive a crazy and make her beg you to sleep with her.
<strong>Reason Why Every PUA Should Master Text Game #3: Texting Is The Way Of The Future</strong>
And finally, the third reason why PUA text game is so deadly is because texting is the preferred form of communication nowadays.
Yes, we are entering a new era of our culture where text messaging is the preferred method of communication, especially in the date area.
Think about it. Texting is quick and easy. It's convenient. A woman doesn't have to interrupt her day to answer a text message. She can do while at work or out with friends.
In fact, the idea of secretly playing the "sexual & naughty" text game with you while she's out and around other people is a secret turn on that most women have. That's something that you can use to your advantage. More on that in other articles.
And of course, as mentioned above, a woman are much more likely to engage in conversation with a man she just met via text, because it's so much more casual and safe.
In fact, texting is becoming so popular that I wouldn't be surprise that there comes a day when girls will ONLY talk to guys they just met using phone texts.
And that's why it's so important that you learn how to flirt with a girl over text. If you want to keep up with the rapidly changing time, you must learn things like: when to text a girl you just met, how often should you text her, and what to text her to really turn her on and make her want you.
But fear not. You have come the right place to learn everything you need to know about how to pick up girls using text.
Just go over to http://howtoflirtwithagirlovertext.org and check out all the free trainings and tutorials I've posted. There you'll be able to learn everything you need to know about PUA text game and how to use to to seduce girls.
Texting Girls - 4 Unorthodox Rules For Success When Texting Girls
If you are not having the kind of success with texting girls that you would like, it's probably because you are breaking one or more of these 4 rules.
In this article, you're going to find out what these 4 mysterious rules for texting girls are and why it's so important that you follow them. They might sound counter intuitive and maybe even crazy, but trust me, if you follow every one of them to a tee, you'll have more girls in your bed then you'll know what to do with.
So, with that said, let's cut the foreplay and get to it...
<strong>Text Seduction Rule #1: Always Wait For Her To Reply To Your First Text Before You Send Her More Messages</strong>
This one is a biggie and it's also the most commonly committed. You know who you are!
The typical scenario goes like this:
"Guy" sends "Hot Babe He Just Met Last Night" a text.
10 minutes goes by. No reply.
"Guy" gets nerves. Thinks to himself, "OMG, what if she doesn't like me. Did I say something wrong?"
"Guy" sends "Hot Babe" a barrage of text. Each successive one more approval-seeking than the last.
"Hot Babe" comes back from the shower to see that her phone has exploded with text messages.
"Hot Babe" gets weird-ed out by "Guy's" stalker-like behavior.
"Hot Babe" dumps "Guy"
<strong>Do You Want This To Happen To You? I Don't Think So!</strong>
So don't do what "Guy" did. By doing so, you are only shifting the power over to her side, lowering your value in her eyes, and making yourself seem needy and desperate.
<strong>Text Seduction Rule #2: Match (Or Exceed) Her Respond Time</strong>
This rule ties in with the last one. You should match a girl's respond time to your texts. So if it takes her around 10 minutes to text you back, you should wait around the same amount of time (or more).
If a girl takes 15 - 20 minutes to respond to each of your text, yet you reply to hers the second that you get them, how do you think that is going to look in her eyes?
That's right! It makes you look like a needy dude who has nothing better to do then sit around waiting for her to text you back. Again, this is a turn off for women.
<strong>Text Seduction Rule #3: Just When You Got Her Hot & Horny With Your Sexy Texts...Turn OFF The Sex Talk.</strong>
Yeah, I told you these rules are unorthodox, didn't I?
So if your ultimate goal is to make a girl hot & bothered with your text messages, why in the world would you want to turn of the sex talk just when things are getting good?
OK, hear me out.
See, rarely will a sexy text conversation with a girl turn into full-blown sex.
Yes, she might be a little turned on. But she's not quite there yet.
So what you need to do is pull back a little bit. Change the subject to something more neutral.
Then, a little down the road, you can reintroduce the sex talk again and ramp up the heat even more (more details on exactly how to do this in other articles.)
Here's why this is so important.
Every time you turn on the sex talk and then VOLUNTARILY step back from it, you are making her feel more and more comfortable with the idea of sex and you. You are showing her that you are not some out of control pervert (right?) and that you're not going to jump all over her as soon as she show you the slightest bit of sexual interest.
Therefore, the next time the topic of sex comes up, she will be much more willing to get back into it with you.
Pretty sneaky, huh?
<strong>Text Seduction Rule #4: Try To NOT Be The Last Person To Text Back When The Conversation Is Ending.</strong>
At some point, your text conversation with a girl will come to an end. And when that happens, I want you to make it a point to NOT have the last word.
For example, your conversation with her might go something like this:
You: "Oh wow. It's getting late. I should hit the hay soon. Long day tomorrow."
Hot Babe: "Oh okay, no problem. Yeah I guess it is getting pretty late. K, good night!
You: "Goodnight! Don't you go staying up all night thinking about me or anything"
Hot Babe: "LOL yeah right. You wish! haha"
You should end the conversation right here and leave her hanging.
Notice that you could have just said "Goodnight!" and the conversation could have ended right there. But instead, you added a little tease and baited her to respond back. This way she will be the one with the last word.
OK, I know this sounds pretty childish, but it's actually a very powerful tactic for building attraction.
See, when you don't reply to her last text, it leaves and open loop in her mind. She'll find herself wondering if you'll text her back, or even if you are slightly mad at her.
The point is, she will be thinking about you. And the more she thinks about you, the more she will feel attracted to you. That's just how the human mind works.
These 4 Text Seduction rules are critically to your success as a text game PUA (Pick Up Artist) and if you follow them you'll find your success skyrocketing.
But there is something else you should do if you want to really master this game and that is...
Flirting Techniques - Create Sexual Attraction With A Girl Using This Weird Flirting Technique
You are about to learn one of the most powerful of all the flirting techniques for creating attraction between you and a girl.
Once you master this flirting technique, you'll be able to create powerful feelings of attraction in a girl towards you.
Are you ready to hear what it is?
This mysterious flirting technique is called the "Push Pull."
The ides behind Push Pull is that if you show too much interest in a girl (i.e. give her too many compliments, being to available) she will eventually become disinterested because you are no longer a challenge.
On the other end, if you are too aloof and uninterested, she will get tired of it too and eventually leave to go find some other guy who will give her more attention.
<strong>But Magic Can Happen When You...</strong>
Strike the perfect balance between showing her interest and pulling away and making her wonder. She will be constantly off-balance, not knowing if you like her or not.
This mysterious, unpredictable qualify is very attractive to a women. She'll find herself thinking about you, wondering if you like her, and she'll find herself growing incredibly attracted to you.
A great analogy for this effect is a cat and a toy string. (Some of you might know this as the "Cat String Theory.")
Imagine you are holding a piece of string and dangling it in from of a cat. If you hold the string too far out of the cat's reach, it will lose interest and just start to lick itself.
On the other hand, if you just give the string to the cat and let it have as much as it want, the cat will also lose interest and once again resume licking itself.
But if you keep the string close in enough to keep the cat interested but far enough to make it work for it, it will go crazy for the string. Make sense now?
I love pussy cats, don't you?
<strong>What How Does This Apply To Flirting Over Text?</strong>
Well, whenever possible you want to be playful and teasing with her. Send her messages that both shows that you like her, but also that you like to bust her balls.
Here's an example of what I'm talking about:
"You know, out of all the Stacy's I know (Stacy is her name), I think you are my favorite."
Notice that this statement has an element of pull: you are saying that she's your favorite Stacy. But it also has an element of push: you are telling her that there are other girls in your life and that she is not special.
Here's another example:
"Hey, I was just thinking of you. Wish you were here...so you cook me something and do my dishes."
Again, we started with a compliment and then pulled a bait and switch and teased her a bit. It's important that you put the smiley or winking face at the end in order to soften the statement a bit. Otherwise it might come off as too harsh.
Most guys tented to a have problem with being too nice and too complimentary to a girl, especially to a girl that you like, so the best way to re-adjust is to add in some teasing and takeaways.
If you'd like to learn more about the Push Pull method, head over to http://howtoflirtwithagirlovertext.org and check out all my free articles and trainings. There's tons of additional information on the Push Pull method, as well as flirting techniques in general.
What To Text A Girl - How To Use Callback Humor To Create Instant Attraction
A lot of guys struggle with not know what to text a girl in order to get her to feel that same excitement and attraction that she felt when she first met you.
But what if I told you that there is a technique for texting her that could pull her back into the state that she was in when you two met? You know, the state where she was having fun, feeling adventurous, and most importantly, thought you were really cute. Well, cute enough to give you her number at least.
<strong>Well There Is A Text Flirting Technique That Will Do Just That And It's Called...</strong>
Callback what? Callback humor. It basically text messages that make her remember certain things that happened the night before and thus bring her back into that emotional state that she was in.
See when you met this girl at the bar or club or where ever, she was in a fun, flirtatious mood. But if you were to text the next day while she's at work or doing the laundry, she most likely won't be in the same state of mind. Therefore she will be much less likely to respond positively to you.
So the idea is that by reminding her of something funny, or exciting, or thrilling that happened the previous night, you force her to access that memory in her brain and thus "callback" the emotion associated with it.
Plus, the best part is that she will in turn associate that positive emotion with you. It's kind of like the whole Pavlov's dog thing.
<strong>So How Exactly Do You Use Callback Humor?</strong>
Well the first crucial step is to have a good time with her or at least notice the things that are making her have a good time.
This is where solid game comes in. This is where you use PUA techniques like Push Pull, or humor to create a positive feeling and build attraction. After all, if you want to make her remember the good time, there has to be a good time to remember!
OK, so assuming you got the first step down, the next step is simply to send her a text that reminds her to what happen. It's best to use specific examples here.
Don't just say, "Hey, it's Joe. Sure had a great time last night!"
That's too vague and it's won't trigger anything. You could still just be some random dude she just met last night.
Instead try to reference a specific event or thing.
For example, you could say something like this,
"Man, how crazy was the bar last night? Remember when you got on stage to dance, and almost slipped off? LOL"
Assuming she had fun dancing on stage, this text will put her back into that excited state and mostly likely make her smile as she remembers it.
<strong>Another Great Way To Use Callback Humor Is...</strong>
Nicknames. Giving her a nickname is a great way to anchor in the feeling that she had when you gave her that nickname.
Now, whenever you call her by that name, she will be automatically remind of the circumstances in which she got the name.
It also serves the purpose of creating a playful dynamic between you two.
And on top of that, it will sub-communicate to her that you two are very close and friendly. I mean, who else would have a nickname for you except people who are very close to you?
An example of this would be if she is very athletic and like to go rock climbing and whatnot, you can give her the nickname Tomb Raider.
Then later, you can text her a message that reads, "Hey Tomb Raider! What kind of trouble are you causing now?"
Again, notice the playful tone of the text. Having a nickname for someone almost forces you to be playful with that person. So if you're like me and have some trouble loosening up with a girl at first, giving her a nickname can be a great way to get the ball rolling.
And if you want to get even more training on exactly what to text a girl, just make your way over to http://howtoflirtwithagirlovertext.org and check out all the free tutorials and articles I have over there.
How To Get A Girl's Number - A Simple Rejection-Proof Method To Get A Girl's Number
If you've ever found yourself talking to a girl you like and wanted to know how to get a girls number without risking rejection, then this might be the most important article you ever read.
Getting a girl's phone number is a crucial step to a seduction, especially a text game seduction. Without it, you can't really make anything happen.
But most guys are afraid to ask a girl for her number because they are afraid of rejection. Understandable. I've been there. But guess what guys...
<strong>Getting Her Number Is A Lot Easier Than You Think!</strong>
Girls give out their numbers all the time. In fact, if you are talking to a girl at a bar or a club and you guys are hitting it off even decently well (AKA she hasn't mace you yet), give you her number is not that big of a deal to her.
So don't be afraid to try.
But, in case you are still nerves, I'm going to give you...
<strong>A Rejection Proof Way To Get Her Phone Number</strong>
First I'm going to assume that you and the girl are already taking and things are going pretty well. She's smile and laughing and all that good stuff.
So assuming that you guys are hitting it off, your next step is to get her to qualify herself to you. This basically means letting her prove to you that she is someone you would be interested in.
<strong>You Can Do This By Asking Her The Question...</strong>
"You know, you seem like a really cool person. I'm curious. What would you say makes you different and unique from all the other beautiful women out here?"
This question accomplishes many things.
First, you are showing her that you are a man of standard. Beauty alone is not enough for you.
Also, you are subtly pointing out that there are many other beautiful women around you and that she is not the only one. She's got competition.
This have the effect to shifting the dynamic of the interaction so that you become the prize and she is chasing after you.
<strong>This Is A Very Powerful Attraction Builder.</strong>
So now that you've ramped up the attraction, it's time to go for the number.
Start off by saying, "You know, I told myself I would never do this again. But you're starting to make me want to break my own rule."
This will arouse her curiosity and she will ask...
Hot Babe: "Really? What rule is that?"
To which you will respond...
You: "Well, I promised my self that I would never ask for a number from someone I just met at a bar/club. You almost never meet "real" people in these kind of places. Just a lot of phonies, you know?"
She will most like reply with something like this...
Hot Babe: "Yeah, I know what you mean."
But no matter what she says, you next line will be...
You: "Well? What do you think? Am I going to regret breaking my rule for you?"
If she says "Yes" then she is basically calling herself a phony. So her likely reply will be...
Hot Babe: "Haha, no, I think you're pretty safe there."
Then you smile and say...
"Well alright, you convinced me. Here. (hand her your phone) Just punch in your number."
The beautiful thing about this method is that is really is rejection proof. You've set things up in such a way that if she says "No" to you, she is basically insulting herself.
Now the key here is to keep the tone casual and lighthearted. It's just a phone number. Don't make her feel like she's handing you the deed to her house.
Just practice this script a few times until you got is down pat and then go out there and try it. I guarantee you'll be happy with the result.
And if you want to boost your chances of success with a girl even more, make sure you head over to http://howtoflirtwithagirlovertext.org There you find even more free articles on how to get a girls number and so much more.
How To Text A Girl - The Right Mindset To Be In When You Text A Girl
If you have the right mindset about attracting girls, you will automatically know how to text a girl and exactly what to say to make her want you. If you don't have the right mindset, you will constantly be struggling to come up with what to say. And even if you do end up saying the right things, she will sense your congruency and lose attraction for you.
That's how powerful the right mindset can be.
So at this point you might be saying...
"OK, that's great! But What The Heck Is A Mindset?"
A mindset is a set of ideas and belief that you hold in your head and it dictates everything that you think and do.
Here is the right texting mindset for how to text a girl.
Have the attitude that she is having a boring, uninteresting day and you are here to cheer her up and make her smile.
Although you are not going to do it by being super overly nice and kiss her ass. Remember, you are a high status man of value and you are doing her a favor by texting her and adding value to her life.
Think to yourself, "How would I act if I had 10 hot, beautiful girls in my life and I had my pick of any of them?"
Would you stress out if she didn't respond to your text right away? Would you sit by the phone and check it every 30 seconds to see if she has gotten back to you?
Of course not!
You'd just send her a fun, playful text and then *in a cool, deep black guy voice* get on with your bad-self!
You could care less if she texts you back or not.
Heck! She could be fighting World War III over there and that's why she can't text you back yet. Or maybe she's just not interested in you. Either way, you don't take it personally and you stay cool.
And most importantly, remember that she's not the most important thing in your life. She still has to prove to YOU that she's someone worth spending time with and you're still not sold on her yet.
If you're in the middle of something and she happens to text you, you don't just drop whatever you are doing just to text her back. No, you do it when it's most convenient for you. You have other priorities in you life. You're a busy guy, remember?
Keep think about these attitudes and beliefs. Remember them. Internalize them. Become them.
If you can take this frame of mind when texting a girl or even interacting with women in general, you will find yourself effortlessly being able to know what to say or do next. And best of all your success with women will skyrocket.
But that doesn't mean that's all there is to the game.
In fact, you should really check out the other great trainings I've posted over at http://howtoflirtwithagirlovertext.org. There you'll find all the crucial tips, instructions, and information on how to text a girl.
How To Text A Girl You Like - When And How Often To Text Her
One of the most important parts of how to text a girl you like is to know when and how often to text her. So, in this article, I'm going to be answering the questions, "How often should you text a girl?", "When to text a girl you just met?" and, "What to do when a woman doesn't respond to your text?"
OK, let's address the first question...
How Often Should You Text A Girl?
First off, let me just say that I know how easy it can be to get all worked up about texting a girl, especially a girl you really like. You get really excited and want to text her every chance you get.
The problem is by being so invested in her you are already on a fast track to needy behavior and this will only push her away. It's important to have the right mindset so that you can keep you cool.
With that being said, the key to texting a girl is not to overdo it. You don't want to be texting her all day, everyday. Even if she text you back every single time, it still lowers your value and make it seem like you have nothing better going on in your life.
Now I'm not saying that you should never reply to a girls text right way. You can. Just mix it up a little bit and keep it unpredictable. Sometime wait 10 minutes. Sometime wait an hour. And sometime just leave her hanging.
Let Her Have The Last Text
That's right. When ever possible, you should let her have the last word in the conversation by not replying to her text. By doing this you leave and open loop in her mind and it gets her thinking about you, wondering if you'll text back.
Another good rule is to match or beat her respond time. If it takes her 15 minutes to reply to your text, then you should take 15 minutes (or a few minutes more) to reply to her. Childish? Yes. But it keeps you in control of the interaction and it works to build attraction.
Here's another tip. Don't text a girl between the hours of 8 PM and 1 AM on Friday and Saturday. Why? Because those are going out time for most people and texting her at those hours will make it seem like you don't have anything better to do on the weekends.
When To Text A Girl You Just Met?
There might be some controversy over this, but I think you should send your first text to a girl within 24 hours of you meeting her. If you wait any longer than that, then you risk her losing some of the attraction that she felt for you when you first met.
Also, it's a good way to avoid the awkward, "Who is this?" text back from her.
Ideally, I like to send her a quick, fun text after 5 to 10 minutes from when we just met. It keeps the momentum of the interaction going creates a dynamic where it's natural for us to text each other.
If you worry about this coming off as too eager, don't worry! As long as your text is casual and playful, you won't have this problem. Just follow the guide lines that I've set out in my other articles.
What To Do When A Woman Doesn't Respond To Your Text?
This can happen sometime and it's no big deal. Just don't give up.
Here a good rule to use when a woman doesn't text you back:
If she did text you back, wait a day then text her again. Still no response? Wait two days, then text her back. Still no response? Wait three days, then text her back.
And the important thing to remember is that your text to her should not be needy or angry. In fact, the attitude to take is that you didn't even notice that she didn't text you back and just start the conversation with some random thread.
Now if you want to learn more about text game, you should head over to... http://howtoflirtwithagirlovertext.org and check out all the free trainings I have over there. You'll learn everything you want to know about how to text a girl you like and get her to like you.
Texting A Girl - A Foolproof 3-Step Formula For Asking A Girl Out Over Text
For many guys, texting a girl to ask her out can be a very nerve racking thing. They're afraid of being shot down or not know the right way to ask.
Well, in this article, I'm going to teach you a simple 3-step formula for asking a girl out that will not only dramatically decreases the chance of her saying no, but can actually get her to ask YOU if she can go out with you.
I'm sure you can't wait to learn this formula, so without further ado...
Foolproof Way To Text A Girl For A Date Step 1: Find Out Her Plans
The first thing you need to do is ask her what her plans for the upcoming week are like.
This where the vast majority of guys shot themselves in the foot. They start off by saying something like...
"Hey what are you doing Saturday night? I want to take you out to this to this sushi place."
The problem with this approach is that she can very easily say that she's busy that day or something similar and then you are stuck.
If you come back and propose another day to take her out, you instantly lose massive value in her eyes because now it sounds like you are desperate to go in a date with her. BAD!
So the best thing to do is to make her tell you the times when she'll be free and then you can pick and choose the date.
Just say something like, "Hey troublemaker, what night are you free this week?"
Foolproof Way To Text A Girl For A Date Step 2: Sell The Heck Out Of Your Plans
The next step is to tell her about your plans. Remember, you are not inviting her to anything yet. All you are doing is casually mention this cool thing that you are planning on doing. As far as you are concerned, at this point, she is not even a part of it.
Oh and did I mention that this plan of yours happens to fall on one of the dates that she is free? Don't miss that part.
Now the key here is the sell the heck out of it and make it sound like the coolest thing in the world. Make it sound so cool that she wishes she could go.
Most likely, when she hears you describing your plans, she'll say something like...
"Wow! That sounds great!"
Foolproof Way To Text A Girl For A Date Step 3: Invite Her To Come Along
And the final step is to invite her to tag along. Just don't sound too eager. Act as if the idea of bring her just pop-ed into your head and that you are doing her a favor by letting her come.
You can say something like...
"Hmmm, come to think of it, you sound like a pretty good partner in crime. I'll tell you what, be ready at 7 and I'll pick you up. But you have to promise that you can hold your liquor." (Here you can give her some other challenge that is more appropriate for the situation.)
The best part about this tactic is she is almost guaranteed to say she because she has already invested herself by telling you how great your plan sounds.
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What To Text A Girl You Like - 7 Deadly Pitfalls To Avoid When Texting A Girl You Like
When trying to figure out what to text a girl you like, there are 7 pitfalls that you should keep in mind. Most guys screw up their chances of attracting a girl by committing one or more of these 7 mistakes, but after you read this article, you will never be one of them.
Deadly Girl Texting Pitfall #1: Don't Try To Impress Her Through Text
Don't try to write a bunch of things about yourself that you think is going to impress her. Save the long war stories, accomplishment list, and general DHV's (demonstrations of higher value) for when you two are face-to-face or on the phone.
The purpose of texting is to flirt, build comfort, and be playful. Writing long messages that boast about yourself will not only not impress her, but it will make you seem insecure.
Deadly Girl Texting Pitfall #2: Don't Write Super Long Text
This rules ties in with the last one. Remember, the person who invest the most effort into the texts is the one that's most invested in the interaction. By writing super long text to her, you are only showing that you are overly invested in her and that often comes off as needy.
Try to keep your texts short and concise. The impression you are trying to sub-communicate is that you are a busy guy who almost don't have time to text her.
Deadly Girl Texting Pitfall #3: Don't Ask Too Many Boring Questions
She is use to guys asking her all kinds of generic questions so you definitely don't want to come off as just another guy. Plus too many questions are annoying.
Instead, phrase your questions in a more interesting way. For example, instead of, "Hey, what's up?" you could say, "Hey brat, what are you doing...besides obsessing about me? lol "
Deadly Girl Texting Pitfall # 4: Avoid Slangs, Abbreviations, Or Misspellings With Foreign Women
If the girl is foreign and doesn't speak perfect English, try no to use any slangs or abbreviations that might confuse her. Be a little more basic and to the point.
Deadly Girl Texting Pitfall # 5: Don't Multi-Tread Your Text Messages
A lot of guys will ask multiple questions in the same text like, "What are you doing tonight? Oh, btw, how's was work?"
This is called multi-treading and what usually ends up happening is that girl will respond to the last question and ignore the first one. And if the first question is something important, well then you're just out of lucky.
So don't multi-tread. Wait until she answer your first question before asking the second one. Just remember to keep your generic questions to a minimum.
Deadly Girl Texting Pitfall # 6: Be Sure To Sign Your Name In The First Text That You Send Her
If the girl didn't save your name on her phone she might not know who you are, so be sure to sign your name at the end. You might also want to add a little descriptor of yourself like, "Joe from the concert."
By doing this it avoid the awkward "Who is this?" text that can kill some of the momentum.
Deadly Girl Texting Pitfall # 7: Avoid Using Too Many Capitalization
Excessive caps and punctuations like exclamation marks and question marks can make your messages seem overly excited. This can come of as needy, so try to keep the caps and heavy punctuation to a minimum.
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